Feeling useless

Hi I haven't written in a while. It's struggling at the I feel as if I'm completely alone. My family live far away I moved because of bad memories. Over the last few years I've struggled with work. Sometimes I just want to stay in bed and hide. I hate myself for doing it but I can't face it. I have been signed for the past three weeks after being at my new job for just a couple of months. My best and only friend helped get me the job and now she hates me because I've messed up this one as well. I've lost five jobs now because of this. I feel better and go back to work and then it hits me. And that's it I'm falling into the black cave and I can't see the light at the end. I hate this when will it get better. Please when I've lost my job again and I just feel so useless. What shall I do someone please help me. I don't know what to do why do i feel so happy and positive one day and so down.the rest. I'm so sad I feel physically sick I can't eat or sleep. I can't carry on like this..

Dear butterfly,

It sounds like you're in a tough spot. It's hard to recover while your under continuous stress. It may be that if you just force yourself to go to work and concentrate, no matter what you feel like, that in itself may give you some relief from the stress. It won't be easy, but this can sometimes work.

You may find these notes to be helpful. It even sometimes works very quickly for people:

http://egg.bu.edu/~youssef/SNAP_CLUB...0164151576.pdf

Part of how this helps is helping people find their inner strength.

Here is what I this is the outline of an optimal plan for getting better:

http://forums.psychcentral.com/depre...n-escaped.html

Maybe you could pick out a few things that you think may be promising for you and formulate your own plan. The process of making your own plan may, itself, help too. If you're able to see a therapist or counselor of some sort, that might help also help.

- vital

Hey depressedbutterfly, I'm really sorry this is happening to you.

To start, what kind of treatment/therapy have you tried?

Hi I have had councelling and cbt. I'm also on effexor thankyou everyone for getting back to me. It means a lot that people out there care. Vital I will definitely give that a go I know it's not going to happen over night. It just feels as soon as I start to get better something happens to pull me back under. Sorry for.moaning

I will be trying this as soon as my next decision is made. Thankyou so much vital

I understand. I have also lost multiple jobs because I get so anxious and depressed. but I realized that the only way to get a job and stay, is by going when you're ready. when you're ready, you'll excel. now, you need to take time for yourself, go to therapy, and when you're ready, apply for some jobs!

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Have you thought about the consequences when you miss work? Whenever I don't feel like going, I still go anyways because I think about the bills I have to pay and extra money I can put to the side.

I do think about that and it makes me more stressed I thint I will be doing what jakieluna suggested. I have a lot of unresolved issues I think i need to deal with before I put more pressure on myself work wise.love joy I have tried this approach for three years I went to work got up and went in with like two hours sleep. Eventually I broke down. I had panic attacks every day at work and I was an emotional wreck. It's important to be able to go to work I agree. But what employer wants someone who can't concentrate and can't cope. You can go but if you can't be productive you are more of a hinderance.