do you ever feel like you weren't designed to successfully live in the body you have?

I swear sometimes I feel like I wasn't made right. I can't do some of the simplest things in life on a regular basis. On the outside it appears to people I know like I can handle ANYTHING. But if you lived with me like my dh does you would know that you can't count on me to make dinner,get a shower, or even fold laundry. It all depends on how I am doing that day. Sometimes it takes everything I have to deal with my worries and my fears and self doubt much less just the necessities of taking careof the 5 kids. I just don't do well with my home. I never have. I try over and over again. I buy books, I read articles, whatever I can to try to master my job. I just can't promise that I will "handle it" no matter how much dh tells me he can't take it anymore. I can't lie and say I can do it when I don't have any proof that I can. I never knowwhat I can do day to day.

I am doing better on my meds and am glad to feel better, but right now I was just trying to focus on wanting to be me. I was trying not to sweat the small stuff and tojust findjoy in life. I wanted to take moments to enjoy the spring and take a walk, talk to a neighbor, spend time alone if EVER possible. DH just thinks I am being lazy or something andmaking himdo all the work.

I can'twin for trying sometimes. HELP!

You sound very frustrated! I have been there too. If you can find a way to get a break for a while, that might help to bring things in to perspective. Please also check out <A target="_blank" HREF=http://flylady.net>http://flylady.net</A> . Her system is developed from personal experience just for people with frustrations like yours about being overwhelmed and not being able to get things done. Depression is often a major contributing factor, and was for her too. Her program is free and it works. You don't have to do everything at once, just start by establishing some basic routines.

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