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Old Oct 02, 2012, 05:10 PM
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Hello
I'm 37, single and have been battling depression for about 12 years.
This is my first time in a forum like this. I'm reaching out because I am tired of living a life based on fear and I want to change. But I don't know how. I hope through this community, I can learn how to manage my anxiety, recognize when I'm going downhill and do something about it.
I would love to hear how you all cope and I hope to be inspired by it.
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Old Oct 02, 2012, 09:58 PM
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Hello & Welcome, ZanaDee!
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Sometimes trying to get family to understand can take away the little energy you have and can even create more anxiety and depression. ... At some point I just realized that they didn't understand and I couldn't spend what little energy I had trying to get them to understand.
Wise, exceptionally wise. Conserving your energy for the possible instead of wasting it on the improbable is an excellent coping strategy. I'm glad you've been able to do this with your family.
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Old Oct 03, 2012, 12:08 AM
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I'm happy to see that you are planning on a future and working on making it a good one. This is the first step in that direction. We can all relate and will help and support you while you work things out.
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Old Oct 03, 2012, 12:34 AM
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Have you tried therapy yet? to delve into the root cause of why you do what you do. That is so important. I self-sabotage too. I know why I do it. because of guilt and low self-esteem. I am still working on myself but I plan to try to be more self-aware of my psyche and my actions and to catch myself before I do it and to (try to ) replace it with more self-care thoughts. Might that work for you too? I hope so. I'm so glad you are reaching out. Welcome to PC.
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Old Oct 03, 2012, 02:52 AM
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I have to agree with Terry. Therapy has been the answer for me too. Guilt and low-self esteem are my problems too, but self awareness is the key.

Call your medical doctor and get a referral to a good therapist and get in as soon as possible. You won't regret it. It will be the beginning of a new life for you free of fear and anxiety! God bless and please take care. Hugs, Lee
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Old Oct 03, 2012, 11:09 AM
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Welcome to PC!!! Hope you will feel better and less lonely after reading posts on here, because that's how I feel
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Old Oct 03, 2012, 10:47 PM
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Hi ZanaDee. I love your subject line "Hello, My name is self sabotage". I could really relate. I've been a member of this site for almost two months and it has been a real sanctuary for me. Lots of information and supportive people. It's a place I know is safe to go to at the end of the day no matter how bad the day has been.

I hope you find the comfort here as well. Best Wishes.
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Old Oct 04, 2012, 02:58 AM
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Welcome, I am right there with you on this one! Think we need to value ourselves a bit more. We are worth it! Sometimes I think I tend to over think things. I have a hard time relaxing and being kind to myself. I am great with others but so damn hard on myself. Time to give myself a break instead of everyone else. I wish you well!
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