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Apr 10, 2008, 03:39 PM
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I mean, I have hunger pains, but due to the recent issue of my BF leaving....I can't eat. Nothing sounds good. Nothing smells good. Not even water or iced tea tastes good.
Is this "normal" for someone in my position? I remember being really depressed before, but I don't remember not having a desire to eat. It has only been about 27-28 hours so I suppose at some point I will HAVE to eat. IDK, I haven't been depressed for THIS reason ever....so I am confused.... BJ
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#2
Apr 10, 2008, 03:44 PM
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BJ....in my own personal experience it's normal. not good obviously but normal. what most folks don't realize is a partner leaving you is a loss...and we all grieve loss in different ways. and it's not like you haven't suffered enough loss recently as it is. maybe you could try to eat something light like soup...don't think about how it tastes or smells, just remind yourself your body needs it to keep going ...like a car needs gas. sorry but that's all i got for you atm ...except you know to just pm me if you need...and...  
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#3
Apr 10, 2008, 04:36 PM
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(((KJ))) you are a gem. I will try to eat something....not sure what, but I will. Too much drama in my life right now! BLECH! Thanks for
cuz you know I need em.BJ
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Apr 10, 2008, 06:09 PM
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Yes it is quite common at times of distress. Nor meant to minimize, but to reassure. When I get a depressive bout I can't eat too. Come on, hang on and it will pass.
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#5
Apr 10, 2008, 06:14 PM
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Well, I was able to eat one slice of that thin deli sliced turkey stuff that you put on sandwiches....I just couldn't stomach anything else or any more.
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Apr 10, 2008, 06:26 PM
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((((((((((((( onlymedid )))))))))))))
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Apr 10, 2008, 07:03 PM
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Thanks ((((fuzzybear))))
I just realized that I haven't had anything to drink in about 10 hours(since last night)....what the heck am I doing?  I am going to grab some iced tea.... BJ
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#8
Apr 10, 2008, 07:05 PM
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((BJ)) ...you really gotta start taking care of yourself better...or i'm gonna embarrass you by starting a "let's all bug BJ into behaving" thread...lol 
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#9
Apr 10, 2008, 07:14 PM
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</font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font>
Kalamity_Jane said: ((BJ)) ...you really gotta start taking care of yourself better...or i'm gonna embarrass you by starting a "let's all bug BJ into behaving" thread...lol </div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> LOL..Promises promises!  I'm tryin' I just grabbed a big glass of iced tea and it is really gooooood! ((((KJ)))) BJ
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#10
Apr 10, 2008, 08:22 PM
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KJ you can't embarrass me now cuz I just ate some vanilla yogurt.
 It was about enough that would come in one of those individual containers (I buy the big containers cuz it's cheaper!)So now I am off the hook, RIGHT?! 
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Apr 10, 2008, 08:24 PM
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yep....for tonite glad you ate something. 
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Apr 10, 2008, 09:01 PM
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PHEW! Thanks! I was worried! LOL
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Apr 10, 2008, 11:40 PM
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((((((((((((onlymedid)))))))))))))
I'd say it's pretty normal in my experience... sometimes I want to eat a lot while depressed, and sometimes not at all. *shrug* Just try to eat something small... otherwise you may feel sick and that just makes everything seem worse.
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Apr 11, 2008, 11:38 AM
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Soup is the way to go. It's obviously easy to eat, and so comforting, like staying home on a sick day. =)
I'm glad you managed to get something down. It's important not to let your mind dupe you into not taking care of your body. *hugs*
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Apr 11, 2008, 06:33 PM
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Well, I had a handful of sunflower seeds today. It is just really tough to make myself eat. I just can't do it, but I know that my body will take in what it needs when it needs it.
I'm heavy anyways, so it will take me a LONG time to thin out! LOL
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#16
Apr 11, 2008, 07:24 PM
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I know you were joking, but just to be on the safe side, it doesn't work like that. There's stuff it's ok to lose, and stuff it's not. Have you gotten a metabolic analysis ever? Please try to keep healthy - the mental stuff gets compounded and worsens when the body's outta wack.
