[damiann]

Again a new french movie is out called "Love", that shows how beautiful life young people have these days... i had nothing of this i cant deal with this...life without this seams worthless, without having the greatest thing - sex even in such depressive movies like Meadowland or I Smile Back, we see sex, which shows what is important in life...all people are doing those big things we see in movie, only me not.

i am simply not equal to others because of this and i dont see point of living

all others alive more in 1 month then i have in 29 years. Young beautiful girls are simply too much over me...

also if i watch webpages like blacked com..the girls are so insanely beautiful...they have perfect lifes for me...

[gayleggg]

Having sex isn't a fix all. I gave up on sex 13 years ago and don't feel I've missed that much. TV and movies make it seem so important but there are other things that matter more, like love, caring and concern for other people. Don't let your life be defined by movies.

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[convalescence]

One of the biggest mistakes that I have done was comparing my life to movies and other fictitious media. They're grossly inaccurate of how life truly is for the majority of people.

I visited the website that you provided and those girls are paid to look "beautiful" and create a persona. Porn, again, is nothing like the real world. I used to compare myself to people in the sex industry, too. Not a good idea.

[Linus VanPelt]

Hi, Damiann. I have to agree with them. Because of my psychological conditions and because of the house I grew up in where my parents didn't love each other, I am extremely emotionally stunted. Love and sex was never important to me. On the other hand, I am a major movie geek (I have around four hundred DVDs and Blu-Rays) and escape into them frequently. Sometimes, it gets difficult to remember that it's fictitional. My wife's favorite comment to me regarding the subject is "Because it's in the script." Love, lust, sex, and best friend. All can be provided for you quickly and easily by just the right person who is quite literally waiting just for you. Bull. Love takes work and effort.
We also shouldn't mistake sex for love. A few years ago, I was a major slut. I had three girlfriends at the same time and was honestly having sex three or four times a week; each night with a different girl. Somehow, I managed not to catch something. Point being, I was mistaking sex for true love and true happiness. Sex is, in my opinion, neither of these things. At this point, I'm married to a woman who truly loves and cares for me. I haven't had sex in a couple of years and, funny thing is, I don't care. It's not that important to me.
You need to, again in my opinion, stop looking at movies, tv, websites, and even friends for your definition of true love and happiness. Look to yourself and figure out what's important for you and then take your time in finding a significant other with the same views.
Sex is many things but it's not required to survive. Don't write yourself off because its not a frequent event in your life. And definitely don't compare your own worth with others over any factors especially sex. What you truly want and need are the most important things to you or, at least, should be. Never let other people's views define you.

[Crypts_Of_The_Mind]

Honestly - sex isn't everything. Movies make everything out to be more than they are. My sex life has been all but dead for the last 10yrs. I will tell you this - if it only took the act of sex to make a person happy, some of the things that include sex then certain criminals would be seen as healers and those acts would not harm us - but the act of sex DOES send an endorphin to the brain that can help to fight depression. That said however, that same endorphin can be produced by manual sexual stimulation as well. What you are wanting I would think is not so much the sex itself - nor the sense of pleasure it brings - as it is the attention and closeness of that other person in that moment in time. What I would ask you though is this: what if you were sharing the act of sex and the sensation of that pleasure, and came to find you felt uncomfortable in that person's closeness or otherwise jyst didn't like it...how would you react?

This is the reason people are told to take their time getting to know someone first, why some wait til marriage, and why some end up preferring to remain as just friends... Honestly, sex isn't everything - your sense of "self" is most important- the rest is just experiences

[nicoleflynn]

Your life isn't a movie; you need to be the best person you can be; we don't need to be drop dead gorgeous; some of the most handsome/beautiful people are not nice. I have been 3without sex for 12 years after a divorce; it is a major difficulty, but I am not about to have sex with someone I don't love; or let anyone use me. If you continue to compare yourself to others; you can never have a life. Just because someone is good looking does NOT mean they have perfect lives NO ONE has a perfect life. Do you have any goals? What would you do if you knew you couldn't fail? Once we take ourselves out of ourselves (stop focusing so much on ourselves), our lives can change; there are so many people who are lonely or suffering....soup kitchens, shelters, the elderly, etc. What Hollywood allows you to see....it is all fantasy..THe "beautiful" people obsess about how they aren't thin enough and have problems with low self-esteem, and a lot of probems; we just don't hear about it, and photographs? Airbrushed. Find a purpose in your life in helping someone else; you will see how your life can change.

