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Apr 19, 2007, 09:00 AM
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First I lost my boyfriend, and now my best friend.
I had realised that things weren't going the best with us and the friendship was one sided with me and her. She had caused problems in my life, but I still love her. I can't decide whether to forgive her and try and move on or if the things that have happened are too much to move on and stay friends for?! She contributed alot to me and my bf breaking up too, and i'm still talking to him and getting along so far. I'm stuck in a position I have no idea what to do whatsoever... I may just end up losing them both |
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Apr 19, 2007, 09:07 AM
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 (((((((((((((( Nicole ))))))))))))))
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Apr 19, 2007, 10:19 AM
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(((((nicole))))))
When I read your post some red flags came up to me. A friendship should never be one sided, cause you problems, or contribute to the breaking up of your relationship. To me friendship is with you through thick and thin, to support you, to be uplifting, to be honest/truthful, caring, etc. not damaging to your spirit. Only you can make that decision but try to think it through before hand. Don't let feelings speak for you....wait a few days..think about it...and then decide what you need for you! not what others need or want from you. Snow
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Apr 19, 2007, 11:50 AM
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nicole i don't have too much to offer but i agree with snowflake. i've had those one sided friendships and they are really not healthy. friends are supposed to make you feel better not worse. i hope things get better soon.....
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Apr 19, 2007, 11:58 AM
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Agree with snowflake...
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Apr 19, 2007, 09:15 PM
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Yeah and now she's gotten really upset over it all. I told her truthfully about the situations she's put me in and how it has hurt me. She'd say things about my now ex that wasn't nice, she'd abuse others and make me feel uncomfortable. She's very outspoken but I think sometimes just a bit too much.
But now the guilts are being put on me... shes not happy cos i didn't contact her for 2 days when i said i needed thinking time... now it seems its all my fault... |
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Apr 19, 2007, 09:48 PM
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Nicole, PLEASE believe me when I say that this is not healthy for you at all!! I was in a very similar situation, and the emotional abuse this "best friend" of mine put me through led to my self-injury and many of my maladjusted thought patterns. I hope and pray your situation isn't anywhere near that bad, but if she is using guilt to try and make you do what SHE wants without considering you at all, it's time for you to GET OUT! No friend treats people they love like that.
  I truly hope all of this works out in the best way for you, and I'm sorry for both your losses--even though losing this friend might be healthy, it is still horribly painful. luck&love, ~muse
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Apr 19, 2007, 09:51 PM
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Once again nicole...a true friend would not turn things around to cause you the guilt.
Snow
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Apr 20, 2007, 02:24 AM
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((((((((((nicole)))))))))))))
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Apr 27, 2007, 01:20 AM
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Yeah I ended up telling her I couldn't be friends. In a very adult way but she didn't take it too well. Ended up getting one of her friends to push me and then she threw a drink on me... talk about immature. Guess i'm much better off without her in my life!!!
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Apr 27, 2007, 11:06 AM
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Hello Nicole.
I am very sorry you are going through all of this at one time. I am sure you are overwhelmed, but you have nothing to feel guilty about for making an adult decision to keep yourself and your mental health safe. No one deserves to be mistreated in any manner not even in a relationship, friendship or otherwise, so id you are safe then you made the best decision for yourself to no longer be friends with this person. I hope things get better for you soon, and you feel better soon. Take care. Soidhonia
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Apr 27, 2007, 11:08 AM
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I had replied but it didn't post. Hugs and hugs.
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Apr 27, 2007, 02:54 PM
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(((((((((((((((nicole)))))))))))))))
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Apr 27, 2007, 03:06 PM
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((((((((((((((((( nicole )))))))))))))))))
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