[Purplesept2007]

I just feel like I can't take it anymore. I want to go down the rabbit hole and never come out it would be so much easier to quit this gig. I am tired of fighting, I am tired of caring I am just plain tired of everything right now. Ugh...

((Snuggles))

Hang in there..... we are rooting for you!

[gayleggg]

Yes, it is hard to keep carrying on when it hurts so bad. But you have to have faith that it can and will get better at some point. Hang in there during the meantime. Know you are not alone, I too feel tired of trying some days. It is a daily struggle. Take time to get plent of rest.

[Frankbtl]

Hi Snuggles22, why not "hide out" a bit here with us, hey??
I know it can be really hard but maybe we can help a little with the way you're feeling. And maybe you can "share the load" a bit, whether we can help you feel understood/less alone, offer you some support or even give you a little hope that it can get better.............
So perhaps have a look around, there are some great people on here (including those who have already answered this!!), and you know, if you want to/if it may help, you can always tell us a bit more about what's going on for you...........
So welcome to PC!! We're here for you!!
Alison

[Purplesept2007]

I wish I really knew what was going on...I have some family members that have major health issues so I know that is part of it. My Dad has COPD and everything associated with it this year has been really tough I think he has been in the hospital or rehab more than he has been out. Just hard to watch. One of our daughters has Lupus has been denied disability she just got a lawyer today that feels he can win a appeal which would so much help out the family. She is so young and in so much pain doesn't seem fair. I help out quite a bit since I retired two years ago. I guess it is hard for me to watch. You really can not know how much it means for me to see that you are here for me. My husband who is the best man in the world comes home soon so I must put on a different face because I know he is frustrated and tired of it all lately so I cannot show that side to him not sure how much more he can take.

[glok]

Hello, Snuggles. Knowledge is power. Dr. Grohol has given us the means to empowerment with his writings:

Depression Symptoms, Information and Treatment - Psych Central

[Frankbtl]

Hi Snuggles, about your dad: maybe it would help if you had either more or less involvement in what's going on for him?? I'll explain!!
A bit more: maybe if you were more part of his appointments you could get a bit more solid/concrete information to work with, maybe you could be more prepared with what's going on/going to go on for him, you might even get some reassurance about how he is- we can always be thinking the worse if we aren't sure/aren't "in the loop" fully. But, yes, maybe you could feel a bit more in control??
A bit less: Just make sure you've got some "time out" for yourself. Time when you can try to cut off/let go of what's going on. Even if that's some activity you can find that you enjoy or can loose yourself in a bit.
And as for your daughter, again it must be really hard. Bu can I ask if you have any support groups around you or that you can access online. I'm sure there are some out there but not sure how wide spread they are. It might be good for you to get some back-up/support/advise from other people in the same position as yourself, it must be really hard for you.
And your husband: "best man in the world".....well you know if that's the case do you think maybe you could take the mask off a little??? He may be hurting but so are you too, and perhaps this could be the perfect time for you both to support each other and come together on this if you could encourage him to talk a little?? You may need each other just as much as ever now, so worth trying to start moving some of those obstacles. It may not be easy but, maybe together...........???
And you now know you have our support too!!!
Alison

[Purplesept2007]

On Dad my parents live 2 1/2 hours away (Mom does not drive) and my daughter is only 15 minutes away. I am involved as much as I can. March was a really hard month for both my Dad (some close calls on not being here anymore) and daughter so I was going crazy splitting time up. Would spend a week to week and half at my parents so I could do all transportation back and worth to hospital and everywhere else. My brother lives only 10 minutes away so he gets so much of it I try to give him a break when I can. Seemed as soon as I would come back daughter was not doing good it was extremely tough as I could not be at both places at same time of course. I have tried online for support for parents with adult children having lupus haven't had much luck on that. On hubby he has been there through it all and when I came out of the hospital 7 years ago I said no more mask. Did good until lately we have done some very serious talking about everything I think he is giving as much as he can. I think it is really hard for him to see how good I was and wish I could be there again plus not sure why it went down hill. Plus we talked and honestly it is hard for him to see all the money go out and feel like not getting results. I did try to explain to him how priceless my therapist has been over the years. I can email whenever I need too and she graciously will respond that is going above and beyond. She has been a lifeline many times and when others get tired or whatever she says we will get through this together. She is totally objective but has my back when it is so hard sometimes for others. So for hubby I need to give him a break I think he is getting to a breaking point. He definitely tries to understand were I am coming from but it is difficult for him. Please I am not being mean to the guys out there but I think most men see things black and white. At least for me I see things in gray. I truly like being able to talk to people that totally get were I am coming from. I believe it will make it easier to get through the tough days.