How are you coping today?

I guess I am coping and that is better than not coping.

I'm new to this thread, and I'm not coping very well at the moment. I just moved my youngest daughter back to university for her 3rd year - on the West Coast (I'm in the Midwest) 2 weeks ago. I stupidly screwed up my finances b/c I mis-judged my savings to take this trip....and now I'm suffering financially and will take a few months to fix! And...my oldest daughter just moved to Colorado, literally one hour ago, taking her sweet doggie with her (my beloved granddoggie). He can't get on a plane and come visit me! I am heartbroken; happy for my daughter and glad that she's going after her dreams, but very sad that I can't see her very often and my little doggie even less often. I am happy that I have blessings in my life, a job, a roof over my head, friends, but I haven't felt this alone in all my life. I'm trying to just breathe. I rarely post here (or anywhere) but just feel so alone and sad......

I am coping well considering I am really tired physically.Also my arm just above the hand is inflamed and I have pain in it,I think I have developed arthritis.Apart from the physical stuff I am also depressed and anxious most of the time,so considering all that I think I am coping well.

Today, I'm sort of feeling low. I think it's because I allowed people to take advantage of me for so many years and I never once said anything. So I'm learning to finally stand up for myself, which I think is a good thing.

Not really. So aggravated with my all too unpredictable husband who does foolish but meant well things that really throw me off. Needed a seemingly simple errand run and the next thing I know there is confusion and anger and pain and frustration because he messes with the simple. I asked for one thing and he thinks what about this other. Ouch, trying too hard!

I wish I could be numb. I'm tired of feeling things. I'm tired of constantly being let down, getting a brief moment of bliss, then being right back where I was or worse. I so rarely get to be happy or even neutral that I wouldn't be missing out on much if I never felt anything at all ever again.

I’m, dare I say, happy. I’ve gotten into a daily routine that is healthy. However, my husband and I are trying to give more time to fix the relationship issue and not move straight to divorce. I’m feeling very blessed for this opportunity. Scared, fairly doubtful, but grateful.

I am coping just about,though I am low today and tonight,I am not happy,I have been low for the last three months,worse that usual,and I have been having mood swings again and I have been irritable and moody,quite bad moods!

coping well,

just a few tiny flashbacks and in pain (a lot of pain), but I'm not actually doing much so I don't have to worry about overdoing it

had my shower and that was enough.. knew I couldn't do anything else today.

Coping but I am not happy or well I am in deep depression,I want a 100 days in the Maldives,with carers looking after my needs,regular massages and lots of male companionship,booze,sun,sand,beach....but I guess I will just have to want cos I won't get!

okay I guess,

not good, not bad

I am just going through the motions today

Glad you're coping well with the theft. My day was pretty good. Did everything as per my routine. Accomplished my to-do list tasks and just relaxing the weekend off.

I am doing an Abigail

for those that don't know (I doubt anyone knows what I mean), Abigail is someone who shouts and complains when things aren't how she wants

so I've adopted this saying for myself... if I'm throwing my toys out the pram, or having a meltdown, I'm " doing an Abigail" (it sounds sort of cool right?)

anyway my reason for doing an Abigail is that I've just looked therough the freezer and I've discovered that most of the food I want for dinner next week, isn't even in the house

I think out of all the menu choices, I only actually have one of them.

I doubt an online shop will cut it.. it won't arrive in time, so I'm probably just going to have to choose other stuff to eat

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i feel a bit anxious as there is supposed to be a storm today in our area. not the hurricanes coming but the remenants of it. i can feel the pressure system coming in as i had a huge migraine headache for 5 days now. it does seem to have subsided but my ears are still ringing.

Struggling a bit but coping,I am a bit emotional,I need help with my emotions.

I have coped okay today.

even my chronic pain's been quite low too

I handled today well...but it was my day off to spend doing what I like,I went and saw a film at the cinema and ate fish and chips at the pub.

I am coping okay with my emotions, but I'm very depressed.

