[clouds_and_sun]

[EDIT: this post is about another online person who recently blew me off and was talking to me for a while]
I see the pattern they befriend me and then totally ignore after a while. I guess that they don't see that I have feelings too. OR they found better and they were just using me til better comes along, how heartless. Oh well I should be use to it by now cause this is how I was treated by most people! At this point this issue makes me want to take my life.
This I can say, if taking my life was not against my spiritual beliefs I would have taken it long ago. But the tempation to take my life is so very strong. Why live when I can't keep a friend.

Hello, clouds_and_sun. I wish you well.

[Shadow-world]

(((((Clouds_and_sun!!)))))

I know I have befriended you because I want to be your friend. I haven't forgotten you. I just don't manage to read all the posts or post a lot all the time.

Please don't feel left out. I'm here if you want to talk! You're important, Clouds_and_sun, so please take care of yourself!! You're a part of our community!

Hugs from Shadow-world

[clouds_and_sun]

Originally Posted by Shadow-world

(((((Clouds_and_sun!!)))))

I know I have befriended you because I want to be your friend. I haven't forgotten you. I just don't manage to read all the posts or post a lot all the time.

Please don't feel left out. I'm here if you want to talk! You're important, Clouds_and_sun, so please take care of yourself!! You're a part of our community!

Hugs from Shadow-world

many hugs, I know you wouldn't do this to me, I should have been more specific I was talking about someone who I was talking to for a while that i met online and then just like that they stopped talking to me and I have been nothing but kind to them, it deeply hurts My father would always say that I am a very boring person, this being said my guess is that they got sick of me. A lot tend to.

[Shadow-world]

I'm sorry you've had this experience. Maybe the other person was cut off or suddenly needed to go and couldn't say 'good-bye' properly.
It is most likely that it wasn't because of you but due to a distraction on their end.

I don't know why your dad said such a thing to you, but try not to let him define you. Family members sometimes say hurtful things and also make statements that are not true.

It's good you're here, Clouds_and_Sun! You are unique - always remember that. That's a good thing. Nobody can replace you. Hold on to that and treasure your individuality.

Just wow, I can't tell you how much I relate to this.

My online friend has done exactly the same to me and it hurts like mad, I would make all the effort in the contacting, I had known her for 3 years, I had a long think about it and thought is this really worth getting upset about? So I sent her an email and told her how I felt and that I didn't want to be friends anymore.

She replied and started to get all angry with me as if it was my fault, I am no longer friends with her now.x

[Rohag]

It has been no bother being your friend, dear Clouds_and_Sun. As Shadow-world has so nicely put it, you are important, you belong!

[Fuzzybear]

((((((((((((( clouds and sun ))))))))))))))


I'm so sorry your father said that to you. It was wrong of him. My mother said how I was a boring baby.

Honestly, hon, in both cases I feel this is More About Them Than Us.... it was Wrong of any parent to say their child is "boring". WTF? How can a baby or young child have the intellect or skills of an adult? I do not think so....

But I can see how this wound can make us feel so hurt by any rejection.

When someone befriends us and rejects us, its sometimes about them, and their wounds (maybe they are afraid of getting close...)

If you keep the two separate, the recent rejection and the wound from childhood.... and tell yourself the truth, that you're a great person, I hope you find healing from this pain soon
(its this lady's loss, imho! )

[sarek]

I could so easily have been you, clouds_and_sun. And the only reason it did not happen to me is that I kind of preventively reject those people I feel are not compatible with me. My people filter is always very sharply tuned and lets through only a very small selection of special people.

The thing is, because of the way my personality works I am quite simply incompatible with a lot of those 'mainstream' people. I barely understand them, they dont understand me. I think they are boring, and most likely they think i am boring.

Something like that could also be going on with you. Some people simply have to be very picky in their choice of friends otherwise disappointment will keep following disappointment at the first sign of incompatibility.

I think it might be wise to get a deeper insight for yourself into exactly what kind of person you are and what kind of friends would be most suitable for you.