Scared of crying and embarrassment..

I have to take my pet to the vet's tomorrow and I fear we may get bad news.. She's really old already and hasn't been well, and I'm getting ready to possibly having to say goodbye to her.

The thing is, and this feels a bit ridiculous.. I'm really dreading that I'm going to cry at the vet's! For some reason, I find crying in public really embarrassing.. I'm trying to think vets have seen plenty of people cry given their line of work and probably know how to react sympathetically, but I still just hate that feeling of embarrassment and feeling like I'm weak.. Eurgh. Wish me luck!

So sorry for your impending loss. I know it's embarrassing to cry, but you are probably going to do it. We had our beloved dog put to sleep a few years ago. Our vet had cared for him since he was a puppy. Even the vet cried when he passed, but it was peaceful.

aw, I am so sorry about your beloved pet. So hard.... cry if you need to -- vets are very experienced with these things and see it all the time. I just hope they are sympathetic and caring towards you. (((((Hugs))))))

Sorry about your pet Nothing to be ashamed of about your crying. I'm sure you're not the only one, it's totally understandable.

I do not like to cry in public either...Yet if it is bad news about your pet...agree to let yourself cry....it is a measure of Love for your pet that you would grieve...it is not a weakness...and my friend is a vet assistant...yes people cry at the vet's....I think animals love us more than most people in our lives...

When I go to funerals or where I know someone will be crying...I take beautiful antique handkerchiefs...and give them out...saying...some tears are too precious to throw away...so take a lovely handkerchief with you...and go ahead and weep...lift your tears into the cloth...it holds them...and gives you a barrier in the sense that there is a measure of it's placement between you and who may be looking....I can't explain it...yet it works...I have the handkerchief I wept in when my father passed away....it was full of my tears....and it is an odd thing...in that the bit of cloth...takes and it gives...

I am so very sorry that your pet is not doing well....It is not weak to love...it is an emotion of great power to love....I have known cowboys that have loved their horse and it has passed away...and decades later talking about that horse they start crying....Love stays with us.....may your heart find comfort in the memories of that love....

Thank you all so much for your compassion, support and wisdom <3 I'm still hoping for the best but preparing myself for the worst..

I know it's silly of me to think crying is a sign of weakness.. I think it comes from growing up in a family where my dad never cried and my mom would do it in secret. In our everyday lives, we were meant to keep a stiff upper lip. They both also reacted badly to my crying - dad would ignore me and mom would get upset and angry. I never learned it was OK or even safe to cry..

But I do agree, deep down, that it's a sign of having cared for someone.. And I'll try to think it's just a natural reaction to getting those bad news if indeed I do.. It'd probably be more weird if I did not cry in that situation. I'm also just so grateful for having had this little creature in my life, she has meant SO much to me! I'll try to focus on that as well..

Good for you for giving yourself permission to cry. Best wishes for your vet's visit. Sending big hugs.