[Rometsch]

Here we go again!
I guess I need to provide some background. I have been separated from my wife since the end of November. I left..I am an idiot. My years of depression has been hard on our relationship. I wasn't getting help at the time. I love her more than anything. We have maintained communication fortunately.
About 3 weeks ago I saw her and we had a long talk. She said she still loved me and wanted to work things out. About a week later she said that she couldn't see us working things out. There has been numerous mixed messages (or me misinterpreting).
This has destroyed my mental state. I truly want to work things out and save our marriage. It breaks my heart that I hurt her and destroyed my marriage. Anyway I am now very depressed and can't get out of it.
She has offered to let me come back to the house so that I can go to counselling easier. Right now it is an 80 mile drive. I will have to step down from my management position, which is well worth it if it saves me from my depression. I don't even know what advice I am asking. But help me with some insight.

[JustBen]

I don't have any great insight to share, unfortunately. We're here for you, though. Hang in there. We're pulling for you.

[DaveyJones]

Rometsch,

I'm sorry to hear that you are hurting so...I can relate to what you say in many ways. I suffered a depression really for about three years when I left the best job I ever had for several reasons, my marriage being the main one.

I have to say that I have regretted it ever since. In my case, it was the beginning of a spiral down...the depression never got any better, and I still wound up divorced and bankrupt, and I am having difficulty finding any sort of work.

I am feeling better finally...it turned out that I had been misdiagnosed for all those years and I am actually bipolar. Now that I am being treated appropriately, my depression is largely gone.

What I am saying is this: IMHO, you should not give up your job unless you simply are not able to do it properly anymore. The only thing harder than finding a good job is finding a good job when you are depressed. If you are not seeing a psychiatrist for your depression, find one. If you can find a support group to go to, do so...check DBSAlliance.org or nami.org to find a group in your area.

The very most important thing to realize is that your depression and anything that has happened because of it ARE NOT YOUR FAULT. You can feel better, but it will take some time and some hard work.

Please take the above for what it is worth...it is simply my experience. I just urge you to be extremely cautious in making life decisions at this point.