depression and loss

hi
i am new i just lost my dad and things are hard without
him around. my problem is sleeping and eating right
to gain some weight back that a lost and the dr said it
is important to gain this weigth any help would be great
i am at a loss right now .thank you

how old are you? if you are in school, can you talk to a counselor?
or see a therapist? please let me know........pat

Hi (((((((((((((Samm)))))))))))))))
I'm so sorry to hear about your dad. And i know that no matter what any one of us says its not going to bring him back, but you really need to just focus on taking care of yourself, as hard as that is. I think we both know that your dad wouldn't want to see you hurting yourself (by not eating) ... so even if you can just try a little bit at a time. We are all hear to help support you, and listen.
And like fayerody asked, is there anyone that you can talk to like a counsellor?
Keep in touch ...

Jacq

hi jacq
yes you are so right that is what a lot of people are telling
me my dad would not want to see me like this.
i am trying to eat more a little each day i am now trying
to drink ensure a bottle a day to add some weight is hard but trying i have one a day but need to add one more.i am talk to former co worker and extent family members for
support,and then i found this group.i hope this will be
add support thank you for ans so soon it is a big
help to know that others or out there too.they say it important to sleep at least 5 hour to gain some weight but that is hard some nights only 4 hours and some no sleep.
my dad had a long life but it is still hard.he was my best friend. stay well and thanks again

((((((((Samm)))))))))
You sound like such a sweet person, you can do this, you can get through this. I'm glad to hear that you are doing some things to help yourself even if they don't seem like that much to you - but they really are. Keep doing what you're doing, talking to people, eating/drinking a little bit at a time, and sleeping. You're on the right track.
Feel free to PM (message) me if you ever want to chat/need someone to listen ... anytime.
Take good care
Jacq

hi
no i am not in school i left my job to care for dad
he was 96 yr old and now without him i feel losted
we were very close.i try to stay postive but it is hard
i cannot work now with the weight loss and mental health
down to tubs.my former boss will not take be back until
i can gain some weight and think right. but that is hard as it has only been a few week. thank you for your kind
thoughts.

((((samm))) Loss is so hard.

I think to remember to eat is a good first step, even when you aren't feeling like eating...if it's time to eat, eat. And try having a small snack in between each meal.

Grieving takes time...and it does take all your thinking and feeling...so you are right, it's only been a week and you might need more time before you begin to level out. I think your weight will level back out too, once the heavy grieving is passed.

SKY MY DAD PASSED IN NOV I AM TRYING TO EAT SEVERAL SMALL MEALS AN ADD THE WEIGHT. I HAVE BLOOD SUGAR PROBLEMS SO EATING ANYTHING IS NOT GOOD BUT I HAVE TO GAIN WEIGHT AND GET MY SUGAR DOWN. SLEEPING WITH PILLS IS JUST NOW WORKING FOR ME. I HAVE NO SIBLINGS AND MY FAMILY IS ALL OVER THE WORLD. THANK YOU FOR YOUR KIND WORDS I HOPE YOU KEEP ME IN YOUR THOUGHTS IT IS COMFORTING TO KNOW OTHERS ARE HERE .THANKS AGAIN weeks

((((((((((((samm))))))))))))
Try eating "comfort foods" like bread, or pasta, rice, potatoes etc ... those might help gain wait a little faster.
I'm sorry to hear that none of your family lives nearby .. do you have any close friends that you can talk to?
You're in my thoughts too...
take good care
Jacq

Oh Samm,

I am so very sorry for your loss. I know how you are feeling. I have also lost my Dad and my Mom.

You feel so lost. I hope that you can eat for your Dad. Every bite you take, do it for your Dad. That may help.
I am sorry that you don't have support close to you. Wishing that your family would check in on you.
Please keep posting to let us know how you are feeling. We do really care what happens to you.
Sending you gentle hugs,
Boopers
(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((Samm))))))))))))))))))))))))

dear boopers,
sorry to hear of your loss
i am trying to eat and stay strong but i am having problems,
my weight loss make me feel less well and my blood sugar is up. today i am staying in bed for i am crying all day
feelilng lost and alone . greif is hard and today i feel no love from god,and i see no joy or hope.i feel like taking a handful of pill and meeting the rest of my family,someday or better but today is a down down day i know i will have this kind of day and have push on in life but it hurts real bad today.
thank you for your support

dear jacq
the dr has me on anti depesion med now and i am
drinking a soy protein mix and the weight has not come on yet but my body is changing. the med is helping me to sleep so i am happy about that and today i am having a freind for dinner to help me eat a little more food, if i have some one to eat with then i eat more
take care thanks again for your support

Samm, It was good to see you in chat yesterday. Hope you are feeling better. We are here if you need us. Keep in touch. Sincerely, Cajun

Oh Samm,

Please don't do anything that you will regret. I do know how you feel. I wanted so bad to be able to join my Mom and Dad again. I didn't care whether I lived or died. In fact, I wanted to die.
Well, I almost got my wish. Right after, I came down with a very rare illness and was on life support and in a coma for three and a half weeks. The team of docs told my family to say goodbye.
Samm, I pulled through. I do remember very vividly of almost going to the other side. I was almost there but for some reason, I was sent back.
You are left here for a reason. Sometimes it's hard to find that reason but know that it's there. I have not spoke of this very many times, in fact, I don't know if I have ever spoke of this but something in me told me to tell you about my experience.
I wish I could give you a hug and tell you that everything will be OK but I do know that it is going to take a long time to feel better.
Please keep posting and let us know how you are doing.
I care,
Hugs,
Boopers

dear cajun
i had to leave early from the chat as i care for an edler
women my dad was friends with as he could not walk the stairs at her home. she is 89 and bedridden.will be in the chat again this week. i am on drugs now and it will take 4 week for it to work. i will keep in touch with the chat room and postings thanks again for your help

dear boopers
i felt i was alone in feeling like that,but i see i am not alone with take feeling after the loss of a parent. my dad and i were close these last few years.i am now at a loss but know that it will take time to find myself . i hope that this drug will help me feel right again in time. the dr has me on zoloft.one a day at bed time the help me sleep.hopefully this will get my weight up also.i feel bad at this low weight even tho at one time i felt it was by best weight now it is the
poor weight for good health for me. thanks again

Samm,
Happy to hear from you. Look forward to another chat.
Take care, Cajun

Hi Samm,

I do hope that the Zoloft will work for you. Yes, the bad part is, it takes a few weeks to start working.
I do hope and pray that you can gain some weight back. You are in the fight of your life and I know that you can win.
I hope that every day that passes, the hurt of the loss will be less.
Know that my heart is with you and please keep us posted as to how you are doing.
I have thought about you many times and my wish is that you get better.
Hugs,
Boopers

dear boopers
hi
i am having one of those down weeks. i am staying in bed this week and have only been out 2 days plus it is too cold to be out and running around.i got to sleep 6 hours last night and i know my body is changing with the soy protein that i drink to add lean musle mass so tha tis working. the med is taking my appitate away but i try to eat more each day .this greif is hard, i dad not have this with other family
members deaths.i don't know what cause this to be like this maybe is was out of left field his death that caused this to happen. trying hard to stay sane.

cajun

i will be in the chat tomorrow