[Twinmommy]

I'vw been crying for hours about some work stresses that aren't going away anytime soon. I can't take the stress. The heaviness in my chest and suppressing my appetite.
I feel like sitting in a car and run it til i die. No one hears me, no one looks at me, no one understands me.
I am 35 year old femaile that has two twin girls aged 2.5 to raise. Shame ofn me. I also go to work as a teacher and it aint' any better over there.
Shame on me are the words I use to dexcribe myself day in and day out.

[x_BabyG_x]

((((((twinmommy))))))

Think about your twins hun, surely you wouldnt want to leave them alone in this world?

We all feel like this at times, some more worse off than others, but still... if work is stressing you out so much, why not take some time off to clear your head?

babyg xXx

[sabby]

((((((((((((( twinmommy )))))))))))))))

Please know that we care. If you can, take some time to research the help that is available to you on this site. Keep talking here....reaching out.


sabby

[gimmeice]

((((((((((((((((( twinmommy ))))))))))))))
I am sorry that you are going through this difficult time. Have you tried to see a therapist? I find therapy very helpful. Please try to take extra good care of yourself, try to do anything that makes you relax and feel good, like a hot bath or reading a book. I realize that it can be difficult to take time for yourself with young children because I also have little kids but it's very important to care for yourself.

[Christina86]

((((((((((Twinmommy)))))))))))

It sounds like you really need to get some help to deal with things. I don't think raising such young kids by yourself is very easy. I hope you manage to find some help for yourself, through a therapist or someone else who will listen and try to help you out (in real life). We're a supportive bunch here, so please keep posting.

[bipolar_bear]

((((((((((((((((((((twinmommy)))))))))))))))))))))))))))) Life can just get so overwhelming. Living with two small children and then having to deal with children the rest of the day may make it seem that your life revolves around those that you always have to support and that leaves you with none. Just a thought.

Is there some interest you may have that you can meet people your age with like interests to also interact with? You also need some time for you in some type of way. I know how hard this can be to juggle. But it is important that you too feel understood and heard. Sometimes seeing someone that does hear and understand you helps too.

I hope that the shame on me can be redirected into all the positive things you do for others. I know it is hard when you are feeling so depressed but there really is good things in life. Sometimes it just doesn't seem so.

Know I am here and I have had some similar thoughts and feelings. PM me anytime. There is more out there.

BB

[Der_Sohn_des_Leides]

(((((((((Twinmommy)))))))) I'm sorry you're feeling so low right now. If it's any consolation, I feel that mothers are some of the most underappreciated people on the planet. I can't imagine how difficult it must be to exhibit such selfless devotion. I think it's perfectly natural to have feelings of despair when you have to give so much of yourself.

What kind of stressors are you facing at work? Maybe if you talk them out with us on the forum, we can try to help you get a grasp on them and figure out a way to solve them. At the very least, we'll give you our love and support.

I don't think you have anything to be ashamed about. Being a mother is incredibly demanding, beautiful, and so very important. Make sure to take care of yourself. Maybe you can hire a babysitter for a night and go out and enjoy yourself? Take care and keep posting.

J

[DOWNINNATICK]

This for me is easier said then done, don't let you job stress you, it's only a job and you can only do what you can do. The doctor at my group said yesterday, you need to eat protein early in the am, drink boost, instant breakfast, or have oatmeal, that will help you mind cope with your stress. Also take vitamin B and Fish oil tablets w/ omega, that too will help your mind fight the stress.

Also in the group, they say you have to take 10 minutes to relax to soothing music and give you mind a chance to slow down and recoupe.

I know it's easier said than done, but remember you kids and how they would feel, they love you and wants you near. Go to the beach with your kids and enjoy them and yourself.

http://www.inspiringthots.net/movie/saucer.php

Above is a link to a inspirational card, I hope you like it. I send this just to help you feel better, sometimes the saying help me.

[Fuzzybear]

((((((((((((((( Twinmommy )))))))))))))))

[kebsfroggy]

If has to be a tremdous effort to face children all day long. But of all the things happening in you life enjoy the unconditional love of your twins. I'm sure they each have their own personality. But when it time for "mommy hugs" they are right there to give them freely.

If you can find grown-ups to play with for awhile every now and then may be very useful. I'm not sure how to go about that part but I sure it will bring you back into the real world.

I know it has to be so difficult for you. Just know we are here to lend support. Be kind to yourself and even give your self "good girl treats" every now and then. Waistline may not approve but your ego will get a big boost.

((((( twinmommy )))))

[nightbird]

(((( twinmommy ))))

Every once in awhile, you can watch a relaxing meditation video or read a book, or have a wonderful spa experience in your own bath - anything to give yourself a lift from the difficulty you are experiencing...and perhaps, if you can, talk to your MD. about your stress and hormones. He may offer nutritious solutions or even restrictions - it's all good if it helps.

As one poster stated, vitamins that help us fight stress are great, the B's also give us energy. Omegas 3-6-9- - we all need these - and it doesn't hurt to carry a protein bar in your purse or baby bag.

Please keep posting - we care!

peace and encouragement,
nightbird



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[john4]

Re: Twinmommy
thinking of you . . .