[MissCharlotte]

I have been working on some very difficult and sad topics in therapy but I can't reach my tears. I feel so very sad and I feel like I am crying inside but my tears don't flow. Last week when I was alone at home and writing a letter I cried for a minute but then it stopped. I need to release these sad sad feelings but don't know how. I think I held them in for so long that they are stuck but i don't want to carry them around forever. I just wish I could cry.

Hi Sister,
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Just wanted to give you a hug.

[January]

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You and I are very alike. It's so hard to hold all those feelings inside. I do so much hope you can learn to cry.

Hugs,

Jan

[pegasus]

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I understand, I don't cry either.

[SecretGarden]

Well fortunately or unfortunately...depending on how you look at it I am a star cryer. Sometimes I can not believe there can be so many in a person. I hit a low last week and over the weekend I watched many movies that I ran across on TV and boohoooed at an amazing rate. One after another as I was on the computer here and other places. Might that help?

I am sorry... Wishing you a release.... a cleansing...

How did you feel when you were writing and found yourself tearing up? Did you feel guilty or sad or happy ... that you were finally emoting? Sometimes we tell ourselves or our memories, parents, etc.... tell us not to cry. If you feel guilt... please allow yourself to release your guilt in crying. I may be way off and if I am ... excuse me. It is o.k. to feel your emotions and it is o.k. to cry and you can even feel joy at being able to release. You are allowed.

I also wonder what you might do to facilitate your tears... Sad music or memorable music, art exploration by looking at art or creating your own... continuing to think of stuff. good luck.

[MamazAngel]

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Hang in there Hun

<3,
MamazAngel

I know exactly how your feeling, as far as not being able to cry. Being a very arrogant stubbern male I find myself not wanting to cry infront of parents,friends, yet when I do its ok usually, but at not, I usually crawl in bed and cry, sometimes its EXTREMLY hard. Look I dont know how to make anyone cry I'm nice, but I do agree crying is a relief, and I pray so hard you find that relief just in the right way. Take care? K ? Msg me ANYTIME please .

[MissCharlotte]

Thank you all for your thoughts and hugs. This morning, one tear rolled down my cheek. It's progress.........

[MissCharlotte]

Secret,

I don't think I feel guilt but there are definitely embedded messages from my childhood that tell me not to feel; that I am not worth it; that it is self indulgent; ;you know, "I'll give you something to cry about!" When I wrote the letter I was writing about something very painful to me. I was able to tell someone about that in writing. Maybe I should write my t a letter. But then i think I would be too embarrassed to show him. TY for your thoughts.

p.s. what movies did you watch? Maybe I'll rent them.

[SecretGarden]

Oh.... sister... I seem to be able to cry currently. I am trying to remember but I know I watched a couple of Tom Hanks flix.... Philadelphia and Castaway. I think I actually watched Castaway twice... cried both times.

[littlemissjess]

I so agree with you. I went to my T the other day, and she mentioned the death of my grandmother. Usually I burst into tears, but I didn't. I feel so dead inside when I speak or think about it all, but with my T I acted calm. I never cry though no matter what the topic is. And when I do cry it's always at the wrong time/place. Goodluck with everything for you though!

[desperado]

sister, i am where you are sometimes.............you have a huge emotional need to cry but physically, the tears just don't come...................like they are dormant or something.................

they will come........they will come........they do for me.......almost everyday now...........

try watching sad movies like Secret suggested............or sad music............or god, the news this week.........they will come when you least expect it -- always carry kleenex............

you have my hugs.

des

sister,

I don't know if you are on meds or not, but antidepressants caused me to not be able to cry. I have seen others post about this too (on the medication board, I think).

I've since quit taking meds and can and do cry easily--too easily sometimes! But I hated that I couldn't cry on meds, so I don't mind it too much.

If you're talking about these things, you are on your way to the emotions about them. Give it some more time and for sure don't judge yourself about whether you cry or not.

Crying might be a good topic for a session....


ECHOES

[Christina86]

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[MissCharlotte]

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littlemissjess said:
I feel so dead inside when I speak or think about it all,

Sometimes I have this feeling too, but with me it stops my tears from flowing. Actually, this week, I felt like i had two faces, the first face was just blank and the face behind my face was crying.

[SecretGarden]

Music is huge for me. HUGE. When I am low there are some CD's I know that will just bring forth a deluge....and when I need to feel better there is music that will help.

The Poet... difficult CD indeed. Do you care for classical?

The Poet - Romances for Cello... Michael Hoppe/Martin Tilmann

I find it hard to cry also, all gets caught up in my chest or just becomes a big brick wall of yuk/

[MissCharlotte]

Echoes,

re meds. Yes I am taking lexapro and have been wondering about its effect on my tears. However, I recall having this problem before i started the anti-d. I think I'll give it a little more time. Thanks, and yes I think crying or not is a good topic for discussion with T.

[MissCharlotte]

Secret,

Music is a big big force in my life as well. My son is a musician. I love all types of music and wlll attempt your classical suggestion. Wonder if I can get it on I-tunes? I'll let you know. Thanks for the tip.

Sister

[SecretGarden]

I am sure I have more....

I just know that when I am trying to stop crying... that is one I avoid. It moves me. Most of my stuff is at work. (Helps me survive....headphones and all) I will look about tomorrow and see what I see.