Just a heads up

Don't know if this is the place to post this in order for it to do any good but this seems to be the only place that makes sense.
I am disassociating a lot now and not sure why. I can see where parts are posting on PC and saying things I wouldn't. I know being dissociative is NOT an excuse for rude behavior and I am trying to pull things back together. Not having much luck.
anyway, if "I" say something out of line please just ignore "me" for a while. I don't know what this is or how long it will last. I just hope it is not what the future holds as other parts grow stronger.

I know at least one part that is coming out. She has a lot of anger and for good reason. She just doesn't have a lot of skill at properly channeling and/or directing that anger. I also know why she is more angry now and it is justified anger. But... the person she is angry with is a person we are dependent on even if the relationship is harmful. hmmm... sound familiar.

Anyway, know that I am OK if I am not around for a while... I may take a break from PC until I can get things back in order, not sure. There are other parts who could really use PC right now but they are really shy. If I say something out of character please don't take it personally.

T really wants me to stick with PC too. She is so excited that I have some kind of outlet other than her and peer support and friends. Grrrr this is complicated!



See massage T tuesday, T the week after next and Pdoc should be soon too. Maybe they can help.

(((((((( Omers )))))))))

All of you need to be able to post and let go of stuff and that's really ok. It is helpful to look back through posts and see what others are posting and yes, that can feel very disconcerting but I feel it is the path to healing as we learn more about ourselves.

We understand.

{{{{ Omers }}}}} so far you are OK with me~~ i hope the angry one finds some way to let go,, and find Peace~~ best wishes,,, Gus

Thanks. I try to be gentle but the one part and I come from such different places even though I know we are all me. And I know she is out more because she is angry and rightfully so...
T doesn't work with parts ("Too messy") and I know deep down massage T would still care but it feels like such a risk when massage T is so gentle, loving and humble and this part is anything but those.
The one IRL person who "knows" her is proving to not be safe... really not safe. But we aren't ready to look at that yet. T wants us to but its hard when what happened includes different parts and she doesn't seem to want to go there. Would go to T if she would let ALL of us share our sides so she could get a complete picture... but she won't. Tried massage T but she gets really mad. Some of us know that is good she gets mad, it means she cares. Others get upset or frightened when she gets mad though and then she doesn't hear their part of the story.

((((((((((( Omers )))))))))))

I'm sorry that you and some others are struggling right now. Are you able to communicate with the one that is angry? Can you let them know that even though they have a right to be angry, that there are still posting guidelines that need to be adhered to? It's not that we don't want any of your alters to post, it's just that everyone's systems have to go by the guidelines just as you do hon.

If you can gently let your system know that if they want to post here, they are all very welcome! But just like in real life, there are boundaries that must be respected. We will always respect your system, whether angry, sad, hurt, happy, playful, whatever they are feeling. We just ask for the same respect back

If you want, I'm more than willing to pm with anyone in your system to help them understand if you think it might help. I want you and everyone in your system to get the support you all deserve

Much respect,
sabby

Thanks Sabby. Right now I am trying really hard to manage it myself. My T keeps talking about how I am always putting things off on others (outside of me) so I am trying really hard not to. I must admit though that I have no clue what she is trying to get me to stop doing.
I guess I just wanted people to know that I have become aware of the issue and am working on it. I do respect the rules and boundaries here and trust the mods to keep things safe for everyone.
This part is just problematic and being encouraged by someone IRL for less than stellar reasons. Trying to break that tie too but it really messes with the system.

I completely understand what you are saying Omers.....no worries. Take good care hon!

(((((Omers))))))
We've got your back,
keep writing and get that stuff out of you,

great post btw,
Hang in there,
Crew