[Sleeping-T-Rex]

I have depression and my family wants to help but to me it seems like every time they do try and help it just makes me feel worse or they're not doing what I thought they would do for me. What do I want them to do for me you ask? Well the most annoying part of that question is that I don't have the answer, I don't know how they can help me.
My doctor has given me medication for my depression but all I've been doing so far it laying in my bed thinking about all the things I regret. I just can't stop thinking about all the things I'm mad about or things I should have done that could have helped me later on in life.
My Mom talked to me recently, to me she seems really frustrated about the fact that I'm not getting better. I know for a fact that she does not understand what it feels like to be depressed, it's feeling helpless and worthless. So, how can she expect me to help myself when I don't have the will power to and don't even know how?
I want to feel better but honestly I think I'm scared to get better. I worry so much about what I'm going to do in life and how things will change if I start to feel better. I just want everything to stop.

[0w6c379]

I kinda get what you're saying. When I'm feeling depressed and confide in my friends, they want to help but wind up saying things that just annoy me more. The crazy thing is I want someone to help me but whatever people say is not what I want to hear. There is no magic answer. I don't know what I need to hear either but the only person so far that does not say the usual annoying stuff is my T. Somehow he knows when to just listen and what to say to comfort me. I feel like I need comforting so bad. Someone who understands is the most comfort of all.

[montanan4ever]

I'm in a place like that right now, too. Afraid to talk to people because they'll just say that trite crap that makes it worse when you're in too deep to see the future. I hear you. It's a time to be endured and enduring is damned hard work :-(.

How long have you been on this course of treatment? Can you describe any differences at all (good, bad, ugly, weird, *anything*) since you went on the current medication regimen?

[Rohag]

Sleeping-T-Rex, does your mom know the details of what you've written about in your bio (on your profile page)? You've spent almost your entire life developing depression. You can have a satisfying, fulfilling future, but, in view of what you've experienced, gauging your progress against "normal" people's timelines is...probably counterproductive.

Depression can mean struggling to even want anything.

[shortandcute]

I agree with all of you. Rohag, I read part of a book about depression, call "Get it Done When You're depressed," and it says that depression is not the inability to do anything, it's the inability to want to do anything. I dont think I have it word for word, but that's the jist of it.

[shortandcute]

p.s. And try not to be too hard on yourself; i'm still affected by what I went through. But it has gotten easier.

[lonelyemotionalgirl]

I know how difficult it can be to have people trying to help, especially when they make things worse. Often, people who care about you want to help you, but they do not understand what you are going through.The best thing to help is to have someone who will just listen, and who can give you a hug when you need it. Also, I know it can be difficult to think about all of the things you regret, but since you cannot change the past, you can plan the things that you want to happen in the future, and make your upcoming parts of life better and easier. I am always here to talk if you need anything.

[adam_k]

I would tell your family healing takes time. You're not going to overcome depression overnight and a pill may not work. Sometimes people have to go thru a few medications and a few therapists before they find what works for them. I would just ask your family to be supportive, but not pushy.

[Lorilouise]

You are not alone! If I had a dime for every time someone told me to "just think happy thoughts", or "why are you sad?" I would be a millionaire depressed person.

[Sadley]

Sleeping-T-Rex,

I can relate to how you feel exactly. I am going through the same exact things now. I too just want everything to stop. I too do not know how anyone can help me, and it doesn't seem that they can. Obviously I don't have any advice for you, and I guess it was entirely pointless for me to even post, but I just felt like posting because I am so miserable. Talk about lack of willpower, I find it hard to do anything myself. I've never been better (that is not a good thing) so I'm scared to get better in that way also. Hm, I don't know what else to say.