(learning that I can be emotionally stable, but still feel really depressed)

Putting on imaginary electric shock collar and vowing not to fight with him didn’t work. I can’t cope with feeling invalidated by him. The wounds will never heal. I told him what to say, but he still just defends himself. He does that obviously because he truly thinks he didn’t abuse me and doesn’t feel remorse or compassion for me. Even at the cost of his marriage, he couldn’t even say what I wanted to hear. Feeling sad I couldn’t cope with being with this infuriating person. Even if I tell myself that he did nothing to me, that it was all me with a disorder who manufactured this push/pull, I can’t cope with not getting what I need. There’s nothing I can do to change my response. I didn’t get hysterical. I didn’t SH. I can control my emotions to go so over the top that it looks like a disorder. But I can’t control my injured dignity which makes me end this toxic marriage. I certainly tried everything I know. I said I would accept him for as he is with no expectations of him changing. But I can’t handle him continuing to act the exact same way every time we have the same conversation— even after I put the words in his mouth I want to hear and rehearsed him— he won’t say them, he defends himself.

Yet when confronted, he says he knows he is at fault and he did hurt me, but he won’t say that when it comes up, he defends himself.

I was able to ground myself and back down. I know he won’t give me what I want and I am able to accept that. Doing better now. No hysteria, just a few tears and snuck two Benadryl. I think they really work.

I am weary,the hard work never ends if it isn't my own chronic illnesses it is looking after my elderly and infirm mother.She needs help with everything,toilet,eating,washing,she needs food cooked or her,to be helped up in the morning and put to bed at night.We have now carers come in to her four times a day,but when they mess up we have to step in.Carers are meant to come in twos today I was there and only one turned up,she had come from 20 miles away to do half an hour with mum and then go back twenty miles but she had not been briefed as to mum's care needs and complained half an hour wasn't enough time to toilet her and feed her and she refused to spoon feed mum saying it isn't written in the care plan and she doesn't have time.If I wasn't there she'd have left mum without lunch.My sister and I stress about the carers not turning up,or new carers turning up and not having a clue what they are doing like what happened today.

I was there luckily so could step in,it makes us stress and it scares mum if the carers don't have a clue and are stretched for time.I want to help but I am not meant to do the care work cos I am ill myself,all I can do is visit mum socially and bring some food when I make meals for myself and visit I take healthy food for mum to eat.It is tiring doing that and visiting her two or three times a week.I gave up my life for her in the past.I want to live for myself now but her needs are greater.My sister says no don't do it let the carers sort it and I say yes,visiting times should be after the carers have left cos when they turn up and things go wrong and we are there the office don't bother sorting it they leave it to us and the carers expect us to tell them what to do instead of bothering to find out mums needs.Like they are meant to know from the office what the care needs of each client are before they turn up the office are meant to message their phones but they don't bother.It makes me angry and sad.

I am tired and it is exhausting,and the worry is making me ill.Why am I always the one has to sort it,but also my sister has much more responsibility,she deals with the care agency and shops for food for mum and sort her bills and money it is a full time job and she has done it for 10 years so if I can help I want to.But I am ill myself,it is so hard,I can't say no to mum when she says she needs company and can't be alone all day.
Mum just came out of hospital a week or so ago,when the carers settle in I am going to limit my visits to two a week,this week I am doing 3,Before she went blind I was visiting mum once a fortnight or once a month,it is tiring going twice a week.We are going to try and see if mum can attend a day centre once a week so she gets out and has company.

I am very sad I want to help but its hard and I need to have compassion for myself too.I was at mum's all day today.dealing with a stroppy carer and texting my sister who was upset about it all too.I didn't like what I had to cope with,I coped,but inside I am dying over it!

pretty much the same as yesterday

coping okay but very depressed

Me too,same as yesterday.Except today was slightly better,I visited mum and it was ok cos the carers did all the work of looking after her today.

felt crappy today but went for a long walk and i feel better now thanks you excersise

I am tired,getting through the day with little energy,just going to the cafe for a coffee and to see a film this afternoon.Come home and do the massive pile of washing up in the sink and make food.