There was a time I could have live quite happily without it. It means nothing to me if it isn't with a loving partner. I could not do it for the sake of doing it.

I agree life is not what you see on film where everything is fake. Fake lives, fake beauty, fake sex.

[damiann]

We people are different. I want sex all the time. I dont need love (thought it would be bonus, but now i would like ***** out first). I am sexual person, but i have low selfesteem. I have zero talent for flirting. I could go out and probably meet some women, because they like me (but i hate my skinny look, i dont know why they like, its not manly), but i dont see point, if its clear they all had more from life. All those beautiful girls. They will also have more from life in future, because i dont have big education and can only get low paid jobs. Therefor, life is really over and i can never get those beautiful girls

And its easy to talk for people how sex is not important, which had sex and don't understand what life without biggest joy of life means. They maybe understand what it means to be a few years without it, but not whole youth, when everybody which is looking good have sex in youth.

[Crypts_Of_The_Mind]

Originally Posted by damiann

We people are different. I want sex all the time. I dont need love (thought it would be bonus, but now i would like ***** out first). I am sexual person, but i have low selfesteem. I have zero talent for flirting. I could go out and probably meet some women, because they like me (but i hate my skinny look, i dont know why they like, its not manly), but i dont see point, if its clear they all had more from life. All those beautiful girls. They will also have more from life in future, because i dont have big education and can only get low paid jobs. Therefor, life is really over and i can never get those beautiful girls

And its easy to talk for people how sex is not important, which had sex and don't understand what life without biggest joy of life means. They maybe understand what it means to be a few years without it, but not whole youth, when everybody which is looking good have sex in youth.

You keep saying "sex is best thing" then saying you never had sex. So, I have 2 questions:

1. How do you know sex is even "good" if you have never had it, let alone "best" (because if it is not good, it cannot even qualify as being best)

2. What are you using to base your idea of sex being "best" from? You said movies - but the way you keep asserting it even after so many that have had experience with it have told you otherwise, leads me to believe there is more than just movies - so, what else?

[damiann]

I had it 3 times with prostitutes years ago.

I love sex, because there is nothing better then tasting beautiful women body. I want taste as many as possible. there is nothing more beautiful on this world then women.

Another proof sex is the best thing is the coverage of it in media. If it would not be so good and importand, all people would not talk about it and watch it. Porn would not be so popular.

[Tauren]

To be honest it sounds like you're just afraid of rejection. Even if girls like you you're sure they'll reject you when they know you better. You're feeding that fear until it becomes insurmountable.

[Fuzzybear]

"do not compare yourself to others, for always there are greater or lesser...."
(forgive misquote)

[CopperStar]

What if you went for "average" girls instead of just "all those beautiful girls"?

Off the top of my head I can think of several average-looking guys who could have gotten into my pants, if only they had been interested in average-looking gals.

Juuuuust sayin.

[damiann]

Originally Posted by CopperStar

What if you went for "average" girls instead of just "all those beautiful girls"?

Off the top of my head I can think of several average-looking guys who could have gotten into my pants, if only they had been interested in average-looking gals.

Juuuuust sayin.

Beautiful girls are for me all girls that have regular sex since youth.

[damiann]

Originally Posted by Crypts_Of_The_Mind

You keep saying "sex is best thing" then saying you never had sex. So, I have 2 questions:

1. How do you know sex is even "good" if you have never had it, let alone "best" (because if it is not good, it cannot even qualify as being best)

2. What are you using to base your idea of sex being "best" from? You said movies - but the way you keep asserting it even after so many that have had experience with it have told you otherwise, leads me to believe there is more than just movies - so, what else?

I know sex is good, because i was 3 times at prostitutes. For me its greatest joy of life, to lick beautiful women body, which are the biggest wonder of nature and most beautiful thing on world (sorry if this is a little strange said). I see point of life in this. Thought i would like to meet also every single of those women as person. Be their friend, do normal things with them, listen to them. I think its purpose of life to be around good looking women.

