feel kind of bad

I'm frustrated about my job. I mean my boss being the way he is. I've got so much on my mind.
Now my mom has decided to make me feel bad about moving out. I'm a couple of months away from moving out and basically I was told that me wanting to move out makes me selfish. I'm 23 years old and I've lived with my mom my whole life. When I say I want to move out I"m not trying to say I don't love my mom or that I wish her sadness because I do love her and I don't wish anything on her but I want to be on my own. I want to be free to leave dishes in the sink. I don't want to worry about my mom freaking out because the bathroom isn't sparkling clean. I want to be on my own and everyone acts like me saying that is me saying I don't love my mom. I do love her. I just want to be on my own.

You're an adult...and you're right..you should be on your own! I think it may take your mom time and just move out when you're due to move out. A lot of parents dread when their kids move out.

I know with my dad he wants me to be on my own but yet he doesn't wanna be without me being around either...so it's like a love/hate thing for parents.

(((((((((((maymie))))))))))))

I'm sorry your mom is so attached and desperately wants you to stick around... apparently it's quite common, just in varying degrees. Your mom sounds like she doesn't want anything to change ... which really sucks for you, because it's your responsibility to take care of yourself first and live your own life.

It can be very hard for a mother when thier children move out. But children do grow up and move out and on with their lives. It can be such a confusing time as while you want your children to grow up and thrive on thier own you will miss them so much. Maybe you can reassure her you will visit often and stay in contact.

BB