How are you coping today? #5

I am glad that you found it

I just want today to be over with.

honestly, not much of a fan of new year's eve- never anything good to look back on. always negative stuff

every year

for so long

and it's exhausting

I'm waiting on my mom. I don't know what's taking her so long. It's stressing me out. She won't answer my text messages. I'll give it a few more minutes.

I'm doing decently today. Besides feeling like crap as I normally do. My mom came in my room and was all like "hey I think Betty White just died." And I immediatly started cracking up laughing. And I said "someone has got to be pulling a hoax". Theres no way she'd die on New Years Eve 2021 3 weeks before her 100th birthday. Its such a horribly perfect way to end a horrible year.

Then I found out it was actually true. Man what a big final punch in the gut to end the year. I'm almost wondering if she you know... they said like 2 days ago she was in good health and ready for her 100th birthday. I don't know. I don't believe in conspiracy theories but the timing is just too perfect.

I'm sad about Betty White.

I'm not coping well. I'm a failure. Another year gone by and I have done nothing. Maybe I need to make a gratitude list. I did walk around the block this past year.

I sometimes feel like that, but then I realize that I have more than many others have. I like your idea of a gratitude list. That seems to help me more than the downward or upward comparisons.

The fact that you faced some of your fears and did a lot to cope well with many hard feelings and internal conflicts is something to be proud of. Those are huge accomplishments! Many people aren't as far along in the healing journey as you are! Sometimes I lose it at times, even though I may appear verbally as someone positive (I'm really not; I'm more pessimistic and paranoid than ever in real life or behind the scenes).

I don't see you as a failure. I see you as someone who has been hurt, and as someone who needs more love, care, support, and opportunities.

Here's to a better new year!

I'm mostly using distraction when I can. I think it will be easier when sunshiny weather & warmth return.

@SprinkL3, thank you! It would be nice to walk around the block again today but I don't trust the weather. Maybe on the next sunny day when my knee feels good.

I guess I'm just a starving artist at the moment. It happens. Maybe one day I will have my big break. I keep hoping.

You do seem positive and helpful. I think that counts for something. Thanks again.

I feel really bad today even though I promised to feel good especially on New Year’s Day.

By chugging zero sugar sodas and iced teas trying to wake up. No luck though. The sodas arent even making me anxious because being lethargic is just outweighing the anxiety. Normally 3 Mountain Dews let alone the other stuff causes my anxiety to go sky high and its like a 5 valium day. Right now I'm lying in bed too tired to even get up to take my normal afternoon meds.

Having a good day, no drama here. Watching Downton abby and enjoying a down day. Tomorrow will start removing Christmas decorations and cleaning. But today is just relaxing 😎

We got our decorations down and tidied, I always find New Year a bit sad for lots of reasons so I was a little anxious today. I’m okay though and I’m back at work tomorrow which is probably for the best.

(Just in case someone needed to see this today -> see above)

I am doing well! I feel great!! I am losing weight and look great. I try to be healthy by eating less and eating vegetables. I am happy and hope this year goes well too!! I am hanging in there. I know my limitations and try not to exceed them. I am happy with my life. I am free, independent, healthy, and stable. I want to earn more money though and am looking for another job. But, I am happy with what I have also. I think this year will be better than last year. My resolution is to stay away from dating men who don't have my best interest in mind. I had enough of men who use and abuse me. I am better off alone and am happier. So, I am grateful for everything in my life. I could be greedy and ask for more but in reality, I am doing quite well and am very comfortable the way I am. I hope this year goes well for me and everybody else!! Happy New Year!!

I'm wondering if my severe fatigue is partially due to my new Downey calm dryer sheets. But dryer sheets making me this lethatgic seems kinda silly. I've been coping well besides not feeling well. My anxiety has been fine. Again maybe the dryer sheets? My depression has been off and on. Right now its just the hives hot flashes that are an issue and my nausea and middle of stomach stomach pain. The pain is bad right now but if I can just wait until the morning when the kids are hopefully back at school and my doctor is in then I can figure this out. I have not taken my geodon yet or turned on my music and I am close to passing out already. I had a mountain dew at 3 and caffeine at that time isnt really good for me. But today it just gave me the energy to quickly take a shower for the first time in 2 days.

These hot flashes are the worst right now.

I guess, over all, I coped ok today.

I'm coping by staying busy and taking care of myself and my cats.

@Breaking Dawn - my friend, I hope you are feeling better! I am glad you are coping okay today! I hope you thrive tomorrow - and the day after that, and the day after that....

You are not alone in the struggle!

@Deilla - I do the same - cope by staying busy. Distractions really do help, as does building mastery (doing a task and finishing it, and then being proud of your own skills put to work to accomplish a goal).

Self-care is tough when we've grown up with reminders that self-care meant neglectful parents who weren't there to other-care toward us (other-care = parental care for children, in my own vocabulary). I used to struggle with self-care a lot, but my struggle has dissipated a little. I do self-care now as a form of respect to myself, healing, distraction, and coping.

I wish I had cats to keep me company! Actually, I wish I had two birds, two cats, and two dogs. But I can't afford that right now. Perhaps one day though.

I'm glad you have your fur babies to keep you company!

Here's to a better day and year for all of us and our fur babies!

I once had some sort of itchiness and eczema happening on my chest and in other areas of my body. One of my providers had suggested that maybe it's my dryer sheets. Lo and behold - they were right! I had just switched to a scented one at the time, and I tried out a different brand. It turns out, that brand was giving me skin allergies. So I had to quit that brand.

I hope you feel better and get well soon, @Mountaindewed

@bpforever1 - I hope this year is better for us all!

Congratulations on all your accomplishments, including being healthier, losing weight, and having good goals for your future! The right partner is out there, but I think your redirection will be the healthiest approach yet! Perhaps without trying, your love will come to you instead of you finding it - and, you will be able to discern whether or not the person is right for you. Don't forget the wingmen (both wing ladies and wing men and wing nonbinary persons) to help you ascertain whether your partner is a good fit for you! Many healthy relationships blossom through the getting to know one another's friends and families as the next and/or final steps in the relationship - often before marriage or partnership. Without those important steps, isolation of the relationship ensues, which isn't healthy. Healthy relationships mean retaining good friends and sharing them with your mate. Sometimes our friends also help prevent a bad relationship from going further by offering the warning signs we sometimes get blinded by earlier on in the relationship. The sooner you introduce your friends, the better! Let them be your wingmen in times of need!

Best wishes on your new year and return to work, @Discombobulated

I hope this year is a great one for us all - one filled with hope, healing, and new adventures!

I felt pretty fatigued and blah on my first few days into the new year. I hope the rest of this new year turns out to be better than your first days, and with good and hopeful surprises, healings, and adventures!

@Buffy01 - I hope you feel better!

@Nammu - I do a lot of relaxing on the first days of the new year!

Best wishes on removing the Christmas decorations and cleaning! I plan on more cleaning and organizing soon - beginning today!

Here's to a fresh new year with hope, healing, and adventures!

(See you on the Thread Wars forum. )