Obsessed with looking attractive

No you don't need to be good looking to attract women. They might get interested in what you have to say and in your character. And many like shy. I know I do. Never went for good looks.

Sure they have to feel attraction but that's nothing to do with looks

That's maybe why you should try online dating. You can express yourself through words first and they will like you as a person. You have nothing to lose so try it. And talk to your therapist.

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Ok, I agree that if a girl has feelings for a guy on a deeper level, then physical flaws won't make a difference. But let's say we are talking about superficial attraction, like if a girl doesn't really know me but she is attracted to me because she thinks I'm cute(which has happened before). Is it reasonable for me to believe that having a mole would get in the way of that? The mole is not huge like the one Enrique Iglesias had, but it is still visible, and since it is on one side of my face I can't help but feel like it makes me look asymmetrical.

Oh please. My daughter is completely asymmetrical and she is happily married.

My boyfriend has Tourette's. Trust me that your mole is nothing compared to that. He is awesome.

Man I hope You start seeing a therapist. Your obsession with looks and superficial stuff is unhealthy

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Shadix, if you're fixated on it then get rid of it. But honestly, if someone was going to be that bothered by your mole do you even want to spend time with them? If your answer to that is "yes" then well.... I really wouldn't know what to say to that!

Any relationship starts with a superficial attraction - no one will have a deep connection with someone else until they know them. And guess what? Plenty, PLENTY of people with "imperfections" can still attract someone to them before there is any deep connection. Because they put themselves out there. They interact with others instead of just watching them.

Trust me I would get this thing removed in a heartbeat if I could. But like I said, there is apparently a complication because my skin has tendency to scar. If I get it removed, there is a chance it would leave a visible scar. I basically got shafted.

Why would I pass a negative judgment on a girl because she isn't attracted to a guy with moles? People can be attracted to whatever they want. Yes I would still want to spend time with a girl of she felt that way. But the question is, would she be ok with me showing interest in her even though she finds me and my mole physically repulsive?

What sucks is that just over a month ago, before this mole became noticable, I had good reason to believe I had the looks that lots of girls would find desirable. Even though I was socially awkward and older than many of the girls I liked, I could still feel somewhat confident about my looks. Now all that seems to have gone out the window. With this mole on my face I feel like it is much less likely for girls to find my looks desirable and that now I've got nothing. I am even ashamed to show myself in front of girls who saw me before the mole and may have been attracted to me. I feel like now they will be like "ew...nevermind that."

Just when I was becoming more confident about my looks. This really sucks.

Please see a therapist. This is getting increasingly unhealthy and detrimental to your well being, obsession with your own and other people's looks and anxiety I mean, not the mole. No one cares about your mole. No one thinks moles are repulsive. Just you do. Please talk to your therapist about what you share here

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