[Fuzzybear]

Hello Depression Community,

I think many of us struggle with self care. I know I do.

This thread isn't in "competition" with the "Depression support thread" but in addition to it. I'm hoping to participate in both threads.

I personally can't tolerate meds, so this isn't one of my self care tools.

I'm hoping we can create a healthy supportive and safe environment in this thread, I know some of us, including me, have not had many safe places in our lives. I'm hoping that we can change this, one day at a time.

[Fuzzybear]

I'll start by briefly expressing the space I think I was in at age 19.

At age 19 I think I was doing really good. I had good O levels, A levels, I was working, had friends, and at that point I wasn't taking too much notice of those who mistook my sensitivity (or "normal" mistakes) for "weakness"

[Fuzzybear]

This hasn't started so well. Today I'm working on being patient.

Patience is something I could work on too. Jumping to conclusions ("nobody cares; maybe I shouldn't have said that; I probably just alienated myself") is my super power.

I could stand to be more forgiving of myself too. For whatever reason, this week I've beat myself up more for expressing myself in small ways. I need to remember that it's okay to talk about myself once in a while. I feel guilty in conversations if I spend more than a few sentences on myself. Even writing this paragraph is hard. I read it back, and it's just "me, me, me, me."

But it's okay, right?

[Clara22]

I think this thread is a Good idea

[Sunflower123]

Originally Posted by Bjørnen

Patience is something I could work on too. Jumping to conclusions ("nobody cares; maybe I shouldn't have said that; I probably just alienated myself") is my super power.

I could stand to be more forgiving of myself too. For whatever reason, this week I've beat myself up more for expressing myself in small ways. I need to remember that it's okay to talk about myself once in a while. I feel guilty in conversations if I spend more than a few sentences on myself. Even writing this paragraph is hard. I read it back, and it's just "me, me, me, me."

But it's okay, right?

Absolutely. I enjoy reading your posts and care about how you're doing.

Originally Posted by Jennifer 1967

Absolutely. I enjoy reading your posts and care about how you're doing.

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

This hasn't started so well. Today I'm working on being patient.

Today was bad for me. Intense anxiety attacks and increasing depression throughout the day. But I am trying to be patient as well.

Originally Posted by Bjørnen

Patience is something I could work on too. Jumping to conclusions ("nobody cares; maybe I shouldn't have said that; I probably just alienated myself") is my super power.

I could stand to be more forgiving of myself too. For whatever reason, this week I've beat myself up more for expressing myself in small ways. I need to remember that it's okay to talk about myself once in a while. I feel guilty in conversations if I spend more than a few sentences on myself. Even writing this paragraph is hard. I read it back, and it's just "me, me, me, me."

But it's okay, right?

Yes coz only if you write about yourself I can feel ok to write about myself and this is called sharing. Sharing helps a lot in combatting everything. And we are also focussing on building healthy online relationships/friendships. Coz it's the key to a healthy and happy life as most of our friends feel.

Moreover, I love hearing more about you and your life and how you are spending your day. I enjoy reading your posts and mssgs.

Originally Posted by Clara22

I think this thread is a Good idea

Even me too. I think it would help me a lot. Thanks so much fuzzy.

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

Hello Depression Community,

I think many of us struggle with self care. I know I do.

This thread isn't in "competition" with the "Depression support thread" but in addition to it. I'm hoping to participate in both threads.

I personally can't tolerate meds, so this isn't one of my self care tools.

I'm hoping we can create a healthy supportive and safe environment in this thread, I know some of us, including me, have not had many safe places in our lives. I'm hoping that we can change this, one day at a time.

Fuzzy thanks so much for this thread. What topics can we include under self-care? I have problems with self-care when severely depressed and anxious. Apart from that can we include topics that include guilt feeling and feelings of not wanting to live any more? Not exactly the desire of committing suicide but say wishing death like a terminally ill patient?

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by Desiree2006

Fuzzy thanks so much for this thread. What topics can we include under self-care? I have problems with self-care when severely depressed and anxious. Apart from that can we include topics that include guilt feeling and feelings of not wanting to live any more? Not exactly the desire of committing suicide but say wishing death like a terminally ill patient?

