[ally88]

hey again everyone, Im still struggling so much with my breakup, i cant take it anymore. not to mention whats making it worse is that nobody in my family even tries to understand. my family says that i "choose" to be sad and think i should get over it, not to mention one of my friends also, that says it behind my back. why is everyone so cruel?? why would i choose to be sad? i feel so alone. i cant take this ANYMORE!! why is life so hard?? i feel like lying down and dying, and i feel like nobody would even notice or even if they did, would they care?? so sick of it all. all i do is lay at home, sleep and go to school. life is so depressing and the boredom doesnt help one bit. my depression is doing nothing but worsening. i just need a hug. somebody, please?? help me?

[(JD)]

((((((((((((((((((((((hug)))))))))))))))))))))))))) hang in there!

[MamazAngel]

Hey girl, Keep your head up Break-ups can be really tough and no one truly knows how you feel but you. You don't "choose" to be sad, it happens, especially in a break-up when you loose someone you love very much, and the "getting over it" part?? I wish i could tell you that it is easy, it is very tough and sometimes I don't think you truly do get over some people. Sure, U move on, and it gets a little easier everyday, but on the other hand, there will always be the memories u had w/ your significant other, and you may think about him and wonder what he is doing and if he is happy, but as long as you can pick yourself up and dust yourself off and move onto the next, you will be ok. Trust me, I have been through it many times, some hurt ALOT more than others, but im a survivor of the relationship thing and I think U will be Alright You just have to stay strong and remember, U will heal when U are ready to, no one else can do that for you. Stay Strong! ((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))))))) If you need to talk, e-mail me! Im here for ya! <3, Mamazangel Pittbullam7373@yahoo.com

[Soidhonia]

Hello Ally.
I hope things get better for you soon. Try to do something for yourself and get your mind off of everything for a while it helps you feel better somewhat. Take care and good day Soidhonia

[wells03]

Babe, you will be ok...Time will pass and you will feel better everyday, Try meditating, it helps, think positive. Don't ever feel like no one understands, there are more people out there then you think (I'm here for you). My heart breaks to read these words, and not be able to help you see past the hurt that you are going through, but if i was able to make it out of the same type of pain, then so can you. And it is ok to feel sad, then you will get mad, then you will get over it...There is a light at the end of the tunnel, you just haven't gotten far enough to see it yet...but it will be there soon enough.

[nicole84]

I have just gone through a breakup this week too I feel your pain trust me!!!

Nothing said can help, everything seems so wrong and confusing and nothing takes the pain away.

What i've tried to do is focus on other things e.g. getting a job, cleaning, going for walks helps a tad. Also some candles and nice incense is good to relax.

With that said, there is no quick fix.. the pain will ease slowly and it is like hell...

[snowflake_48888]

((((((((((ally))))))))
I think the family and friends say that because they either do not know what its like or they have different coping skills. What you feel is not wrong...a break up is like a death....it takes time to heal. And there is no set time frame for that..we are all different. Don't pretend to be over it...grieve..cry...get mad...get through all the emotions and you will feel better. Unfortunately time and release is the key...
Snow

[Munchie]

Hi Ally,

I am new to this forum, but not new to the day-to-day challenges that are part of living life with a mental illness. For the past 29 years I have battled with major depresssive disorder, and have been in that same dark, hopeless place that you are right now, but I am still here! It will get better.

Allow yourself permission to feel bad; we all have times when we are on autopilot and numb; because that is how we survive. So don't let other's ignorance and insensitivity get to you; feel sorry for them because they will never feel the depths of emotions that you have been gifted.