Urgh... I'm feeling kinda down. I'm tired and I feel like falling asleep because I had work experience today, it's tiring. I keep thinking I have no friends, I'm not important to not much people. Please don't moan about me keep posting, I want to vent out my feelings. Why can't these negative thoughts go away? I'm sorry if I keep annoying you lot.

[lynn P.]

(((happycheeks))) - sorry you're feeling down again. I think this is linked to your self esteem - you need to figure out a way to strengthen this. The stronger your self esteem, the more resiliant you'll be to the aggravations life throws at you. Try not to pay attention to the negative chatter in your mind. Instead think of some postive things about you and what you've been doing lately. We all have some good qualities - what are yours?

[thine_self_untrue]

((((((happycheeks)))))
Maybe you can find some ways to soothe and cheer yourself up when you feel low? I know it's hard, but sometimes singing or playing the piano helps me. Having to focus makes me forget about how crappy I feel. Journaling could be another outlet for the emotions you need to vent. Exercise is another good one- releases endorphines which make you happy and give you a reason to feel good about yourself!

I'm feeling alright now

[Miss Laura]

Hey HappyCheeks,

I am the exact same as you..... I have VERY low self esteem. I don't know how to not let it get to me, so I can't give you any advice. Just that you are definately not on your own. My Counsellor did try and help me with it but it never worked as I had to give up on my sessinos with her.

Hope your ok!!

[embracinglife]

glad this gives you the space to vent. I hope you feel better soon

Originally Posted by embracinglife

glad this gives you the space to vent. I hope you feel better soon

I am feeling better. One moment I'm fine and then maybe an hour later, I feel bad again.

[Travelinglady]

(((Happycheeks))) Can you note any triggers? I'm bipolar, so I can be on the old roller coaster during one day. But I note sometimes that I get on negative thoughts and can sometimes nip that in the bud--or at least start thinking about other things, as somebody else suggested, like music, exercise, etc. Even watching certain TV shows can get me down--so I seek out humor and more light topics.

And, of course, low self-esteem doesn't help! After all, you take yourself wherever you go! You seem like a nice person to me!

Originally Posted by PAYNE1

(((Happycheeks))) Can you note any triggers? I'm bipolar, so I can be on the old roller coaster during one day. But I note sometimes that I get on negative thoughts and can sometimes nip that in the bud--or at least start thinking about other things, as somebody else suggested, like music, exercise, etc. Even watching certain TV shows can get me down--so I seek out humor and more light topics.

And, of course, low self-esteem doesn't help! After all, you take yourself wherever you go! You seem like a nice person to me!

Yeah I sure can notice the triggers.

[tranand3]

everything will be alright.Just go out and keep yourself busy

Originally Posted by tranand3

everything will be alright.Just go out and keep yourself busy

Yeah I suppose so.

[lonegael]

When you notice the negative thoughts coming in, can you just sort of let them criuse in and then out again like in one ear and out the other, or do you try to fight them? If you try to fight them, they might actually take on more meaning and pick up more negativity from that. Hope they stay off for a bit dear!

Originally Posted by lonegael

When you notice the negative thoughts coming in, can you just sort of let them criuse in and then out again like in one ear and out the other, or do you try to fight them? If you try to fight them, they might actually take on more meaning and pick up more negativity from that. Hope they stay off for a bit dear!

I try to fight them. When the negative thoughts come, I hurt myself to relieve the emotional pain.

[(JD)]

Hmmm if you're having swings like that it could be your glucose levels (insulin.) Try keeping your sugar intake even and not binge like on soda or cookies, or even carbohydrates in general etc. You can also have a test to see if you have an insulin issue.

Originally Posted by (JD)

Hmmm if you're having swings like that it could be your glucose levels (insulin.) Try keeping your sugar intake even and not binge like on soda or cookies, or even carbohydrates in general etc. You can also have a test to see if you have an insulin issue.

I would love to drink soda and eat cookies but unfortunately I can't.

[lastyearisblank]

Feeling negative= no good. Just keep posting how you feel, we'll listen.

[FooZe]

Originally Posted by happycheeks

I try to fight them. When the negative thoughts come, I hurt myself to relieve the emotional pain.

For me and pretty much everyone else I've talked to, fighting against thoughts and feelings seems to bring them on more and keep them around longer. I'd think that hurting yourself would stir up even more thoughts that you'd then want to react to.

A good while ago, I posted something by Alan Watts here. I'd be interested in your take on it, if you're willing to read it.

[turquoisesea]

Originally Posted by Fool Zero

For me and pretty much everyone else I've talked to, fighting against thoughts and feelings seems to bring them on more and keep them around longer. I'd think that hurting yourself would stir up even more thoughts that you'd then want to react to.

I've found this to be somewhat true as well. Yes you have to remind yourself that they are not true, but you have to accept the fact that they are there. You have to pick your battles, I think. Sometimes you can fight, and sometimes you have to try to let them wash over you and always try to reach out to others for help. Take care

[SophiaG]

negative emotions are distractions. Do what you know is a primary goal in your life. Do what is important to you and recognize the emotions as fleeting distractions rather than things to get stuck in.

I feel as though i'm reiterating what others have been saying.

Originally Posted by Fool Zero

For me and pretty much everyone else I've talked to, fighting against thoughts and feelings seems to bring them on more and keep them around longer. I'd think that hurting yourself would stir up even more thoughts that you'd then want to react to.

A good while ago, I posted something by Alan Watts here. I'd be interested in your take on it, if you're willing to read it.

I understand what you're trying to say I will be willing to read it

Originally Posted by SophiaG

negative emotions are distractions. Do what you know is a primary goal in your life. Do what is important to you and recognize the emotions as fleeting distractions rather than things to get stuck in.

I feel as though i'm reiterating what others have been saying.

Thanks for your reply. I don't really have a primary goal.

Originally Posted by lastyearisblank

Feeling negative= no good. Just keep posting how you feel, we'll listen.

Thanks for listening