I think many of us have experienced those feelings. I know I have ....

I'm not wanting to legislate or divide between positive and negative here, so I think... post what you feel you want to post (within the guidelines on pc)

[Shazerac]

Originally Posted by Bjørnen

Patience is something I could work on too. Jumping to conclusions ("nobody cares; maybe I shouldn't have said that; I probably just alienated myself") is my super power.

I could stand to be more forgiving of myself too. For whatever reason, this week I've beat myself up more for expressing myself in small ways. I need to remember that it's okay to talk about myself once in a while. I feel guilty in conversations if I spend more than a few sentences on myself. Even writing this paragraph is hard. I read it back, and it's just "me, me, me, me."

But it's okay, right?

YES It is ok to talk about yourself. Otherwise how can anyone get to know you?

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by Bjørnen

Patience is something I could work on too. Jumping to conclusions ("nobody cares; maybe I shouldn't have said that; I probably just alienated myself") is my super power.

I could stand to be more forgiving of myself too. For whatever reason, this week I've beat myself up more for expressing myself in small ways. I need to remember that it's okay to talk about myself once in a while. I feel guilty in conversations if I spend more than a few sentences on myself. Even writing this paragraph is hard. I read it back, and it's just "me, me, me, me."

But it's okay, right?

Yes. It's ok to post about yourself, that isn't selfishness! I'm enjoying getting to know you please post when you feel comfortable to post

[Fuzzybear]

PS "irrational guilt" - a huge topic in itself

[Shazerac]

Geez Toxic guilt could be a whole forum in itself. "Excuse me for being alive and breathing air"

Shazerac and Fuzzy, it means the world to me to have that encouragement. Thank you both.

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by Shazerac

Geez Toxic guilt could be a whole forum in itself. "Excuse me for being alive and breathing air"

Omg yes. You've got it exactly ....

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by Bjørnen

Shazerac and Fuzzy, it means the world to me to have that encouragement. Thank you both.

Thank YOU my friend

[little turtle]

you are my leader fuzzy...this is a good thread..
i want to talk about guilt....i still feel guilt about breaking down....
i cant get it out of my head..i think i was running away from my lifes responsibilities..
jesus i cant believe how hard i am on me...i don't do that to others...

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by little turtle

you are my leader fuzzy...this is a good thread..
i want to talk about guilt....i still feel guilt about breaking down....
i cant get it out of my head..i think i was running away from my lifes responsibilities..
jesus i cant believe how hard i am on me...i don't do that to others...

(((((((((( little turtle ))))))))))

Thank you for sharing. Old feelings of guilt can be so ... persistent

You're so kind to others, I hope you can free yourself from this "irrational" guilt

I don't know how though but I believe in you

Some of my problems will NEVER change. There is a formal portrait in our hallway of my maternal grandparents, mom, uncle, aunt, and me. Everyone is happy and smiling but me. ONLY because I am only 2 or 3--my expression is funny. I look like a sourpuss that does not want to be there nor am I cooperating. Things have been tense between H and I lately. When we walked by it today, he said I have been looking exactly like that (have the same expression on my face). He is probably right but, trust me, it doesn't look cute anymore!!! (Maybe Shadix's latest viral thread is right--we get away with so much more when we are younger in some situations.)

[Fuzzybear]

PS little turtle I hope others will reply to your post as well, I can think of several people here who will hopefully post and share on this..

Edited this as i decided not to share this, I don't think what I said adds much to the thread at this point it's certainly not something I try to or want to "dwell" on

Originally Posted by little turtle

you are my leader fuzzy...this is a good thread..
i want to talk about guilt....i still feel guilt about breaking down....
i cant get it out of my head..i think i was running away from my lifes responsibilities..
jesus i cant believe how hard i am on me...i don't do that to others...

Little Turtle--

You are so helpful here that I am confident that you managed to help many of your patients.

When you broke down--it was your turn to be helped (did you get it at the time?) Just like your patients, you deserve help too!

I really do love your POV--philosophically, I would love to be treated by a doctor like you.