I think we lost Ian

That's too bad. I kinda liked him.

Ian - if for whatever reason you're still reading these posts, can I just say this? How you felt about the online hugs is normal. As you read, there are several of us who think the touchy-feely posts in this forum are just... not our style. But a good social skill to know is that you do not HAVE to express disgust every time you feel it. Sometimes you can keep it to yourself, especially if you feel disgust at someone else's well-intended actions. Otherwise, you'll find yourself alienated more often than you'd probably like.

I'm not saying you have to like everything that other people do, but just try not to hurt people's feelings. Nobody likes to be criticized, especially those who are trying to be your friend.

Lastly, try to assume that people have good intentions. I don't mean that you should be naive and ask a stranger to hold your wallet for you. But in cases where the other people don't have any reason or benefit to lie or be fake, then don't assume they are - give them the benefit of the doubt.

Because that's what we keep doing for you - we're giving you the benefit of the doubt that you have been hurt and that you have a difficult time trusting others, and that sometimes you lash out when you feel attacked, but that really, inside, you're a good guy that deserves a 2nd, or 3rd chance.

Ian is going to be a-ok!

Yes. He is moving on. That is ok.

He reminded me of my youthful turmoil. A bit of my own two boys, as well.

A bit abrasive, but nothing he can't get over when he figures it out. A lot of us were self engrossed at his age, and beyond.

Hugs? Well, we don't know his history. Hugs might be akin to abuse. I am sure some of you might understand. It took me a long time to accept and give a hug without a lot of baggage.

Bumper sticker: Wherever you go, there you are

Hugs, in reality nothing more than parentheses typed on a screen, aren't his only problem. We've all been teenagers and we've all been and some of us are still are self engrossed. That's not reason to be rude and hurtfull or to call names. The boy definetly needs to be "socialized" and have a reality check! This isn't the place for it!

<font color=blue>This above all: To thine own self be true. --Shakespeare</font color=blue>

I agree, we have all suffered and still are in some cases, and in many,worse than others but that does not mean one should ridicule well meant intentions.
" Hugs"
"darkeyes"

In giving advice seek to help, not please your friend
SOLON

You can't judge others without giving them the benefit of a doubt...........which we all did for him, but did not receive in return.

I think you're all terrific.........xoxox

He sent me a message and asked me to pass it along. He left because someone he lives with got on this site and read his posts, and it sounds like he freaked out over the personal information getting into the wrong hands. If you want to know more, PM me. I don't have much, but he said he was sorry and he did feel like this was helping him, and it wasn't because of anyone here that he left.

<font color=blue>Life is filled with tragedy; if you let it overwhelm you, you cannot enjoy life's innocent pleasures. -Robert Heinlein</font color=blue>

Well that makes a little more sense.. But why did Doc John erease all the post from him ?? If I do not need to know, just tell me and I will drop it ok..
I just hate to see anyone leave the fourm, we have lost so many over the past few weeks..

Our "family" of help is all leaveing..

<font color=purple>The way to love anything is to realize that it might be lost.
- G.K. Chesterton
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Thanks for this info., Wendy = I hope he does well in his future = he has a lot of strengths and potential.

<font color=blue>HI FROM PEANUT </font color=blue>

Ian asked Doc John to erase his posts because he didn't want people in his real life to have access to that information. Also, there is information that I'm not supposed to post to the boards per Ian's instructions, but I think he intended it to be passed along to people who care about him.

<font color=blue>Life is filled with tragedy; if you let it overwhelm you, you cannot enjoy life's innocent pleasures. -Robert Heinlein</font color=blue>

I would assume if he had personal information on the posts that he didn't want people to read that he asked Doc John to delete his posts.

Thank you for answering me, I had talked to him a few times, was concernd when all of his post were deleted by Doc,

Thank you..

<font color=purple>The way to love anything is to realize that it might be lost.
- G.K. Chesterton
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ok, that makes sense..
Thank you ever so much.
Tell Ian, I am sorry, he has been hurt so bad. and that I hope he is doing better now..


<font color=purple>The way to love anything is to realize that it might be lost.
- G.K. Chesterton
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