Depressed & Sad upon Waking

I have often had to deal with the over whelming feeling of being sad and depressed when I wake up in the morning.... usually when I am alone, but also when I wake up with other people around or even my husband.

Does any one else have to deal with this issue and if YES - how do you continue to cope with it.... to help make those awful dark feelings go away as soon as possible? - I can usually feel better with in a few hours, but occasionally it stays around all day long.... Sigh!

BTW - I can some times tell why I feel this way (prob in real life) and at other times I am lost to why the feeling is here to haunt me again.

....... Any one know of any good CBT that might help here?



LoVe,
Rhapsody -

I don't have any wonderful words of wisdom. I have been there and I actually don't even know how I dealt with it. I do know that it is quite normal to feel this for no reason whatsoever. I think it is good that you are able to identify when this happens.

I hope you feel better really soon!

(((Rhapsody)))

Thanks Sabrina....... and the puppy is sooooooo CUTE - he made me smile.



LoVe,
Rhapsody -

Maybe you could do something that involves some pampering yourself. Put a nice piece of music on, go someplace that is usually relaxing and/or prvides a means of escape from the humdrum, or some creative outlet?

Usually distraction, work, exercise might help...

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Maybe you could do something that involves some pampering yourself. Put a nice piece of music on, go someplace that is usually relaxing and/or prvides a means of escape from the humdrum, or some creative outlet?

Usually distraction, work, exercise might help...

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Smiles....
Yes, that sounds good (and) I do often feel much better after leaving the house or visiting with someone. Guess I need to work on my leaving the house skills some more.

Just wondering.... do other people suffer from this problem while being depressed and trying to heal from your past? - is it just part of the process?


Thanks....
LoVe,
Rhapsody -

Oh yes, I honestly believe this is just part of the process!

I've had this for so long, I can hardly remember when I didn't feel sad and lost (or even angry, in despair) upon waking. In my case, it's because I'm lost, in my life. I don't know what to do with myself.

In the past, when I had an acting career, I used to wake up excited -- "oh boy, I get to do a play tonight," or "oh boy, I get to go to a soundstage today!" Every day seemed to hold the possibility of something good that might happen (like getting an acting job for the next day). Now, I know that that was part of my youth. I'm too far down the road to have that faith or hope. I have no career, nothing to be excited about doing, and too much disappointment, failure and pain in my past to believe that things are magically going to turn around for me. You, however, could absolutely have good things on their way. If you have a husband, then that means that someone loves you. Someone stood up before an assembly of people and vowed before God to spend the rest of his life with you. However the marriage is going, you've had that (which is more than I've had). If being honored in that way can happen to you, other good things can.

I think the trick is giving yourself something to look forward to. Maybe a goal you're trying to reach, a job you love...whatever. It gives you something to wake up in the morning for.

Hang in there. ((hugs))

I have several feelings about this. One is that this was one of the best indicators of the severeity of my depression. It is also for me a symptom of anxiety. And, so much I dream of things that are really difficult and the waking reflects the dreams and I have to speak to myself about how this was a dream and not real. I know that it is good for me to have things to look forward to in a day. Even if it's an hour alone and I can swim or shower or take a nap.

It is good if you can have one thing to look for that will be rewarding. It's different for each of us but one of the things I have discovered is visiting with children allows me to be totally present in the moment and feel the joy of rocking the baby to sleep or feeding it or simply looking at picture books. When I am doing this I am not worried or sad or anxious, I am alive and present. Swimming also does that for me. Hope this helps.

It is normal in depression to feel worse in the morning. I have quite literally ended up zoning for a half hour almost everyday before I go to work. How does one deal with it? I usually try doing positive affirmations, reread my list of strength and just plain pray for energy while taking my shower. It makes it hard to want to go to work. I have also been known to do pretend therapy sessions while eating breakfast. I have a positive thinking side/internal T that seems to only work if I force it. My negative thinking correcting is broken. So, I sometimes try to force my inner T to work using my list of strengths. One morning, I actually managed to make myself happy. I was thinking up an example of each of my strengths. But, it didn't work the next day. I went to work that day rather sad.

http://forums.psychcentral.com/showf...=5&o=2&fpart=1 CBT

Yes, feeling worse either in the morning or late at night...but dark all day long is common with clinical depression. Meds and or psychotherapy will help.

Wow, I have been going through something very, very similar lately (for the past month or so). I will feel better a few hours into the day (usually about 4 hours later) and immediately when I leave my job to go home, but it's like I have to start all over again the following day with the same old feelings.

It's hard to explain, it's like my mind has to cycle through the same thought processes everyday in order to feel better?

Well, just know you aren't alone, same thing is happening
over here.

Thanks for YOUR input Lynnjd,

It always helps to know that you are not the only one..... and YES it is like recycling your thoughts / feelings all over again - day after day.


Thanks....
LoVe,
Rhapsody -

Yea, it's very tough to deal with. In my therapy session yesterday we actually discussed it and went over some of the thoughts/things that might trigger that in the morning.

We went over the idea of me needing to pamper myself, at least some throughout the day, but that's difficult to do when you have so many issues that are weighing in on your self-esteem.

Argh!!!! Well, I'm definitely doing a lot beter than I was a couple weeks ago and I do seem to be improving.

If anything, there is ALWAYS HOPE!!!! Hang in there.

Yeah I know what you mean by the pampering being hard when you are feeling so weighed down emotionally.... I try to take a little time for myself every morning when I go walk the lake with my baby ---- My Brindle Pitbull.


LoVe,
Rhapsody -

I woke up HAPPY today...... tired but happy.


LoVe,
Rhapsody -