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Nov 10, 2009, 08:46 PM
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I am both anxious and depressed at the thought of getting older. I am on the wrong side of 25 years old and feel washed up and old. People have told me that I can pass for 23-25 years old.
These are just some of the things which have me so anxious and depressed since my birthday is less than a month away: > No boyfriend or husband > No children > Still in university trying to get a degree at my old age > When I do get married and decide to have children I will have to go on different medications so that they do not harm the fetus. I am not looking forward to the withdrawl side effects and the potential to have a manic episode... I just feel so left behind in life. All my friends either are married with children or have something special in their lives. I have been in the mental health care system since I was 23 years old and that was many years go. My birthday will be depressing because it is a constant reminder that my Mom isn't alive. She passed away in Jan./99.   
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Nov 10, 2009, 09:03 PM
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Zen , I don't know about you , but I concentrate way too much on all the things that I think are going to make me feel happy and put joy in my life.
Thinking this way makes me feel worse. It's like a never ending cycle of desiring things that others have that seem appealing to me. Maybe I would be happier with someone to share my life with . I tell myself this is the answer to my lonely boring life , but is it really. I don't know because I am only thinking about it , not actually doing it. The key is to try and be satisfied with what we now have and except that . I've known this for years and still continue the same poor old me routine. There's always going to be someone that seems to have it all , but do we really know how they feel . I bet it is not all joy and happiness . If you really take a look at what you have and try not to compare it to others , you would most likely feel better about YOU Zen. Life really isn't as bad as it seems . It's just when we want or desire or whatever what others have , that's what makes it tough. For me anyway. Please take care of yourself Zen , you really are a special person . Luv, Babysteps
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Nov 10, 2009, 09:13 PM
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Zen
You are part of something bigger than you know and I hope tht I am apart of it as well Sometimes we just have to have faith that things will and are happening for a reason. The more we look back the less we see of what could be in front of us. You are lucky that people think you could pass for someone much younger and that you are doing a university course (I for one will never have the chance to do that as many other people wont either) Dont go building road blocks for yourself these days a woman or a man can be socially and prsonally sucsesful without partner / man or woman. Jumping into a relationship just for the sake of it can have disasterious effects when things go wrong (trust me I know) Just be the loving self that you are and I know you are and let life play itself out . Take stock of what you have now and enjoy the moment l love and all the other pieces come to you rather tan running after them. I  you for who you are
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Nov 10, 2009, 09:45 PM
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Hello, Zen!
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Here's to you, Zen! May you soon see what you've sown blossom. May good and joy run to you. 
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Nov 10, 2009, 09:54 PM
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((((((Zen888)))))
I understand what you are saying, I used to feel the same way but let me tell you as a much older person than you that you still have a lot of time to get all those things you want. Everyone has a destiny, there is no set agenda, things happen when they are supposed to, one day at a time! I lost my mother when I was very young but I always felt she was my guardian angel protecting me and cheering me on, I am sure your mom is watching over you and is very proud of what you have become
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Nov 10, 2009, 10:00 PM
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(((((((((((((((zen))))))))))))))
i know how it feels ..iam 25 years old 2 weeks ago and i have no life no bf ,still in college and strugling with my health condition ... and iam sorry about your mom , i think she always there watching over you its never to late to start zen...here for you
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Nov 10, 2009, 11:45 PM
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Zen!
What I would give to be 30 again! Well no thats wrong! What I would give to LOOK 30 again!. You are still young and have many years ahead of you. Women in their 60's are giving birth these days, even older. And if you look at it the way I do it does help...24hrs since the day before is NOT a year... I understand the missing of your mother. I miss my Dad and Grandmother to tears every day and that happened over 28 years ago. I do hope good an happy come to you...just know you are not alone and you sure as heck are not old! ((((hugs)))) Rhiannon |
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