[continuosly blue]

Dude, Are you in therapy ? If not I would suggest you start to work out some of your issues which seem to be quite a few.

[dwfieldjr]

Originally Posted by continuosly blue

Dude, Are you in therapy ? If not I would suggest you start to work out some of your issues which seem to be quite a few.

Who are you saying that to? The person who posted this or someone else?

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[dwfieldjr]

Originally Posted by dwfieldjr

Who are you saying that to? The person who posted this or someone else?

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Never mind I answered my own question.

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[damiann]

Originally Posted by continuosly blue

Dude, Are you in therapy ? If not I would suggest you start to work out some of your issues which seem to be quite a few.

Therapy doesnt help with facts, how much those girls alived in youth. I can never get past this. Numbers and statistic of what youth does, says it all.

[Crypts_Of_The_Mind]

Originally Posted by damiann

I know sex is good, because i was 3 times at prostitutes. For me its greatest joy of life, to lick beautiful women body, which are the biggest wonder of nature and most beautiful thing on world (sorry if this is a little strange said). I see point of life in this. Thought i would like to meet also every single of those women as person. Be their friend, do normal things with them, listen to them. I think its purpose of life to be around good looking women.

Then in fact you do want love and not just sex - or at least a relationship because you say "i would like to meet also every single of those women as person. Be their friend, do normal things with them, listen to them." - that is the description of a relationship yet you denied wanting that in the beginning

[damiann]

Maybe, but i dont want only 1 women, because i need to make up for lost time. Only one women or two, tree, would be waste of life, if there are so much beautiful women out there. But doesnt even matter, because i am not anymore good enough for those girls who have sex since youth anyway and cant have them. They have too much numbers, they have too much joy, they simply won

[continuosly blue]

Originally Posted by damiann

Maybe, but i dont want only 1 women, because i need to make up for lost time. Only one women or two, tree, would be waste of life, if there are so much beautiful women out there. But doesnt even matter, because i am not anymore good enough for those girls who have sex since youth anyway and cant have them. They have too much numbers, they have too much joy, they simply won

Look , I know you may be having a hard time expressing yourself in English. Are you from Germany ? The reason I ask is because, to be honest ,you make absolutely no sense to me at all and it's becoming annoying to me because I don't understand what the heck your saying !

Don't take this the wrong way because I'm just trying to figure out what's really going on here and it just might be a communication problem.

**** If anybody else understands what this guy is saying please explain it to me !****

[Crypts_Of_The_Mind]

Originally Posted by damiann

Maybe, but i dont want only 1 women, because i need to make up for lost time. Only one women or two, tree, would be waste of life, if there are so much beautiful women out there. But doesnt even matter, because i am not anymore good enough for those girls who have sex since youth anyway and cant have them. They have too much numbers, they have too much joy, they simply won

Sorry - I had responded to this but I guess it didn't post.

If you want more than one woman, that's fine - there is a sexual preference in which they have relationships with more than just 2 people if you like that, there are also "open relationships" where each partner knows the other is free to date other people as well, there are "swingers" in which couples get together with other couples and trade sexual partners for the night, then there are one night stands and prostitutes. The whole point of all of it though is to make sure both sides know and are ok with what is happening.

[Crypts_Of_The_Mind]

Originally Posted by continuosly blue

Look , I know you may be having a hard time expressing yourself in English. Are you from Germany ? The reason I ask is because, to be honest ,you make absolutely no sense to me at all and it's becoming annoying to me because I don't understand what the heck your saying !

Don't take this the wrong way because I'm just trying to figure out what's really going on here and it just might be a communication problem.

**** If anybody else understands what this guy is saying please explain it to me !****

Basically - as I understood it - he is saying, to him, having just one woman in his life at this point would be a waste - he wants to experience more than just one woman before he settles down. He is afraid no woman will want him - but seems to be narrowing his selection of women to "beautiful women", as being the ones that will make him feel worthy.

Just go on an antidepressant, you'll lose the obsession with sex pretty fast