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Old Mar 25, 2007, 04:15 PM
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just to save me some time, and typing, I have provided a link to kinda, 'my story' on how I lost my children if any of you care to read it.....
http://suicideforum.com/showthread.php?t=24741

Now, since all that, I have remarried, and it been 4 yrs. now, and things were great in the beginning, Ive hit a real slump with my depression, and cant seem to get out of it, he has said to me last friday...I have 30 days to shape up basically, and start helping him around the house, start getting errands done, which, I agree I should do, but, he gave me a deadline, and said if not then, he's leaving me!!!! Just like that, and yet, I dont know what to do, I cant just snap too....please help....really struggling here....thanks..Misfits.......dont want to fail at this marriage....

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Old Mar 25, 2007, 04:45 PM
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sorry you are struggling at the moment , im sorry i do not have any advice for you at the moment, other than take one day at a time /one step at a time
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Old Mar 25, 2007, 04:46 PM
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(((((((((((((((((MIsfitAmongstMisfits)))))))))))))))))))) I read your post in the other forum. I am so sorry for all the pain and loss you have had to endure. I am also sorry you have been unable to obtain the support you needed. Maybe you could consider finding a t chosen by you for you? Your post indicates you are depressed which, as you state, you can not just snap out of. Possibly you could find some outside support and discuss with your husband how you are finding help? Please PM me if you want. I am so sorry things are this hard.
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Old Mar 25, 2007, 05:57 PM
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i'm so sorry that you're having such a hard time now. i hope you can find a T to talk to IRL........please keep posting. xoxox pat
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Old Mar 25, 2007, 06:38 PM
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Thanks, all.....for suppport....I do have a T ....just was hoping someone would have some advice, on how to get through this, he sees me as so much more capable than I am right now, and its a hard role for me to fit into...please help
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Old Mar 25, 2007, 06:44 PM
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Do you think you can tell your t where you are in regards to how capable you actually feel? The best way they can help you is to know how you are feeling and coping (or not). Is your husband willing to go to a t session with you and are you willing to let him go and have your t help describe what all you are dealing with? I feel for your pain and concern. Take care.
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Old Mar 25, 2007, 07:56 PM
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well, T's been on vacation and is until Tues. I have brought hubby with me to some meetings, and he knows T well, and can call her anytime, but he's never given me a countdown before, and Im real freaked about that, Ive doing all I can to just hold on these past few years, and sometimes, I just get into a big slump.....I dont know, just wish he didnt say, ok countdown, 26 more days, you know....does that make any sense???
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Old Mar 25, 2007, 09:14 PM
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I really don't know what else to suggest. I sympathize with your situation and really do feel for your pain. I am sorry that I have no more ideas. Please take care and know I am here.
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Old Mar 25, 2007, 10:28 PM
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thank you so much Bipolar Bear....you are very kind to have taken the time to read my whole story, and I really appreciate that so much, I am very happy for your offer of support and sympathy, I think right now, if its ok with, thats good for me, I could use a hug even All ready loss children, now loosing husband too depression..., cause I know I should be doing something to better my situation, its just so hard to bring the part of me back, its like a piece of my heart was killed that day, emotionally, and it stops to exist anymore, and I try, I really, do, I put on happy music, try to smile, try to read positive things, but someitmes it just doesnt work, and I find myself desperately searching for crazy SI thoughts, and Im sorry, I just feel like Im crying on your shoulder, and thats not fair, thank for listening, and for taking the time to read the other post.....Im sorry, Im not easy to advise All ready loss children, now loosing husband too depression...
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i'm sorry that you're still in so much pain. i wish that we could lift you up and fly you away......but, we can't....but we can listen and bi-polar bear is a great one for that............i'm going to bed soon but will be on here tomorrow night. hang in there, xoxoxo pat
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Old Mar 25, 2007, 10:41 PM
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I just see your pain not crying on my shoulder. And if you do don't worry I have lots of fur. All ready loss children, now loosing husband too depression... Don't worry about fair or not fair as I just want to give you what support I can. Oh and most importantly....... ((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((MisfitAmongstMisfits)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
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Old Mar 26, 2007, 05:50 AM
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thanks BB....for your support and for the hug All ready loss children, now loosing husband too depression... ......just wish this cloud would lift from me, and let me save my marriage, just so numb right now, about all of it....depression S*cks......
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