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Nov 05, 2015, 07:34 AM
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Hey all.
I am Samantha from India, I am suffering from depression, but am too scared to go to a psychiatrist for therapy or tests. I don't know what to do? |
 Anonymous200325, Fuzzybear, vital
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Nov 05, 2015, 08:57 AM
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Don't let fear control you. We all need help sometime .If you share your problems you will get some relief . If you have been depressed over 2 weeks then you need a helping hand . I'm in my 8 th week and with help it is staring to lift but I had help and some drugs . No magic it takes a little work and time to pass.
There are answers out there but you have to ask for it . Read about claire weekes on you tube . |
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Nov 05, 2015, 01:54 PM
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Hello & Welcome, Samantha26643.
Are you concerned about how your family would react to you seeing a psychiatrist? You may be able to get some initial help by seeing a primary care/family doctor. Please make yourself at home here.
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Nov 05, 2015, 02:02 PM
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I know how you feel I was very apprehensive about seeing a psychiatrist as I didn't think there was anything wrong with my mind, but I went because my doctor said I would benefit by getting the right help.
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Nov 08, 2015, 03:38 AM
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Yes, I am worried about how my parents would react coz they would feel like they failed somewhere in raising me or something. I went through a traumatic incident when I was 16-17yrs old. I was depressed since then. Although I overcame it, it keeps coming back when I least expect it. Iam 23years old now, so I have been experiencing depression n nightmares n stuff for around 7years . I try to live life normally by pushing all the negativity back, but somehow it comes back when I read something in the news about some case that sounds abit like mine, or certain events, things etc. I get depressed for like a day or so, then I try n pull myself together. I get nightmares atleast once every week, disturbed sleep.. I noticed that the longest time between these episodes is around a month and on average every other week..
I have trust issues, insecurity about my self image, etc. We don't have a family doctor, so I cannot speak to anyone, and although I have a job n am in college for my masters , I stay home with my parents (in India it is common to stay with parents till u get married or get a job far from home) so I can't go to visit a psychiatrist without my parents' knowledge. Mental health issues are kinda taboo n not discussed openly. People think going to a psychiatrist equals to being crazy, mad or need to be locked up in the psych ward kind of mental illness. |
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Nov 08, 2015, 07:51 AM
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Hi Samantha,
Perhaps if you seek professional help for Post Traumatic Stress Disorder would be more acceptable for your parents. Then, the psychiatrist will do the proper diagnosis. It is not uncommon for people that had accidents have PTSD and maybe they do not see PTSD as something they could have caused to you. Do you have any source of income independent from your parents? That may make the difference, at least you can use your own money if they refuse to pay for the treatment . Good luck with everything!
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Nov 08, 2015, 01:15 PM
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Hey the traumatic event is the reason I dont want them to know. They don't know that it happened. Yes I earn money, but we all put our salaries in the family joint account. Its not that they wouldn't pay for it. It's more like I don't want them to know what happened with me. I am afraid of their reaction. I feel ashamed of myself, I feel dirty coz of that. What if they don't accept me coz of that? It wasn't my mistake that the event happened, I was only 16 something, and I grew up totally sheltered, so much so that i didnt know what periods were till I got them, so I didn't completely understand until it was actually happening. I am just scared of their reaction.
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| Clara22, Rohag
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Nov 08, 2015, 02:33 PM
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You have to navigate a social-cultural reality foreign to many readers here. You face special challenges in getting help for yourself.
Is there anyone at your college to whom you could speak, someone who understands your reality and knows how to work within it? 
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Nov 08, 2015, 03:32 PM
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Nov 08, 2015, 06:45 PM
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Nov 10, 2015, 08:05 AM
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I dont know if I can speak to anyone who could help with it, or even know what to do in situations like these. I am planning to get a better job as soon as i graduate, but its a 50-50 chance that I may get married off before that happens. If I have to get married, where I will move and all that will depend on whoever the guy I get married to. (And I definitely can't discuss it with him)
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Nov 10, 2015, 08:14 AM
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Clara Hope is definitely not the same thing as optimism. It is not the conviction that something will turn out well, but the certainty that something makes sense, regardless of how it turns out. Vaclav Havel |
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Nov 10, 2015, 11:29 AM
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You might want to have a look at the book "The Body Keeps The Score" to help understand trauma and the effect it might be having on you. There are lots of very healing healthy things you can do for yourself. Ever hear of Yoga? (haha....sorry, I know you're in India!!) My own best advice for depression is here http://forums.psychcentral.com/4262681-post105.html . - vital
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Nov 12, 2015, 09:05 AM
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I also have a younger sister who is of marrying age, so I need to get married soon.. That is one of the things that started this overwhelming need to seek advice, coz I don't think I am ready for it, I don't think I will ever be ready for marriage and all the physical intimacy thing it requires.. I know there may be (0.00001% atleast) good guys out there but am a 100% sure I won't find such a guy, coz someone like that wouldn't want me. So I would rather stay single of that would have been an option. I really really want to but I can't trust any guy at all even if I know deep down that they nay be good. I know my situation sounds hopeless. But am seriously at my wit's end. And I don't know how to overcome all this irrational fears. I am also sorry that I can't share what happened coz I try not to talk about it at all if I could help it. Thanks for answering despite of all the complicated and irrational things. |
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Nov 12, 2015, 12:41 PM
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Maybe telling a lie is not a good advice but I am thinking that there may be some reasons for doing therapy that can ba acceptable for your parents. For example: one can go to psychiatric consultation for symptoms such as insomnia; you do not need to say the cause of the symptoms. Precisely, many people that go to the psychiatrist do not know the cause of their symptoms, and it is through therapy how they finally find out why they are having those symptoms. I do not know if I am clear enough, English is a second language for me
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Nov 12, 2015, 05:36 PM
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Are there any groups at college where you could talk to someone in confidence? Many women have been through traumatic times and often form support groups. There are different forums on this site where you might find some helpful advice.
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