does anyone

does anyone feel useless...like you try hard and you don't know what you want.you're just waiting for something to hit you and then you'll have meaning and purpose in life. I feel like I don't have any meaning. My bf is the one who looks out for me and makes me feel whole. He makes me feel safe and loves me for me...will I ever excape the pain...In some ways I wish life did not have rules..I wish we didn't have to live our lives accorindg to what we are expected to do...I want freedom to do what I wish and when I wish...I hate being controlled...

((((((((((( myoasis ))))))))))))))))
I feel useless sometimes too. You are not useless. I am also struggling with what I am expected to do versus what I want to do.

I think we all feel this way sometimes. I know I do. I don't have the magic answer as to how to get rid of this feeling though. I wish I had the answer but I can offer you gentle hugs though (((U))).

Jan

I have to agree, we all do feel this way at some points.

Just know that you ARE worth it; You are a great person.
You are also not alone

myo, it sounds like you like being an individual instead of just following the pack. i think that's a great way to be (!!!)... as long as our actions don't harm others. so be yourself and don't worry about it cause that's a positive trait you have.
now the other part about your bf making you feel whole...be loving to yourself and try to learn to love your very own self as he does you. i believe that will help you feel complete as a person. it's a great feeling to love one's self even with our own failings. i belive it empowers us and gives us self confidence. we are all worthy just by being who we are cause we are unique.

Myo, you say you are being controlled and then you say that you feel like you have no meaning. I think this is all related. What gives our lives meaning is when we are in control of ourselves. I have certain, very defined interests that I am very passionate about. If I didn't follow my own path and denied these interests and let someone else steer my boat my life would have much less meaning. We are all unique individuals and only we know what we want out of life and no one else can really make these decisions for us. So, what is holding you back from taking control over your own life?

Maybe if you felt whole within yourself, you'd find your meaning. What I mean is, a boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife should definitely "add to" us, but not be there to make us whole.

You are a whole person all by yourself, with value and meaning.

And stop worrying about what it "expected" of you. You only have to answer to you, and no one else. Do what makes you happy, and everything else will follow.

I think we all feel useless sometimes, but this is the depression talking. Even tho' we feel this way, we're not.
Try setting small goals and you'll see for yourself that you're not after completing them.

-Darius