[FreeSpirit6]

I threw myself into raising my beautiful family 2 daughters and a son and husband for 22 years. Then my ex started messing aorund and my 6 year old son died in my arms after a long horrific metabolic illness. that was 4 years ago. I have so much anger in me, mistrust of people,prefer being alone, I feel people use you and no one is really interested in trying to help you. I am rock bottom.I was a stay at home mum, now I have been thrown out into the world alone to fend for myself, I am doing it and proving to myself, I can do it, but I work from home and get depressed often. One minute I am happy and all is well, then the next minute WHAM! I hit bottom again. I also suffer from the most incredible migraines for the past year, and Dr have put me on mild sleeping tablet and mild anti depressent. when do you reach a stage when you are happy to get up in the morning and start smiling and are happy insdie again. I am under so much stress just to support myself and my daughter of 22. how do others cope with depression

[wi_fighter]

Hi FreeSpirit6. Welcome to Pysch Central.

Wow! I can't even relate to what you've been through. Is losing a child even something we could ever get over?

All I can say is that, for me, just taking my medication is a huge help - 20 mg of Celexa. I wish I was in therapy to deal with my reluctance to interact with new people, though, but being uninsured doesn't let it happen easily. I also work from home, so I don't have daily interaction with people either. I have a really hard time striking up conversations with strangers, thinking I can't possibly have anything worth keeping their interest over. Not having real life friends is a huge part of my depression, but I'm at a loss as to how to go about meeting new people.

But, like I said, medication makes a major difference for me. It keeps the downs from almost incapacitating me, but I can still experience the good feelings. Maybe you need an increase in medication if you're on a low dose.

(((((((((hugs))))))))))

[Miss_A]

Welcome... I am sorry for your lost, you have the right to be angry though remember its your not fault! Well people do sometimes use you in life and that when we learn to trust certern people. No matter what your never alone! What medication do you take? I'm on fluextine (prozac) But how you cope with depression? First accept that depression is a phase in yourself. Try sports e.g. badminton, swimming, jogging. No matter what skill your at it good. Eat healthly ceasur my favourite. Get to bed on time the latest is ten pm. Keep hygine levels up. But a bit of make up. Talk to people! {{{{{{{Freespirit6}}}}}}}

[(JD)]

Welcome Freespirit to psychcentral. We have posted many things about how to cope... you can do a search of the Depression forum when you figure things out here, and get even more responses and ways, ok?

I have major depression. If it weren't for my T.. well, I wouldn't be coping at all. He's the only person who is consistently reliable and supportive. IMO it takes someone like that to begin to reinstill faith in the human race. Keep putting one foot in front of the other. What med and how long are questions I would ask concerning when... meds take monitoring and adjusting and sometimes changes.

I'm sorry you needed to find psychcentral, but I'm glad you're here! TC

[JPicklemom]

Hi, everyone.

This is my first post. I am having a lot of trouble coping with depression right now, too. To make a long story short, I'm a widow of 6 years (we were really happily married for 23). I've used work inappropriately to "fill the void" as I never had children. I can't imagine how awful it would be to lose a child; I'm so sorry for your loss. Right now, I'm tending to isolate, and realizing that people I thought were friends were users. I'm not sure how to make meaningful connections with people, although outwardly, it must appear that I'm socially o.k. A close family member has also recently "let me have it," and is now out of my life.

It helps just to know that others are struggling, too. Anybody have ideas on how to go about making REAL friends? How about keeping energy levels up & sleeping at night.

Sounds like there's a lot of wisdom among you guys!

Thanks -

JPicklemom