Have some potatoes. I heard they grow in the ground or something... =) *hug*
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Apr 11, 2008, 07:35 PM
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I don't even know what a metabolic analysis is...
 I am really trying to stay healthy. I just noticed that my hands are shaky a little and I can't seem to type as well. I am going to try to eat something.... Potatoes grow all over up here so I'm sure there is one somewhere. Thanks for the hugs!
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Apr 11, 2008, 10:31 PM
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If you had one, you'd know. They basically just tell you how much food you want to eat during the day to keep your current weight. It can be handy to know.
I'm glad you're eating something. Shakes is bad, which of course you know. Like I said earlier, soup and stuff like that is pretty nourishing and can often be easier to eat than something so filling. Remember, this IS a symptom of depression, and it will go when your depression lightens up. But that doesn't mean you can safely ignore it. You don't have to eat much, just a little bit throughout the day. We all want you nice and healthy,k? *inspiring hug*
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Apr 11, 2008, 10:39 PM
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</font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font>
Pseudonym said: If you had one, you'd know. They basically just tell you how much food you want to eat during the day to keep your current weight. It can be handy to know. </div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> ok, then I never had one. </font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font> I'm glad you're eating something. Shakes is bad, which of course you know. Like I said earlier, soup and stuff like that is pretty nourishing and can often be easier to eat than something so filling. Remember, this IS a symptom of depression, and it will go when your depression lightens up. But that doesn't mean you can safely ignore it. You don't have to eat much, just a little bit throughout the day. We all want you nice and healthy,k? *inspiring hug* </div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> I will try to eat again as soon as I feel up to it. I sure hope this goes away soon because I don't like how much it is bothering me. I will try to be healthy. Thanks again for caring.
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Apr 12, 2008, 09:38 PM
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Still can't eat. Had 2 cokes at work today (I know it's not the healthiest, but I don't like the water at work)...that's it.
I realized something....I feel extremely guilty at the thought of eating anything, even if it is something small. I don't know why that is and it is bothering me now because I am afraid that I will never be able to eat again. I know that I feel really guilty at driving my bf away, but I also have hope because we are working on ourselves and then maybe one day we might be together again. I am having a hard time knowing that he seems so happy without me. Every time we IM it's like "I am having so much fun" or "I laughed so hard". I don't have that. I don't have friends IRL here and my family would look at me badly if they knew just how much I hurt by recent events. I go to my physician on Monday (day after tomorrow) and I will talk to her, but I don't see T until Tuesday at 4pm. I sure hope I can work thru some of this because I am, honestly, feeling a little like I am in a fog or something....    maybe this should be posted in "eating disorders" now? IDK
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#21
Apr 12, 2008, 09:46 PM
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((((((((BJ)))))))) you need to realize something here....regardless of what you think...YOU did not drive your boyfriend away...he's a grown man and made his OWN decision! also, how do you know he's REALLY having a great time just coz he says so? I know a lot of men want you to think that out of pride! and as for the way you're feeling...it's understandable but...you need to take care of YOU and the rest will follow! be gentle with yourself but firm at the same time. i.e. you NEED to at least eat something, a car can't run on empty and neither can you! take gentle care ok....and sorry i'm not a great advice-giver but know i do care.
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Apr 12, 2008, 09:54 PM
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It's just that he left because he couldn't help me. He wasn't strong enough to handle my outbursts. He was getting SU because of me (he said so). He felt like he was relying on me too much as I took care of him for a year and 4 months. I feel like it was all my fault.
I think he really is having fun because he is back with his friends, family and son. They are doing things they used to do when we lived there that he enjoys and his emails and IM's are different now than they were before he left...they are happier sounding...but I know what you are saying because I am letting him believe that I am happy so he doesn't worry. I can't promise I will eat, but I will try at some point. You are just fine and I know you care....thank you....for everything. BJ
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