[sinking]

all the negative feelings you can imagine of, im feeling them and cant shake them off from myself. please help

[Gaar]

Hello, sinking. Have you thought about therapy? Cognitive Behavioral Therapy deals with cognitive distortions and automatic thoughts in an attempt to challenge and positively modify the negativity you speak of.

The links provide much more information:

In-Depth: Cognitive Behavioral Therapy | Psych Central
Psychotherapy - Psych Central

More information:

15 Common Cognitive Distortions | Psych Central
Fixing Cognitive Distortions | Psych Central

Change is required to help you manage the negativity and achieve a better life. Good luck.

[winter4me]

The only advice I can give is DO SOMETHING, Anything----get busy to get away for a while....
It is hard to do, I know, I have to chase myself around in my head to get moving, but when all the bad things are right there, it is the only way----Like waking from an awful, emotionally wrought dream---part of you wants to stay there, to figure it out dammit, to work it out but really, the best thing is to get up, wake up, and ignore it for as long as it takes (don't worry, it'll still be there when...)---
Do something physical, or routine (cleaning), or creative (collage those feelings, paint them, ....)

[PianogirlPlays]

I struggle too. Busy helps but resting, lying down listening to a book or something while looking out the window helps too. Also getting outside to see the trees and flowers helps focus and breathing the fresh air.

[sinking]

i dont feel i need distractions right now. i feel i need to go at the core of the problem and elaborate it seriously and then i'll feel better, no need of distractions.

could this be a path to follow?

Originally Posted by sinking

i dont feel i need distractions right now. i feel i need to go at the core of the problem and elaborate it seriously and then i'll feel better, no need of distractions.

could this be a path to follow?

I suggest not to think too much about "the core of the problem". Our brains don't stop working, so the best thing to do to stop the negative thinking is to do something. Distraction is a good strategy to lift your mood.

Originally Posted by Gaar

Hello, sinking. Have you thought about therapy? Cognitive Behavioral Therapy deals with cognitive distortions and automatic thoughts in an attempt to challenge and positively modify the negativity you speak of...

...Change is required to help you manage the negativity and achieve a better life. Good luck.

I can't agree with this more

CBT requires a lot of work - which is of itself some measure of distraction - but teaches you how to challenge those negative thoughts and core beliefs and strategize new thoughts and resulting behaviours accordingly. It is probably the most imporatant tool in my own box of coping mechanisms.

It might be worth it to invest in a CBTworkbook. What I will say though is that it is really important that you take your time working your way through it and aactually follow through with completing the homework.

In the meantime here is one very helpful CBT worksheet I often do.

Complete a list of Evidence For a situation being negative Vs a list of Evidence it isn't

[sinking]

Thanks, but i disagree with distractions. there must be something going to the core of the problem and solve it instead of letting it be there and just ignore it. right?

[Thunder Bow]

Your depression has an self re-enforcement feature. Thinking negative thoughts about yourself is how depression re-enforces itself. Comparing yourself to others is a short cut to feeling bad about yourself. Your depression is like an old friend that is hard to say goodbye to. It has a survival value for your mind. That is the core reason for all the negativity. Time to say goodbye to all that negativity by being determined to heal. Healing does take time.

[sinking]

Tha core of the problem is that life HURTS and and all the negative thoughts i have is because of it so i want to spare myself that sufference by non living

In my occasions there are some automatic thoughts that come to my mind, but I try to modulate them because they don't serve me any good. Try to challenge your thoughts.

[sinking]

thanks, im trying to do this with my DBT T but its HARD. i cry every time

I understand. It is hard to change. It is OK to cry. Just keep trying and don't submit to your thoughts. Do you think treatment/medications has helped even a little, and what are your therapists' evaluations of your situation?

[sinking]

no, meds havent helped at all, nor did Therapists

[winter4me]

You can learn to let go of the pain while living.
The question is becoming: Why is it more comfortable to cling to the pain that you make the core than to turn away from it?
What would happen if you did something else?

[winter4me]

Why is it more comfortable to cling to the pain incessantly than to let it go, even for a while?
You can learn to let the pain go only while alive. What are you afraid would happen if you took a different path than the one you have chosen?

Hi Sinking. I found this website full of all kinds of downloadable CBT worksheets:

CBT Worksheets For Therapy & Self-Help PDF | Psychology Tools

My favourites are:
Mood Logs - which work on cognative thought patterns
Catastrophic Worksheets
Evidence For/Against

As for distraction my favourites are touch and smell.

[sinking]

Originally Posted by winter4me

The question is becoming: Why is it more comfortable to cling to the pain that you make the core than to turn away from it? What would happen if you did something else?

Winter4me, thanks, you really made me think. i think its become a part of my identity. the core pain. part of who i am and what i want for myself (a part of me wants to commit suicide). iof i let it go, im afraid nothing will remain.

Rcat, thanks for the worksheets, i'll look at them.

[Thunder Bow]

Originally Posted by sinking

Tha core of the problem is that life HURTS and and all the negative thoughts i have is because of it so i want to spare myself that sufference by non living

Focusing on life's hurts is how you stay depressed. You can change that if you really want to.....It is up you.

[sinking]

Sorry, but i dont believe its that easy, or nobody would be depressed

[Thunder Bow]

Originally Posted by sinking

Sorry, but i dont believe its that easy, or nobody would be depressed

No quix fix...It takes determination to break that old habit. But you can break that habit. I know it is scary to leave that old friend depression, but when you do, life will be much better for you.

[sinking]

Thanks, i just dont know from where top start of even if i want to start.

Possible trigger:

my plan A is suicide

[Fizzyo]

((((((((Sinking))))))))

[winter4me]

Originally Posted by sinking

Thanks, i just dont know from where top start of even if i want to start. my plan A is suicide

Dump plan A for now. Think of all the energy this takes & pick Something to put that energy into-----it doesn't matter what it is right now---seriously recommend immediate physical activity (ride a bike or walk to work if you can) and a craft/hobby type activity (look for a meetup or class in your area and force yourself to go...) --wash the car by hand, start a garden indoors or out...run till you can't anymore...
We all get to die. You won't miss out on this. You have been around a while now and you Know that it isn't always this bad, even if you have a helluva time recalling anything positive right now.
You are a librarian? Any gatherings at the library? Events? Places you could decorate/set up displays/something you could start?

[sinking]

i dont want to do anything. i want to wallow in self pity and pain and die of it