[penguinsing]

I don't know what I sit in front of my computer pointlessly browsing here and there, without any purpose. I didn't enjoy and like the process. I don't know what I would still do it. And then I am upset at myself for wasting time.

And I am hurting myself too.


I feel so depress that I can't do anything.Have you been there?

I want to do things, but I am so lack of motivation, in anyting.

(Some people said just do it anyways, even you don't feel like you want to, but it's not a matter of want to or not. Coz I want to, but I can't.)
I want to take a shower, or brush my teeth, even these, I have hard time doing it,
I am that severely lack of motivation.

What can I do? Please help.

[Rohag]

Hello Penguinsing!

Originally Posted by penguinsing

I feel so depress that I can't do anything. Have you been there?

Yes, unfortunately.

Originally Posted by penguinsing

What can I do?

I've found no magic formula or psychological trick to overcome depressive apathy as I experience it. This is what I usually do in these instances:

• Calm myself as best I can.
• Wait for one of those erratic waves of energy to flow through me.
• Follow the energy in some direction until it's spent.

I have been able to evolve a minimal and fragile set of daily habits, and I know that from time to time those habits will break down. I also know that with patience those habits, or modified habits, can return. At best, though, I'm a poorly functioning individual.

I'm glad you had the focus and energy to post, Penguinsing. Please keep it up as you can.

[astronoe]

Hi penguinsing!

I know what you mean, to a much smaller extent, on finding the motivation to do certain things. And it makes you feel even worse because feel so pathetic and useless.

Can you harness that want to do those activities? Make yourself get up and do small things?

[Sam2]

Part of what depression consists of is the lack of motivation. It makes you tired, sad, sometimes phsically painful. This is not a time to think about taking on projects other than finding out what is at the bottom of your depression.

I really wish that depression and other emotional and psychiatric illnesses would not continue to be treated like oddities. Regardless of whether you actually read the tabloids at the store counter is immaterial. You see them, and they are covered with scandals about people being depressed, or having breakdowns etc. That makes it just that much harder for those of us who are depressed and makes us feel like we have something to be ashamed of.

Please don't blame your depression on yourself or think of yourself as lazy. Step out of yourself for a moment and ask yourself what you would think if you saw someone like you who was depressed and had no energy. Would you call them lazy?Would you think they were bad? Probably not. You need to give yourself the same courtesy you would give someone else who was hurting as you are.

I don't think I have run into you before, so I dont' know if you have been in therapy or not. If not, this would be a good time to look for a good therapist. If you have and were not happy with the one you had, you may just have had the wrong one. Just as you don't click with everyone you meet, not every therapist will be one you can work with. Many people have to go through two or three before finding one that they seem to do well with.

You are worth helping. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Depression doesn't mean you should give up. There is a way out. You just have to find it.

Sam2

[lonelyemotionalgirl]

I do not know how to help a lack of motivation, because I am currently feeling the same way. I always feel like I have time to get things done, but then I just lay around because I am tired, and then the time has passed, and it is time for bed. I feel like I am constantly wasting time, but it is too hard to focus on anything. My advice is to take one thing that you really like to do, and try your best to motivate yourself to do it, and remember how fun it is. See if that works. I am always here if you need to talk.

Depression, which all of you describe, is a treatable illness.

Some of us take an antidepressant; others take mood stabilizers, depending on the causes of the depression.

Please talk to your doctor to have medications prescribed and then get into therapy if things are troubling you that you need to discuss in confidence with a psychiatrist. That's the best way to move out of depression into the sunlight and enjoy your life, in my view.

Once you have done that, you need to examine your diet to make sure
things are all good nutritional foods that you are eating. We can talk about that later, if you wish.

Please continue to talk to the forum members for support and helpful
information.

[MusicalRaven]

I have this same issue. I find that I can't even get out of bed to take a shower without it being a huge chore. I finally told my doctor who was the first person I told that I felt this way. He was very kind. Now I am in therapy and trying to fid a medicine that works. For now I try to just be kinder to myself and tell myself that it's okay to not have motivation as long as you're trying.