[dreamland]

. . .to get the same kind of support as others here when we are hurting so bad yet we get the feeling we don't deserve it here or people don't care (besides a few) our posts seem to just sit and we are screaming for support. well I guess we'll give up soon because it's really embarrassing to have our posts just die away. maybe people want us to do the same. if we sound mad we are because we are on the verge of dissapearring completely.

[complic8d]

(((((dreamland)))))
You've got my support. I often find myself not responding because I don't know how to. I've read your posts, I know you are hurting, and I care. Please take care of yourself and know that others here care too, they just might not respond for their own various reasons.
Please don't disappear.

[peaches100]

(((((Dreamland)))))

I care about you too, and i'm sorry you're in so much pain right now. I'm usually on a different board and only check this one now and then. But I'll look for your posts. Please don't feel alone!

[Fox]

(((((((Dreamland)))))))) sometimes I feel that way too. I think everyone does. But believe me when I say that I'm here for you and sometimes I feel guilty because words don't come to me so I don't reply to every thread when there's so many times I feel like nobody cares. But people do care. The reality of it is that you have a support group in us all here. There's always going to be people who do match what you're feeling but it's not everyone by any means. I care about you. DocJohn cares about all of us and he created this place so we're not alone with our feelings. You're safe here <3333

[JudeeB]

{{{{{{{{Dreamland}}}}}}}



I don't come here very often but I care about everyone who is hurting. My thoughts are with you today~
Judy

[DLHsSystm]

I read so many posts on here then I sit and stare at the responses trying to think of something insightful or helpful to add. Usually I come to the conclusion I have nothing to offer that someone hasn't already said better than I so I don't post anything.

Today I thought, what would I want if I posted? The answer is just validation, just kind words. So dreamland, I care, I feel lonely and scared lots and I try to be brave. I tried very hard to be brave - we all did. I think I am needy too but as I go through the healing process with my t and my 12 step sponsor I am feeling a little less needy more often. Today I am exactly as needy as I am supposed to be. I hope this helps.

[Fuzzybear]

((((((((((((( dreamland )))))))))))))))

[Eriksplus]

Originally Posted by dreamland

. . .to get the same kind of support as others here when we are hurting so bad yet we get the feeling we don't deserve it here or people don't care (besides a few) our posts seem to just sit and we are screaming for support. well I guess we'll give up soon because it's really embarrassing to have our posts just die away. maybe people want us to do the same. if we sound mad we are because we are on the verge of dissapearring completely.

We feel the same way!
Just hang in there, as we have done...we are here for you!
(Kay)Erik

(((Dreamland)))

We feel like that sometimes too. It hurts. You aren't "needy"...you're human. We all need somebody sometimes...
we want to say sorry for not responding to you.

[wanttoheal]

(((((((((((((Dreamland)))))))))))) I'm really sorry that I upset you. I'm not doing very well right now and I shouldn't have posted. I was also in a hurry. The combination seems to have made my post come across in a bad way and that was not my intent at all. I was trying to find a positive and show that people do post and do care as they can.

I have removed the posts to make it easier for you. Again, I am really sorry that I upset you and I wish you well in your journey. Please take gentle care.

[dreamland]

Originally Posted by wanttoheal

(((((((((((((Dreamland)))))))))))) I'm really sorry that I upset you. I'm not doing very well right now and I shouldn't have posted. I was also in a hurry. The combination seems to have made my post come across in a bad way and that was not my intent at all. I was trying to find a positive and show that people do post and do care as they can.

I have removed the posts to make it easier for you. Again, I am really sorry that I upset you and I wish you well in your journey. Please take gentle care.

I'm sorry too, and I'm really not upset with you at all. I feel like a total jerk and that I, too spoke out of anger and hurt in my original post. I have found wonderful support here and i feel so selfish right now and ashamed of myself. I think that since we have been feeling a lot of self-loathing lately, it is easy to think that everyone else feels the same way.
struggling through with you and caring as well.
-dream

[wanttoheal]

I have felt the same for sure. Hang in there and I will do the same. One day it will get easier and we will thrive.

[dreamland]

Originally Posted by wanttoheal

I have felt the same for sure. Hang in there and I will do the same. One day it will get easier and we will thrive.

hanging in there with you

Originally Posted by dreamland

I'm sorry too, and I'm really not upset with you at all. I feel like a total jerk and that I, too spoke out of anger and hurt in my original post. I have found wonderful support here and i feel so selfish right now and ashamed of myself. I think that since we have been feeling a lot of self-loathing lately, it is easy to think that everyone else feels the same way.
struggling through with you and caring as well.
-dream

Please don't feel like a total jerk. Any one of us would say and wonder the same thing. We all need others even if having others ,scares us.

[iamtwilight]

dreamland, i'm sorry you feel that way. i wish you didn't feel that way, cause i feel the same way sometimes and it hurts. it just keeps repeating the same message we've been taught when we were tiny, and i'd rather not deal with it anymore.

but sometimes our minds just automatically go to that pattern of thinking, and it takes a bit of convincing to get out of it, or to begin the path of thinking otherwise.

hope this makes sense, my point was that you've got a lot of evidence here that what you feel is quite common, so there is no need in thinking you are a jerk or selfish. to be honest, i think you were really brave voicing your feelings.


twilight

[WePow]

((((((((((( )))))))))))))))))
I was hoping to see you in chat but missed you so far. Have been.