[therealme]

on friday, i lied........... i lied to my doctor, and now im regrating it.
for the last , god knows how many weeks , i have ben struggling with real life, finding that the internet was a far safer place for me...untill even that became to much..

then on friday, i had an apointment with her... its an apointment to get a sick note for benifits.

so when she asked how i was doing, i lied to her, and said. "everything good"....... man im an idiot... now she thinks im stable.... which isnt to bad, but if im seen to be stable for a period of time she will bem me fit to rejoin the real world again.......... and that scares the hell out of me....
now i dont know what to do......... if i go back and tell her what has really been going on in my head, i may end up in hospital, or she may even see it as me lieing to continue claiming benifits......... i wish the real world wasnt so complicated.

(((((dec)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
You goofed ......ok
First of all I know you , you say good like i say *ok*
Call her and make a appt if you can.
Take your poems off here and show her.
Tell her the truth.
Your not going to end up in the hospital. ((dec))
but she can not help you with out the truth
and brother dear ((your worth all the help you can get)))
I know you struggle
You do not want anyone to know
I understand that.
But let her help you..............
Its *ok* and i mean ok to let her help
Muffy
your sister

It's not uncommon for men to react this way when it comes to their health.

http://www.achillesheel.freeuk.com/article11_1.html

[kebsfroggy]

Oh Dec, please, please, please call her back.
Muffy's right, take copies of your poems

I think everyone at one time or another lies to the doc. Mostly out of fear, I think. But she has to know how bad it is.

Don't worry about the out come. Whatever happens you can't make it on your own.

[Christina86]

((((((((((((Dec))))))))))))))

My friend... people lie. It's normal. It happens because we get scared of the consequences of my actions. I've lied to medical professionals before. I'm not proud of it, but sometimes ... I just don't feel good telling the truth, I get scared!

I don't think you'll wind up in hospital. But you may get some help that you need to deal with things right now - and that's perfectly okay and alright. You deserve help.

I think Muffy gave some good advice. Or even just take this post here, and explain it to her that way. I doubt you're the first client she's had to regret something they've said before!

[nightbird]

yes, do as muffy requested.

then you will be on a better course and things will remain there to cover you.

it's automatic how guys will deny their present difficulties - no fault - it's in how guys are trained .

your T will understand that and be glad you recognize it.

best to you,
night

[therealme]

thank you all, for you replies. my doctor is on holiday now for a week or so... soi am going to write a letter and include this post and some poems...... and then just leave it in the hands of the gods.......
i have started to draft the letter already, but i feel this will be the first of many .. before i find the right words, that explain what a mistake i made.

(dec))))))))))))))))))))))))
You goofed . We all do that. Your words from your post here say it all.
You can take that. Forgive yourself (((dec)))
"The truth my brother will set you free"
It will get you the help you need.
You are so brave I am proud of you
(((((((((((dec))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

muffy

[nowheretorun]

i understand what you feel TRM.. its important now not to let yourself beat yourself up about guilt feelings for things you feel bad for... the bad feelings result from judging yourself as a bad character... the idea that you're a bad character is an illusion.. what you've done is react to something using the knowledge and skills you have now... since we are always growing we can forgive ourselves some mistakes... some mistakes are more costly as you are no doubt aware... if we keep our heart and aim true to care for ourselves as much as others, we can help ourselves best...

heres hoping you feel, live and learn in the way that gives peace to your inner you... he matters too...

[I_WMD]

I have rarely found real life complicated ,, problematic , yes .
But then throw in lies >>>. and now trust has just been blown out the water.

Regrets are the little hints that let us know >> something has to change ...Talk to Doc >> and maybe that could actually become your safe place .

((((( Dec ))))) I hope everything works out for you. Safety is important so please be safe. Lots of people slip up and lie to their doctors, I know I have many times, but what it important is that you correct it and tell her.

[Fuzzybear]

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i understand what you feel TRM.. its important now not to let yourself beat yourself up about guilt feelings for things you feel bad for... the bad feelings result from judging yourself as a bad character... the idea that you're a bad character is an illusion.. what you've done is react to something using the knowledge and skills you have now... since we are always growing we can forgive ourselves some mistakes... some mistakes are more costly as you are no doubt aware... if we keep our heart and aim true to care for ourselves as much as others, we can help ourselves best...

heres hoping you feel, live and learn in the way that gives peace to your inner you... he matters too...

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((((((((((((((( Dec ))))))))))))))))

[Justgiving]

You are writing a letter to explain yourself so that's ok. The doctor should understand.

[Hcab_Tep]

Psychotherapists expect lies...she/he is there to help in a non-judgmental way. If you tell her/him you lied, she'll ask why, and that will be a healthy though difficult thing. I lied to me psychoanalysts for months because I was embarassed, but once I came clean, everything started to move a bit more smoothly. Any therapist worth their salt can easily deal with lies...it is part of the process. Just try to get it out and things, in the long run (and even in the short run) will start going better. I promise.

Peter