what can you do?!

what can you do to be happy when you're feeling down? lately i've been feeling down, and like everything is on me.. what i mean is, i feel that i am doing everything wrong. what can i do to be feeling happy again... i hate feeling down, and i sound bitter and 'self-destructive'. i feel i am nothing, i feel worthless, despite how many times i've been told that i am not. I feel undeserving to be happy. i feel that if i am too happy, sadness comes back... wanting an escape... wanting an exit... am too afraid to do it, but i have been thinking about it.. if you know what i mean.. i guess its really time to talk to a therapist... a long long long overdue... *sighs* will i ever be able to escape this life? i hope so...

Well you can engage in Opposite Action:

For example, if we are feeling very depressed and low and like no one wants us around and we might as well just stay in bed, a way to act opposite to the emotions is to get ourselves up and do something (go for a walk, go to the grocery store, visit a friend, go to therapy, etc.). We are not denying our emotion, but we are challenging it by acting opposite to it. Instead of staying at home in bed, we are getting up and going out. We may not see big changes, but little by little we will notice changes in the way we feel.

Challenge your negative thoughts. Instead of calling yourself "worthless," or "undeserving," tell yourself that you are just going through a rough time.

I'm glad your here to talk about your problems like the rest of us here. You're definitely not alone. Far from alone in fact. I can understand what your going through. Whenever I get in that situation I usually just try to listen to my favorite song or and up beat song that usually gets you pumped. And if that didn't work for me I'd try to stop and take a breath and think of all my dreams that I look forward to. Like getting your first car or living in an apartment. Just look forward to things in the future.
I hope I helped.

Best of wishes

Thanks Soul Quake and cutbuddie... i just hope this feeling ends.. i do not like this feeling.. thanks for your advice

Hello jollybutdepressed,

Welcome to pc. I think most of us know how you are feeling and have been through it more than we'd like to say.

We know it isn't easy to pull out of or to just up and do something to "change" our "mood" because mood doesn't affect depression but depression affects mood which makes the resultant moods and thoughts much more difficult to control.

I lose my appetite with depression. Until recently when my partner had a heart attack I would miss at least two meals a day. When he came home from hospital and I had to give him 3 full meals a day with morning tea, afternoon tea and supper.

To keep his spirits up I started to eat with him. and three things have started to happen; my depression has improved, my moods are less intense and I have actually started to shed weight, and that is in less than a couple of weeks.

I knew that food had a bearing on mood and depression, as an example chocolate will mop up any vitamin B that is floating around in the blood so if you are a chocolate freak it's a waste of time taking vitamin B because it is eradicated.

Anyway eating 3 healthy meals a day may have a bearing on how energized you feel and how much energy you have to actually do other things that may focus your mind on things other than feeling down or low.

Take care and please understand that we are here to support you as best we can,

Rhiannon

--- thanks so much Rhiannon... it means a lot to me that people here do care about how i feel, and that i can relate to other people.. it really sucks to feel depressed... :-( thanks for replying.. and thanks for trying to help

dear Jolly,, i will come after you ~!! don't you dare do anything except take good care of yourself ~!! and ,, (get a life) Love YOU~ Gus

--- i won't

Jolly you deserve to be happy hun. Believe in you and keep walking toward you recovery.....
love you
tc (((((((((((jolly)))))))))))

genn

thanks very much genn

A temporary fix-
Find a new hobby. It has to be completely new, and it has to be something you might feel excited about (especially if you succeed in it) . Then go out and buy your materials. Learn and build, (or whatever) and post the results to your friends. It might not be as great as it should be, but perhaps you will feel a tinge of pride.

I've done:
A couple video projects
Chainmail armor
Pumpkin carving
Crocheting
Storywriting
Video games (really, it helps)

----- thanks for this.. i think i will do that... look for a new hobby thanks again