[Psyclox]

Its just so hard to get up in the morning, especially around this time of year, this year I lost 7 friends, either to suicide or car accidents, its just not fair, I mean why must the people we care about die I mean just a couple of months ago I found out that my child hood best friend died in a car accident, now I sit and wonder whats the point of it all, lets not even mention the fact that last night I saw Brenda the one person in my life that I could rely on, is doing drugs , even though she blamed it for Gareths death, now she doing it, what am I supposed to do, everything is just falling apart for me, nobody understands me, it feels like I'm falling in a black abyss of nothingness. New years is coming up and I feel that I might not make through to the new year, I am hurting badly on the inside and all anybody sees is a smiling person who is happy with the way things go and if I try and talk about it all they tell me is that I must just forget about it and go on with my life. Why do I even bother?

[jlove973]

I have a friend and her Husband just took his life and I told her that she should seek a Grieving group. Also, people that do that IMHO-are very selfish people. They don't think about anyone except them selves. He had a wife and a 1 yr old daughter. All I can do for her is offer an ear and a helping hand.
When my Mom passed away recently, I was told the same thing by people they told me that "You must just forget about it and go on with your life" a lot of people really do not understand, especially if they haven't been there. I learned that everyone Grieves differently, and it could take longer for some, then others to move on. You will never forget them it will just get easier to cope with. Some days are harder then others. Definitely at this time of year it is 100% harder to deal with. I'm here for you if you need someone to talk to. That's what I can do is lend an ear. Sometimes talking about it is the best therapy for you.
Here Always!
Jlove

[Boopers]

Oh Psyclox,

I'm so very sorry. Wow, seven friends! That's alot to deal with. It's much more to deal with than a person can do alone.
You need help and you need it fast. Is there anyone you can talk to that will understand? I hate it when people say get over it. It isn't a matter of getting over it. It's the loss of a friend or loved one. It's going on day after day knowing you will never see them again.
You need to see a T. Is it possible?
I'm sorry about your friend. It sounds like your friend is going to need alot of help now, too.
If there is no one you can turn to, keep coming here and venting. It's amazing how it will help, just talking about it and you know we will never judge you.
I'm wishing the best for you. Take care of yourself. Think of the New Year as a New beginning. You can make of it whatever you want.
Hugs,
Linda

[PaulS]

It is so so dangerous to reduce death to a slogan.