i hate christmas

yes.

you heard me right.

christmas sucks

especially when you're spending it alone with no prospects of any gifts or any cheer at all

is anyone else spending christmas alone and how are you coping

Not this year but I have spent many of them alone. Just another day is the way I looked at it but it was still very lonely.

i always get very reved up for xmas every year but then my sisters start to come to town and everything changes. my parents are split up but they both bow down for both of them. if my sister wants something she will get it. they will go to the movies or just watch movies and they never invite me. it seems like ever since i have been back and got out the family treaets me like a sick puppy that you just ignore. im sick and tired of nobody wanting to help me. this week i have had 5 people make plans with me and then ditch me not text me back call or anything. what did i do to people to make them not like me so much. yes i have PTSD yes i am diffrent but still im a person and should be treated that way.

I have no one to spend christmas with. No one wants my companionship. For me christmas is about fellowship. Most years I volunteer to work because that is better than spending the day alone. Working at least gives me some purpose. Working that day helps to keep the depression from getting worse.

Who needs presents anyway?

To me I've seen too much out of America with the whole thing that buying things would make people happy nowadays.

Advertising for shopping just sickens me now. It just shows how America is all about going BIG with the economy.

Most people aren't even happy with what they get anyways, and they just buy it just to have it.

Now that I'm 18, I look back on my childhood, and I am disappointed in myself for having all those toys that I wanted spent on me, never ending up being played with. It was just something for me to have, like everyone else brainwashed by commercialism.

Despite being given gifts, I still think it would be cool if you spent the money you worked hard for on something nice for yourself (I'm saying this because I don't have a job yet). You know, treat yourself to the holidays

I'm spending Christmas alone, and have for the past couple of years. I actually like it I enjoy the break away from people. I agree with BubonicPlague as well - people are to obsessed with buying the next plastic thing that will break apart and fail within five days of use. I think we'd all be better off if we stopped buying crap and started buying experiences and knowledge - things we will keep forever. But then, the jury is out on if I'm insane so take it with a grain of salt

I'll be alone, but I have been for many years and I'm fine with it as long as it's quiet in the neighboring apartment. Their loud music makes things a lot worse. But otherwise I don't mind it.

I have spent many years having Christmas alone. At first I hated it. But now I feel like I've gotten used to it. But it still hurts when Christmas comes.

For me, it's a nice period for a couple of weeks before Christmas. But when Christmas Eve comes, then I feel bad. Although it's not that bad for me if the weather is nice and I can go bike riding. Christmas just means a day off from work for me - but that in itself is nice.

It's worse for me on New Year's Eve at night. New Year's Day is my birthday. I get depressed now when I get a year older.

Growing up, my house was the place to be, a huge party. The entire neighborhood showed up to party. Poker and carols and food.
It's not like that anymore. The more I heal, the more I see the whole thing as the big sham that it was. I wish my family could really have been what that one day looked like.

1 thing i will say, is that you're ntot crazy at all.

i think people do spend too much on toys and stuff they want, and less time thinking about people less fortunate. and in that sense it sucks. it's almost like a rush to see who has the most expensive thing by the end of the year

and this is why i never want anything. i'd be greatful with a pair of socks. no. seriously. i would

I have the offers but i never feel like it's Christmas, its all full of fake feelings and fills me with even more intense emotions that I can not handle.

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I think that many people have lost sight of what Christmas is really about-giving thanks and spending time with those they love or doing something that matters...the holiday spirit is forced on us literally months in advance so it's no wonder people dont like the holiday.

For me, I'm having a hard time with the loneliness aspect and I plan on doing something to negate those negative feelings. We all have something to be thankful for in our lives and that is something that I need to redirect my focus too...and by doing that, I'm hoping that will be the best Xmas gift that I can give myself! Hopefully...

I do hear ya. I've worked most holidays, and prefer spending time making a difference for others. Love the volunteering idea! Workmates can be a great family. Now when I don't work on a holiday, especially Christmas or Thanksgiving, I feel lost. I aim to re-define holidays. Personally, i need to shut out all the TV advertising etc, and try to see the simplest beauty, and the smallest kind acts. It's hard, though. the weight of expectations can be heavy.

today my aunt and sister and her boyfriend got in. we are making pizza. i was the one who planed all this well i planned it at our house but then somebody didnt want to go to my house so we are doing it in my grandmas trailer. 20 people in a trailer. and everybody is ignoring me. i was sitting somewherer so i could use my tablet to talk on here. well i got up for just a second my drink was there and everything. and my dad sat there i came back and asked can i have my seat back please. he gave me a dirty look. i said can i have my seat back i was sitting there and just got up for a second. he says fine whatever have your seat back with an additude. like wtf. this is the only place i can sit thwere i can charge my tablet while i type becuase i forgot to charge it last night.

I also dislike Christmas, people are stressed and running all over the place. I no longer participate in "holidays". I spend time with family, but refuse to spend all kinds of money on presents. We usually go out for a nice dinner and enjoy spending time together.

i wish that i could spend time with my family and enjoy it. when ever i am there nobody will talk to me except for my aunt. after she broke up with her bf she is an awesome person. i do not enjoy being around family though and also will not buy presents. my mom always buys me clothes for xmas. stuff that i do not like do not need.

Christmas is very rough for a lot of people--it's a hard time of year.

One year, when I got raped, my mom bought me hooker clothes to make fun of me for what happened.

Wow. Just wow.

Wow omg shortandcute. That's is horrible. I would resent my mom for the rest of my life. Why would she do that to you? Did she find it a joke or something. My dad doesn't grasp my combat PTSD and makes jokes about it a lot.

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I always spend Xmas with my immediate family - it feels like just another day to me nowadays, but I should consider myself lucky to have at least someone to spend it with.

I totally agree with what you are saying re consumerism - the advantage of not having friends is that I don't have to buy or receive a lot of crap that just clutters up the house. Experiences, though, are something I should aim towards getting.

Hoping to get my son home for Christmas

disparaissant. where is your son now? and why would u not get him home for xmas? and im depedating on weather to buy xmas presents for anybody. i have no income so i would have to use my moms money. but both my mom and dad and little sister treat me like crap. and my older sister now gets along with me but at one point we did not. when i was gone in afghan i gave her the keys to my appartment i was living in and contorol over my bank acount to make payments for my appartment. i had a dog with me at my appartment so she needed to be taken out in the morning and night and be fed so that is why i gave the keys to my sister. when i came home it was 3am in the morning i was looking forward to getting back and seeing my dog. i came home and door was locked but the inside looked as if somebody broke in and robbed the place. all my electroniccs were missing there was dog poop everywhere you could stand i had all of my guns missing and my pills stollen and all my military gear which costs thousands of dollars. she had robbed me and almost killed my dog. she didnt pay my appartment i got evicted and she cleaned out my bank account. and she was no where to be found none of my family would tell me where she was. i ended up loosing over $10000 in stuff and owing the military $4000 for my missing gear. and had $2000 missing from my bank account. now do i buy these people pressents and rewward them just beecause its tradition to do so? i have to decide by tomorrow. please somebody help me make this dessision

Spending Christmas alone... Well, with my German Shepherd hehe.... I spent the last 2 Christmases like this...

Over the course of the past 10 years or so I removed my emotional interest in holidays (including my birthday, so I no longer have any expectations on these dates. I do have fond memories of this time of year during my youth but I'm at peace with everything now....

A hug goes out to any and all of you who are feeling lonely or hurting around this time of year...