The Feelings We Feel.

The hate we all feel is very much a part of us all, we all hate sumting and or sum1, now why we hate is a different story, u can hate yourself or u can your neighbours or u can hate your parents but the big thing is we all do hate, and hate is a very bad thing but it can also be very good for u at the same time, imagine a child who is being abused by their parents or parent in time that child will grow up and begin to realise that what their parents did was wrong and hurtful and they will hate them for that and that hate will allow them to get on with their lives for they will hate was done to them and therefore not do it to their own children, but not all hate is good their is the bad hate, the hate which festers within us all, waiting for the opportunity to surface and hurt all those around us, now that hate is the hate that we all need to acknowledge before it surfaces, we hate its apart of who we are and what we have became, to say u feel no hate is say u are dead, the feelings we feel are all natural and that is the main thing to say u feel hate is to really so u are alive, for it is human to hate and that hate is sumting that will really get u through the day but so will love and love above all other things is the most important feeling that u will ever feel, unfortunatly sum people cannot love and all they know is the hate that festers within their soul, so it is up to the people who can love to reach these hateful people and show them that to hate is bad and to love is the best part of life, its what sets us apart from the animals, but there are just sum people who cannot love and they know is hate, and they are the people who we all need to feel sorry for because they will never know the joy of being in love or being happy.

I hated someone once for a long time. It was a horrible experience for me and I wanted revenge on this person so much it ate me up alive almost.

When I look back on all that I think hating isn't worth it, it destroys you more then the person you dislike or hate. When you let it go you get your life back. This person died of a drug OD and I felt relief knowing he was no longer on this earth. That is kind of sad but it is how I felt.
No one ever hurt me like that again but I have never hated again, I disliked and walked away to forget.

I hope your just writing about this hate thing and don't feel that way do you? Hate will chew you up and I see that with people hating. Better to love but that isn't always possible/
Your right, some people never know love, never know many thing some of us take for granted in out lives. A date, a prom in HS, going out and experiencing all the fun and dancing. Some never know it, so if you have loved you are fortunate and if we find it again it would change many things.
I wish you good things (((((((hugs))))))

To me, I think its impossible to live a life without hate, for some people they do nothing but hate, I know because people I know try to start fights with friends for no apparent reason or because they want to hate. Your right, hate is a part of life

so do i have this right? if you don't hate, you're dead. however, if you don't love or know how to you're not?

that doesn't sound right to me. i think any emotion has life and gives life.

kd

good point KD. I don't feel or cognitively "hate" generally... not people for sure... I do hate some things or situations at times... but I can live without it... Vengeful feelings do NOTHING to the other person... they have no idea of all the hateful feelings you are holding... I agree, it only hurts yourself. TC

Hi folks,

This is a good thread subject. IMHO hate does have a biological basis, reminding us that there is a situation we don't want to put up with.

But - if we are unable to express our feelings about this situation - OUCH.

There have been some terrorist bombings in the UK recently, as we know, and that indicates to me a whole lot of hate out there. Hate, suppressed over a period of time, is the most damaging emotion on the planet, for all concerned. It is an essential part of the human range of emotions, but it has to be dealt with, or it rots us through from the inside.

The worst example of this? A parent who feeds their own suppressed hate to their child - now that's as bad as it gets.

Good thoughts, M

I seem incapable of feeling HATE. When I feel it emerging in any small way, I feel it is a cancer to the soul. I usually turn this emotion inwards toward myself, unfortunately, but when it's there, I do work through it.
Seeker

How close do you think hate is to anger? Just wondering.... about it myself.... It doesn't always go together though, does it? No, like I can hate the way strawberries make me sick... but I'm not angry about it. Ok nm lol

Anger and hate are two different emotions for me. Even anger is hard for me, and usually only lasts briefly. Like I said, HATE is cancer to the soul for me, and I just can't feel it. The closest I've ever come to hate is toward my ex-son-in-law who was abusive to my one daughter while they were married for three years. He was an alcoholic/addict/drug dealer and put her thru Hell, which I only found out after she left him. He wrecked two cars (while drunk) I had bought for her and nearly killed and did cripple a grad student at Univ. of KY. I was just glad she got away from him!
In my own personal life, I have been emotionally abused by several men. I accepted the anger as part of the stage of recovery, but never felt hate. The emotion that arrives after I work thru the anger is INDIFFERENCE

i ican almost hate the doctor and his wife, at the clinic, where i work. but they aren't worth it.