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Old Jan 30, 2015, 11:23 AM
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Hey guys. I'm 19 and few days ago I posted here asking if I should email my therapist about some thoughts I've been holding in for the past few months. After reading all the answers, I decided to do it. So I sent the email and got a response and now I regret everything. I wish I didn't tell her, I wish I never even sent the email. Now she knows so many things that I've kept to myself for YEARS. It doesnt feel right at all and I wish I could just go back and undo everything. What do I do ? She wants to discuss it next week but now I dont. Should I just quit?
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Old Jan 30, 2015, 11:33 AM
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No! Working through those feelings is part of the process! It feels really scary right now, but it will get better. When I was younger I had the same issue. Did not trust anyone and did not share my feelings, inner thoughts, etc. I worked through it and now see thst it is normal to Share your feelings and I feel so much better! You will be ok! We are all in this together!
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Old Jan 30, 2015, 12:01 PM
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Hi AnxiousGirl, I'm sure it doesn't feel like it right now, but to me that seems like a really positive move, and so well done on managing to do that??!!!
I know it may be hard right now........having made yourself vulnerable, allowing someone to see the most private of things, having everything seem so much more "real" with someone knowing and not even knowing how they are going to treat that information/you........but it can really all be part of the process of working through things and for some things you do need support to work through them.
Now for her discussing things next week........just remember it's a two way process and you don't have to discuss anything you're not comfortable with, you have as much control over what goes on as she does.
But perhaps for now, if you want to, you could pick one or two things from the email that you are a little easier talking to her about and then just let her know that you're not ready to go into everything yet but for now...........
And just remember your T should be really sensitive to what's going on/gone on for you.........she shouldn't be lecturing you, trying to force things out of you, pushing you into talking about things that are going to be traumatic for you without giving you plenty of support and only when you're ready, and she shouldn't be judgmental.
So hang in there, give her and yourself a chance, and really well done!!!

Alison
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Old Jan 30, 2015, 12:46 PM
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It took courage to do that! Now keep being brave and go through with it.
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Old Jan 30, 2015, 02:41 PM
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Hey guys. I'm 19 and few days ago I posted here asking if I should email my therapist about some thoughts I've been holding in for the past few months. After reading all the answers, I decided to do it. So I sent the email and got a response and now I regret everything. I wish I didn't tell her, I wish I never even sent the email. Now she knows so many things that I've kept to myself for YEARS. It doesnt feel right at all and I wish I could just go back and undo everything. What do I do ? She wants to discuss it next week but now I dont. Should I just quit?

It takes a lot of strength to do that. I think you did the right thing. Do you know how you were expecting her to reply? Maybe you could share that with her when you talk next week. I think it's healthy to let go of things, even if that just means telling a therapist. I wish you the best with moving forward in whatever way you decide <3
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Old Jan 31, 2015, 11:47 AM
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I like all the nice replies in this thread.
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Old Feb 07, 2015, 12:33 PM
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If you don't want to discuss the things in the e-mail, I don't think you should. You can wait and let your anxiety settle and then see if you want to discuss anything from the e-mail. I think it was brave of you to write it.
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Old Feb 07, 2015, 12:40 PM
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You only regret it now because you don't know what will happen. I sure when you meet with your therapist you'll realize that it's all okay and you'll won't regret it. Hope that helped
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Old Feb 07, 2015, 08:25 PM
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You are so brave!!!! Think about it: your T is a professional and is trained to help you through things so it is not like u shared with some gossipy neighbour! Hugs to you

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