Yes, disappointed once more. I don't know why I keep doing this. I should know better for all the time it has happened to me before. But no, I never do learn. Then I get hurt for giving my trust, for giving a chance that this time might be different. But it never is different.

Maybe this time I have learned.



ps. I'm not talking about anyone from this site.

[Hopefull]

What happened--if you are willing to share? Sorry that you have been hurt.

I think I am more disappointed in myself then I am from the other person involved.

Disappointed in myself because I should have known. I am now hurt because I have trusted more then I should have. I should have known when to stop with my trust. It is just hard to swallow because I care so much for the other person. I should have limited myself with my friendship. I give too many chances and then I am disappointed and hurt. But mostly I am disappointed in myself to not have trusted my instinct.

Thank you for caring!

[Overcastbutclearing]

Sorry you are disappointed....
Nice disclaimer though so they don't lock up your thread.
I understand the difficulties in trusting others.
We start to feel safer....we give in w/ trust...and as our guard is let down we get clobbered.
Hang in there dear time0!

please do not bother to reply this situaion has happened because im so stupid

[DaveyJones]

Hi, time-o,

I'm sorry to hear that you are hurting. It's bad when we give of ourselves to someone and they hurts us in return.

What I really hate to hear is that you are disappointed with yourself...you don't need to be. Don't hold yourself responsible for someone else's hurtful action. You did what was good--you blessed someone with a bit of yourself. That's a wonderful thing, I know because you have blessed me and so many others here. How, then, does it make you wrong when someone repays goodness with pain?

I hope you feel better soon, and realize that you are too good to let other people define you this way.

Your Friend,
DJ

[(JD)]

time0... sounds like a severe case of the shoulds, to me (that would be hmm #8 on the list?)

I think because we choose to try and trust again, or have some hope for change, if it doesn't work out is no reason to beat ourselves up. Ok... you have learned something more... maybe not the whole issue, yet.. but you are one situation farther along in realizing, yes?

[Overcastbutclearing]

Time0....you are not stupid at all. You gave of yourself...and it didn't work out the way you had hoped. It happens. It just sucks when it happens.
Please don't be so degrading of yourself...You are a good, worthwhile person.
You sharing here tonight helps me with what I am going through tonight. Because it makes me think of the way I want you to feel and for you to not be so hard on yourself and in the very breath I say this to you I have to tell myself the same thing.
We were not taught about trust and our boundaries on trust are so screwed up that we get caught in situations that are not appeasing.
But...we can learn.
Thanks for sharing your story tonight. It has really helped me out!

[Azalysa]

Slips in quietly to give you a {{{{{{{{timeO}}}}}}}

[Mystry]

From the poetry you write timeo...I can tell that when you give of yourself it's whole-hearted and goes deeper than the soul so that when someone hurts you it's feels like being kicked in the stomach...you have to try and remember Timeo that trust is not a character flaw but using someone is...you are not the bad guy in this...please take care Timeo...we're all rooting for you...we can be your peanut gallery...see us doing the wave...))))))))Timeo(((((((((


Dance little chilli dance

I thank you all so very much! You have all touch my heart with your kind words and understanding. You have really help me out!

#8 on the list? Yes, probably.

This year 2005 has been a rough one for me but I am a fighter.

I will start soon year 2006 and I will start it with my gards up.

Thank you wonderful people! I was so lost with all this. I am still hurt but I will let go with time.



Love you all!

[(JD)]

"sometime you have to look beyond..." sigh. TC

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[Lexicon78]

((((((((((time0))))))))))

[backandforth]

trust is one of those things that you have to give to others in order to receive anything in return, but it also makes you feel vulnerable the more you open up and trust.... when someone breaks your trust though, I don't think it's as much your fault as it is their loss in having you trust them, but you have to figure out how to deal w/ the situation... did you trust someone you shouldn't have trusted (ie. not a friend)? too soon? w/ too much information? or did you really have no idea of knowing and the person did a 180 on you? whichever way, you can only learn from those experiences... be aware of who you trust and why but life still comes down to taking a leap of faith in people once in a while, b/c there is no 'sure' way of making sure you can trust them.... one other thing I would have to say is, trust isn't all hopeless, you've trusted people here and you know which people only want the best for you- you've been so helpful to them and taken that leap of faith, it will repay in your life as well. I hope things go better for you time0 in the new year...

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Thank you!

Thank you!

Your words are wise. I will take them in consideration and yes, probably this year will be better.