[lonelyemotionalgirl]

I am lonely and I am hurting.
I feel like I have nobody to talk to, and nobody to count on.
Nobody is there for me.
Everybody ignores me.
Nothing I ever do is right.
I always help people, but people never help me in return.
I am a people pleaser.
Nobody listens to me.
I have so many problems, and so many things building up inside of me.
I just want somebody to understand me.

[smmath]

i think i have a pretty good idea of how you feel. i am currently in a similar position now. but maybe i could try and give us both some advice... have you tried opening up to anyone? I did with one of my teachers and it was the best decision i have ever made, but now i am trying to not communicate with him so that leads me to isolation but i digress. i think that it would be helpful to talk to a therapist or even someone here on PC. So if you ever want to talk you could message me here... but you don't have to.

maybe even writing could help to get some of your negative emotions out or posting here could really help too.

((hugs)) --- Sam

[optimize990h]

Hello lonelyemotionalgirl! Welcome to PsychoCentral! You are not alone in how you feel about yourself and your situation. I identify with the people pleaser term, for example. I have to set some boundaries to avoid being a people pleaser. smmath have given some good ideas for you to consider.
If you have any questions, ask one of the PC members. So, take care, I hope you can post more of your thoughts, if you feel you need to.

[adam_k]

I usually feel better when I work out what I am feeling with someone. I found talking with someone who understand it helps. I think if we wore our emotions on our sleeves it would be easier for people to know when we need a hug and a shoulder to cry on. There are a lot of people in this forum who have felt as you do. There are people here that will listen to you.

I found a psychologist when I was younger that helped me. She was a compassionate and non judgmental voice for me to work out what was going on. Have you thought about seeking professional help? Are things really bad for you now?

This is a good community with a lot of smart people who have dealt with a lot of life problems and mental illnesses. I hope you find support and feel less alone.

[lonelyemotionalgirl]

Thank you very much Sam! Yes, I have tried opening up to someone before. A few years ago, I used to see a therapist and I thought that things were getting better. Then, I was molested by a 40 year old man, and after I told my therapist, I was not comfortable talking with him anymore. I have also tried opening up to my fiance, because we can usually tell each other anything, but I feel that he is afraid of what I am saying, so he does not listen. I have also tried to open up to my best friend, but she always changes the subject to something about herself, rather than listening to me. I have tried opening up to a couple of other friends, but they just seem uncomfortable so I stop. I just feel so trapped, and like everyone only cares about themselves. I always listen when someone has a problem, and I try to give advice, but nobody will listen to me. Thank you again, and I will definitely message you sometime.

Originally Posted by smmath

i think i have a pretty good idea of how you feel. i am currently in a similar position now. but maybe i could try and give us both some advice... have you tried opening up to anyone? I did with one of my teachers and it was the best decision i have ever made, but now i am trying to not communicate with him so that leads me to isolation but i digress. i think that it would be helpful to talk to a therapist or even someone here on PC. So if you ever want to talk you could message me here... but you don't have to.

maybe even writing could help to get some of your negative emotions out or posting here could really help too.

((hugs)) --- Sam

[lonelyemotionalgirl]

I usually feel a bit better when I work out what I am feeling with someone, but I feel that people are afraid to listen, or do not want to listen. I did seek professional help when I was younger for about a year, but after telling my therapist that I was molested, I was not comfortable with him anymore, and I stopped going. I felt like things were getting better then, but the past couple of years, I feel like things are getting worse everyday. I am finally to the point where I am unmotivated, and would rather lay in bed and cry, or think about the future. It is better being in my room alone than being out in the world with people who do not listen, and people who do not care. I am really glad that there are people on here who will listen, and I will listen to them too. Even though I am troubled, I really am a great listener, and I really care about people. Thank you very much.

Originally Posted by adam_k

I usually feel better when I work out what I am feeling with someone. I found talking with someone who understand it helps. I think if we wore our emotions on our sleeves it would be easier for people to know when we need a hug and a shoulder to cry on. There are a lot of people in this forum who have felt as you do. There are people here that will listen to you.

I found a psychologist when I was younger that helped me. She was a compassionate and non judgmental voice for me to work out what was going on. Have you thought about seeking professional help? Are things really bad for you now?

This is a good community with a lot of smart people who have dealt with a lot of life problems and mental illnesses. I hope you find support and feel less alone.

[lonelyemotionalgirl]

I used to try to set boundaries, but people feel like I am a doormat. It gets hard for me to say no. Often, people say they will help me in return, and they never do. I always end up dropping my plans to help someone else, or lending someone money that is never paid back. Whenever I need help, everyone is too busy. Also, I often get too stressed out because I do not have enough time to get my own tasks done, because I am too busy helping everyone else. I need to learn how to say no, and realize that it is okay. Thank you very much.

Originally Posted by optimize990h

Hello lonelyemotionalgirl! Welcome to PsychoCentral! You are not alone in how you feel about yourself and your situation. I identify with the people pleaser term, for example. I have to set some boundaries to avoid being a people pleaser. smmath have given some good ideas for you to consider.
If you have any questions, ask one of the PC members. So, take care, I hope you can post more of your thoughts, if you feel you need to.