so disappointed ...

had to go to docs to get anti axiety pills today .... i was managing without them back with a vengeance, maybe because i am sick of being invaded by teenagers, my kids friends mothers calling at the last minute saying, 'just wondered how Joel is getting home i just had a glass of wine or 2' do we have MUG written somewhere? last night my daughters b/f arrived here at 11pm, promptly asked for some food after he'd been at his dads all night who never has anything in (not because he's got no money .... just too lazy to shop) we are struggling, i feel taken advantage of so much just lately ..... i don't mind usually, but things are piling up it seems ..... it may sound petty, but i feel i never have ANY peace at all here .... i crave peace .... well, hubby is taking me and the dog to Derbyshire tomorrow, just us .... i'm gonna go to the stone circle and sit and try and imagine yesteryear ..... sorry to winge .... i'm not tight fisted or anything, but just lately it's like having a second son and another adult in the house....

big sigh, Kerry xx off for a diazapam

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glad you're going to be able to get away for a bit of a break, I hope it helps you feel better. But remember you have the right to set boundaries about who comes to your house when. There's absolutely nothing wrong with setting rules, like no guests after 10 pm for example. You deserve to not be taken advantage of.

Take care of yourself.

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i just feel like i'm moaning, but we live in a small house ... if we hadan extra room it would be ok.... just at the moment i need peace ..... thankyou for caring sweetie, hugs, Kerry xx

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<font color="purple">Hope you feel better soon </font>

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i feel so much better tonight thankyou .....

Aaahhh, peace: a much needed and much without emotion I desire, too!!!

We have a 2 bedroom apt for the 4 of us. Had to convert the living/family room to a bedroom for my daughter. There is NO peace here. I'm glad your doctor was able to see you and help with the medication. I know you will enjoy tomorrow.


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I am sorry that you are not getting peace, it seems like when we need that the most is when it is farthest away.

(((((Jinnyann))))) I know EXACTLY how you feel! I've always preferred the kids bring their friends here so I know exactly what they're doing, no surprises. There are certain kids that I don't mind running home, I know them, I know their parents, and most importantly I know exactly where they live so my anxiety at leaving the house to bring them home is manageable.

However, this has somehow turned me into a taxi service. A couple of weeks ago, after not sleeping for three days, I was finally tired enough to sleep. My youngest pops in and says "X, Y, and Z have to be home at 3." It's now 2:45 and I have NO idea where they live or the best way to get there.

We had a serious discussion after that. 1)If you would like me to bring one of your friends home (except the exempt ones) you must ask me as soon as possible. 2) I have the right to refuse. 3) I get at least one day a week without a house full of kids that are not my own.

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thankyou sweetie, and thankyou everyone for replying. My hubby is on lates for 4 days now, and at the weekend my daughters b/f stays over because he works close to here. Tonight I have the house to myself as my son is at a party, my daughter and b/f work until late ..... aaahhhhh i have Johnny Depp for company (Sweeney Todd) and a glass or two of wine ..... pure heaven the thing is, i used to hate my own company, now i crave it lol.

it's just in the daytime when they are griping at each otheror leaving everything lying around (we live in a small house)sometimes i wish i was a bit more assertive, but right now i just cant do it because i dont want any arguments ...... my friend has invited me there tomorrow night ..... so,roll on this evening

hugs to all,Jin xoxoxoxoxoxo

enjoy your evening with johnny depp

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thanks sweetie, I will hugs, Jin xoxoxoxoxo

(((((Jinny))))) I just avoided one of those arguements myself. My youngest came back from spending two nights at his friends. His first comment "the livingroom doesn't look any different." 1) that is a mess that he and his friend made before he left and I am NOT cleaning it up, which means that I haven't been able to steam clean my carpets either. 2) I was cleaning the kitchen, the kind of cleaning that makes a huge mess until you're done (cupboards and drawers) 3) I KNOW he didn't mean it the way it came of, my kids are respectful if nothing else.

I've had 10 hours of sleep in the last three days, and if I would have responded to him when he made the comment it would have created a bigger problem than it would have solved. So I simply said "your mess, you clean it." And I shut myself back up in my bedroom. I'm going to take a sleeping pill soon. But when I wake up, he's going to learn how to use the steam cleaner!

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i hope you rest well sweetie, i told mine to clean up after themselves all this weekend i aint doin it Jinny xoxoxoxo

I can relate to you in a way and the situation isn't easy. I'm a stay at home mom who has suddenly become the neighborhood mom. There are 4 kids ages 5-8 who think that it is my job to be their babysitter, cook, nurse, and referee. Seriously, where the heck are their parents? No where to be found I can assure you. I'll be happy when summer is over and they all go back to school!

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nice tomeet you .... yes i have been there too, all the young ones around here, we have the smallest house ....lol.... we managed somehow....

I feel a bit awful really, i love my kids so much and they're good kids, they've never really given me a lot of trouble, never stayed out without me knowing where they are etc etc .... this is my problem with anxiety and stuff, i am glad my daughter is independant and going to Uni, I'll miss her, the day i have to leave her there i'll be regretting all this stuff i've said ....my son is very thoughtful and kind and always asks if x or y can stay in advance .... in the summer it's not a problemc cos we just put the tent in the garden .... i'm lucky tony and i are thought of as 'coolparents' i suppose lol .....they have a great bunch of friends, just sometimes it gets a little much ....

c;est la vie .... Jinny xoxoxoxoxoxoxo

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Please don't feel bad. It isn't wrong to need a break even if your kids are wonderful and there is definitely nothing wrong with wanting other parents to step up and do their part. It sounds like you are really going to miss your daughter and I understand what you mean by regretting. I wish quite often that I had done things better or said things differently or savored more of the time I've had with my kids, but I try and remember that I'm human and I start over and try to be who I want to be. So please, don't beat yourself up.