No emotions

Hello everyone. After everything that has happened I am still having trouble with no interest in our home, him, or anything really. Its like I go through the motions of things and do my have to's but only that. I still dont trust him. He still doesnt open up to me and talk about what has happened. He hasnt been to therapist in a month or so, which scares me. Im afraid that he is still doing things that I dont know about and just doesnt tell me. His thought with me is if there is something that he knows i wouldnt like then he just doesnt tell me about it. He feels that this is not lying, just keeping it from me, like begging the police not to come here when he was being questioned and/or arrested. I wish he would be honest with me but after all of the lies I wouldnt know which was truth and which were a lie. I just feel sort of dead inside in my life in general, but especially in our relationship. Why cant i feel like i used to and have interest in cleaning the house, doing home projects, etc. Tomorrow is Father's Day and I have no excitement over what to get him or any plans yet. Just no interest. How can I get myself out of this. I take 50 mg of Zoloft a day, which helps my depression some but............... Is this depression or something else? I dont call my friends or sisters as much since he came home, partly because we used to fight over my telephone calls, but I have no interest in talking anymore. What is wrong with me?

You feel emotionless like blah. But somehow when your saying him, its him as husband? Relationships ain't easy but you've just got to work up and build them. If thats the case and he doesn't open up to you. Have you try to tell him how you feel. Maybe a bit of relationship conselling could be the case. If your having a tough time trying to understand eachother. Feeling like you don't want to talk anymore is abit like because you open up to him cause you trust him. But he doesn't do kind of the same. That might make you start to feel lonely. Still if you want to have a chat go into the psych chat room so that you can meet others. I'm not good about relationships because I've never been in a long term relationship before in my whole life. I hope that you could convince him into getting relationship conselling. {{{{{{imscared}}}}}}

Yes him is my husband of 15 years, two kids later. He was arrested for 2 battery charges, what he actually did was touch unconsenting-unknown females in two public places, which is called frotteurism. Then lied to me about it all. I received a phone call from an anonymous female telling me the truth. I made him leave and then let him come home a month or so later, but i still am having trouble being in the relationship. I guess I avoid my feelings or something. I just wish i could be happy again. Today is really a down day after a down week. I need to clean the house, its a mess, but i have no interest in doing this, but have to. I dont feel like I care what my husband does anymore. I dont trust him to tell me the truth. He doesnt communicate his feelings about anything. He things saying I love you takes care of everything but for me it doesnt. He has told me that all along but yet was out touching other women and then lied to me about it, how can he love me?

I hate to tell you this but he doesn't seem to be trust worhty at all. If he's making you this unhappy then I would try to sort something out. It's like you are been treated not as a wife but a house tool and baby sitter and your not by the way. Your a caring loving mother and wife, that shouldn't be treated like this. If you told him you feel like he doesn't even care about you and won't spend good time with you and the kids then maybe he shouldn't be a husband or father. It sounds like romance is missing the relationship. He says he loves you? But what does that mean to you when he goes out for fun with other girls. Not exceptable at all! Has he kept doing this still behind your back and if he is what do you want to do about it...? I'm listen.