[emily1890]

title says it all.. how do you do it?

I start my day by reviewing what I've got planned, (usually nothing at all, my life is like groundhog day), and that leads me to thinking- do I really have to do this all over again?. can't I just stay in bed?

I really want to change this because I know it's not really that healthy, so looking for some good ideas that maybe I can use to start my day in a better frame of mind

thanks

[Jedi67]

I try to just concentrate and focus on basics. Take a shower, eat, take any meds that I need to and perhaps either read or listen to a podcast or music. I've also been coloring which has been really helpful. I avoid social media during the week and any news also. That brings me down. And try reciting positive affirmations. Hope some of that helps. All the best!

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by emily1890

title says it all.. how do you do it?

I start my day by reviewing what I've got planned, (usually nothing at all, my life is like groundhog day), and that leads me to thinking- do I really have to do this all over again?. can't I just stay in bed?

I really want to change this because I know it's not really that healthy, so looking for some good ideas that maybe I can use to start my day in a better frame of mind

thanks

maybe you can find an alarm clock with a radio on it. tune it in to your favorite station and set the alarm setting so that rather than an annoying beep beep beeping noise you get woke up with your favorite music playing.

some people also have alexa do a wake up call of playing music. google will also do that. all you need to do is tell your alexa or seri or google to wake you up at such and such a time with playing your favorite tunes.

I love waking up to my radio station on my alarm clock. it sets my mood regardless of the kind of day I know I have ahead of me.

Another thing that I do is not lay in bed ruminating over how horrible the day before was, going over my upcoming day and before I even get out of bed worry about the day.

The moment I wake up I get out of bed. I treat my bed as a paradise so to speak. a place where I can rest, relax, enjoy time with my wife whether thats just enjoying a movie together, each of us reading a book or getting busy. our bedroom is not the place to stress out, worry and so on. its a calming enjoyable place. even the decor is that which promotes relaxation, comfort, enjoyment.

The moment I wake up, I get up, I make my coffee and enjoy the peaceful beautiful home I am lucky to have. with statistics on homelessness climbing the last few years and the fact that a few years back my family and I lost a home to a hurricane, I know that having this roof over our heads is a lucky and welcome beautiful thing that many do not have.

Sometimes I take time to enjoy various pictures, works of art, and so forth that decorate our home. Sometimes its early enough to go out on my patio and welcome the day.

Each evening I also do my journaling, checking in with myself on how the day went, and set .......reachable...... goals for the next day. this way I dont have to wake up and ruminate about the day ahead and end up bringing myself down.

I already know my and my families daily routines. there's no reason for me to ruminate on those things. they are as some online call it "as is" or "it is what it is" and "yesterday is gone, the future isnt here yet and today is all we have, this is it, now is what we have"

I already know the moment the first two children wake up they are going to start bickering over who gets that last piece of toast, or who gets to make their eggs, or hot cereal first at the stove. I already know when the youngest 2 wake up they are going to be whining over "something or other". I know that one of the kids are prone to having hallucinations, and delusions but yet hates to take her meds.

Sure I could lay in bed, growling and dreading the day, going over everything in my head about my day and possible ways taking the children on a fieldtrip to the trade center memorial site for school can go wrong, and the longer I lay there the worse it would get.

so I get up and greet the day and leave things to fall as they will or wont. taking it one step at a time, one problem at a time but my day .....always......starts out on a positive note... with a bit of relaxing wake up music, a cup of coffee and the peacefulness, and my meditation and me time.

[AzulOscuro]

First of all, not punish yourself for feeling that way.
Make meditation or practice mindfulness. If you have to take meds. Have a little breakfast and take the meds.
If you feel energy, plan an outside for the following day. A new place where you could contemplate, for example, a new landscape, take a coffee in a nearby coffee shop, stay open and present on what you’re doing and what there’s around you. Stay open to meet people. Be open to any surprise.

Before hand planning is important.
Then, panning another trip for another day in the week.
It’s important you choose places or doing things you may enjoy. All little by little.
Prepare the outfit, take a little breakfast before to get some energy.
These are the first steps in an emergency situation.
Also, rest as much as you need before accomplish what you planned. Be open to little changes along the trip as it was an adventure.

[mote.of.soul]

Hey emily1890.

Yes, positive start to day. I agree with all of the suggestions and ways mentioned above for sure. I enjoyed reading them actually. BUT, the thing I'd like to stress is that I believe there needs to be a real daily commitment to whatever positive approaches are good for your personal mindset. Because it becomes easy to fall back into the old ways, the perhaps 'pessimistic' ways, if there are no immediate results. So, it needs to be a long-term, daily commitment based on positive based logic. And if you look at it, and going by my own experience, even before it starts producing results, you'll already be engaged in something very positive. It brings a purpose - the purpose of positive growth, of life. You will need to remind yourself of that. That is what the brain can be used for, you see. Keep going please and don't lose hope or faith in this process. And it is a process.🙏

[AzulOscuro]

Super true post, mote.of.soul

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