[frog0611]

At this point I don't know what to do or where to turn anymore. I am married and I do love my husband very much it just seems like we are not really doing kike we used to anymore. Our finances have been down the drain for the past year actually. I can not help but try to help people so we have had "friends" move in with us several time only to be screwed over every time. I can not really been happy. I just want things to get better in life. The part that really confuses me is that I don not even want anything fancy yet no matter what I try I can not get out of this ever sinking hole I am in and I know I am not going crazy but everyone at work don't like me because we are so different. I do not know what to do at this point.

[Sierrarose]

frog0611,

All I got for you is this, since you don't know what to do and feel you are stuck in a rut is to do something completely different.

It'll take some courage but it's the kind of thing that changes lives.

Go off somewhere, take a whole day to yourself and think about the things you would like to change about your life.

Quit your job and find something you might actually enjoy doing.

I wish I had more to offer.

Remember, the quality of your life depends on the quality of your thoughts. Therefore THINK about POSITIVE changes.

We really don't need to - nor should we - put up with unsatisfactory situations - especially if we only have one life to live.

Dig deep, the courage is there in you.

Best wishes.

[Leed]

Hi Frog ~ Bless your heart -- I know you like helping people but the first thing you have to do is HELP YOURSELF. You can't keep bringing people into your house and helping them, if you're sinking into a hold.

Dont briing anymore people into your home. You and your husband should be number ONE. You two have got to start caring for yourselves, and saving money -- you can't keep saving everyone else, and the world. Those people will have to find a way to save themselves. I think it is wonderful that you DO want to help people, but you're taking away from what you and your husband need. You can't afford to do that. Besides you keep getting screwed over.

And if people at work don't like you because you're different, it's not YOUR fault -- it's THEIRS. There's nothing WRONG with being different. Who wants to be just like everyone else? I don't want to be. They are just going along with the crowd and they aren't being themselves. YOU are being yourself -- you are not trying to please anyone else but yourself and I find that wonderful!! So keep being just YOU. You will find a friend -- don't worry. Those people at work just don't know you. Give them time. It's just they never knew anyone who didn't "follow the crowd." You're not doing that, and that's great! You're starting your OWN crowd and in time you'll have some members. So don't worry. Different is new and refreshing! Be yourself just like you are! God bless and take care. Hugs, Lee

[tokiwartooth]

I've been in that same situation with people staying in our house and totally getting screwed over. My life has felt like it's going down the tubes too many times to count. The only thing that has ever helped me is time and talking to other people. It's imoportant to have a support network. In my case, my mom and my best friend. I went to counseling, but to be honest it never did anything for me. The only doctor I see is my regular doctor to get my meds. It helps to try to do the things that once interested you, even if you don't feel like it at first. Like I feel like staying in bed all day and all night but I try to get myself up and maybe go for coffee or something. I don't mind going by myself. I do tend to sleep a lot on the weekends, but I'm trying to break that habit. It's a bad habit. My finances have been in dire straits now for a long time. The creditors keep calling, and I'm to the point where I don't even answer my phone anymore if I see a number that isn't local, or that I don't recognize. I just keep praying to God and so far, things have worked out. I tell myself if it doesn't work, it wasn't meant to be. I've had to cut back on a lot of stuff, and I've had to go to a food bank quite a few times, but I do what I have to. I can totally sympathize with you.