I don't know who to turn to right now...

Sending you comforting,warm hugs (((Turquoisesea))) - what's making you feel bad?

(((Turquoisesea)))

(((((lynn))))) (((((babysteps))))))


It's really a mix of things.

I think the main thing is that my boyfriend is failing/has failed his finals. This puts a lot of things in jeopardy. For one, his degree (this may cause him not to get one at this time). I also don't know if this changes his living situation next month - if it does it changes MY living situation next month. Not to mention I love the guy and feel for him.

The living situation being up in the air (we've been looking for a roomie) has also put a lot of stress on me.

I feel very stressed to get home for christmas. I was expecting my boyfriend to come with me (and help with the driving/keep me company) but due to his cats he can't come. So I"m nervous about driving 5.5-6 hours back home tomorrow all by my lonesome.

So I guess the main thing is my boyfriend, my fears for living situation and next year's schooling (I'm afraid I"ll mess up).

When I write it out like that it doesn't seem so bad but it FEELS 10x worse.

ps - lynn I like your little picture that says what matters most is how you see yourself xD

I've had a lot of days like that lately and am passing along a ton of hugs to you!!!

We'er always here to listen....

Thanks for sharing ((Turquoisesea))) - I hope things falls into place and all the uncertainty fades away. Re signature picture - thanks I like it too - may we all find the noble lion in us.

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I'm sorry that you are going through such a stressful time. I am a worrier myself and find that it is the not knowing that eats at me, the "what ifs." I guess I just try to take things one step at a time, one day at a time, as things come. I hope everything works out for you

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I hope you are able to get all those things figured out. It can be really scary not knowing what is going to happen with your housing. It is one of the most important things to have.

I just saw that you had posted almost at the same time I did and thus I did not see your response.

For starters, anything that is bothering you and that your stressed about is important and it doesn't matter what it looks like on paper. Stress is not something to be taken lightly and and right now your under a lot of stress.

Finding a roommate will be hard with the holiday's upon us, I'm actually trying to do the same thing and it is hard to find a roommie that will "fit". Have you tried your local Craigslist? I have had great results from using CL but, you do have to be a tad picky at times. It's just a thought if you haven't.

Can your BF retake his tests? Sometimes if you go and talk to the professors it is possible...or can he retake the class? Maybe his student advisor can offer him some suggestions on how to "fix" things so his degree isn't in jepordy? Most professors don't want to see their students fail, and if he is going to stay over the holiday's at school maybe, just maybe, they will work with him?

And as far as traveling by yourself, try to think of it as an adventure, I have traveled all over the states by myself, and while it can be boring sometimes, it can also give you time to reflect, plan, and get to know yourself. It also has a way of teaching us to enjoy our own company and if we can be happy with ourselves, we can be happy with others. Just make sure your car is ready for the trip. Check your oil, tire pressure, make sure you have a spare. All those things to keep you safe. Is boarding the kitties an option so he can go? Maybe another friend that is staying behind can keep an eye on them? Again, Craigslist can be useful in finding another student who needs some extra Christmas cash and is willing to come in a couple of times a day to feed and play abit. You could even put a posting up to request just that...it's not as exspensive as some believer, and maybe that could be your present to him? Can you take the kitties in a cat carrier and bring them with you?

These are just some suggestions for options....I hope at least one helps...Tons and tons of

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((((Turquoise sea))))))) Sweetie, you are having such a hard time of it. Please try to step back a little bit and get some distance when you feel like this. I know it's so hard to do, but you won't be able to get important things done whaen you are so upset about what is happening with your boyfriend. making decsions and weighing possibilities become so much harder when you're depressed, everything feel like it's not going to work. concentrate on what you both CAN do instead of what you can't change. Hang in there. Huggggs, and I'll be thingking of you.