[cryingoutloud1]

Therapist wants me to get to know other parts . How do i do that? She said there are others inside that could help me but i am not having any luck with it. I also tried writting a note on a sheet of paper in hopes for a response but i haven't gotten one. Does anyone have any suggesstions?

Originally Posted by cryingoutloud1

Therapist wants me to get to know other parts . How do i do that? She said there are others inside that could help me but i am not having any luck with it. I also tried writting a note on a sheet of paper in hopes for a response but i haven't gotten one. Does anyone have any suggesstions?

For me it took time, and a lot of acceptance. Like I had to stop thinking I was crazy. Or that they made me crazy. I had to understand that they served purposes. And you really have to understand that, not just say it. Prospective therapists will say something to the effect of "Has the DID effected your life a lot? Like being in psych wards and stuff? " and I always look at them so strangely. I always answer with "My DID saved me. Do I particularly like harming myself at times? No. Do I like the turmoil inside my head. No. But it's all in response to the trauma that occurred. So I think the real question is. Has the traumatic things in my childhood effected my life a lot. In which case I would answer. Yes. My response to the situation (DID) saved my life. I will take every negative it entails, because the positives far outweigh them.

I love my parts. Each and every one of them. And so in return, they trust me with who they are.

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by cryingoutloud1

Therapist wants me to get to know other parts . How do i do that? She said there are others inside that could help me but i am not having any luck with it. I also tried writting a note on a sheet of paper in hopes for a response but i haven't gotten one. Does anyone have any suggesstions?

for me it didnt take anything special to get to know the alters. they were taking over control when ever how ever they were based on what their own jobs purposes, reasons for being was. they had been doing this all my life since the very first traumatic event that caused my separation/dissociative events.

so for me all it took was understanding what was triggering me to dissociate. once I knew why I was dissociating that showed me who my alters were, why they were there and, what their jobs, purposes reasons for being was..

example

one day I noticed I was feeling my dissociative symptoms because of a sad event. the next thing I know, I became aware standing with a sibling calling me "Rainy" So now I knew who "Rainy" was. she was my alter that handled sadness and sad events where I needed to cry. Thats what her job, purpose reason for being was. thats who she was.

one day I was extremely happy and felt my dissociative symptoms. the next thing I knew as I became aware was someone calling me "Sunny" thats when I knew "sunny" was my alter that handled being very happy and happy events. Thats what her job, purpose, reason for being was, thats who she was.

One day at work I was very stressed out and felt my dissociative symptoms, I became aware of a co worker asking me how I do it, I calmly do my job but let an abuser walk in the door trying to intimidate me and my client and I turn into a bear protecting her territory and family.. Thats when I knew who "bear" was and why she was there.. her job purpose, reason for being was to protect me and take on my stressful times where I felt in danger.

People get to know their alters in many different ways. this is because everyone's internal system of alters is different and set up for how ever, what ever they needed to survive.

For some people like me nothing special is needed doing, the alters have been coming out all their life so the alters end up revieling their self just by what makes them take over control and when they take over control.

for some people it takes journaling

for some people it takes working with their treatment providers.

for some people it takes artwork

for some people it takes other kinds of things like inpatient / hospitalization, medication, and a whole lot of therapy techniques..

there is no one way to get to know ones alters, and what works for one person may not work for another..

what ever way that will work for you will happen when its supposed to happen. just keep working with your therapist and they will help point the way that is right for you and your treatment plans.

[WePow]

We actually first started communicating by using auto handwriting.
We are technically right handed (actually was left handed born but taught right), so we would hold a crayon or marker in the left hand and started asking who was there. I would feel it inside me like emotions. Sometimes the marker just made marks or would get mad and such. But after a while, I was able to start talking to the alters that way. That opened the door.

[keepingalice]

Originally Posted by cryingoutloud1

Therapist wants me to get to know other parts . How do i do that? She said there are others inside that could help me but i am not having any luck with it. I also tried writting a note on a sheet of paper in hopes for a response but i haven't gotten one. Does anyone have any suggesstions?

I am not sure I have DID, because no one ever said I did but after working with a therapist since 2008, sometime in journaling, I realized a girl named Rachael, after being raped, developed and has kept me from having to face certain things day to day. So journaling and thinking (and talking to my therapist) started showing me just how complicated I have become by the things that have happened to me and what I have witnessed. There is a little girl with no name, who wants to remain anonymous, as well as a newer girl who developed, who tried to surpass all this commotion but has not been able to be courageous enough to get rid of any of the others. Very complicated... Sometimes I do wish I could go back before 2008, before all this came to light, but then I wouldn't heal.

[such is life...]

Originally Posted by cryingoutloud1

Therapist wants me to get to know other parts . How do i do that? She said there are others inside that could help me but i am not having any luck with it. I also tried writting a note on a sheet of paper in hopes for a response but i haven't gotten one. Does anyone have any suggesstions?

Be patient.... keep asking nicley,maybe start out by asking ( if you have heard a parts voice in your head) "what is your name? My name is so-in so-, How old are you? When they are ready and they trust YOU ( yea thats hard to wrap your mind around ...but your alters have to trust YOU....) they will talk, or come out in the toy isle, or gardening isle or sing to a favorate song.....believe me they want to be heard, listened to and understood...they are there for a reason....and they are there for you...to help you, they may hold a memory,maybe they have a spesific function...like driving going to work for you,be patient maybe some are shy....glad you felt like you could come here to ask questions...feel free to pm me or if you need to talk I am here ...take care and have a lovely day.....Life hugs if your okay with them.

[such is life...]

Originally Posted by WePow

We actually first started communicating by using auto handwriting.
We are technically right handed (actually was left handed born but taught right), so we would hold a crayon or marker in the left hand and started asking who was there. I would feel it inside me like emotions. Sometimes the marker just made marks or would get mad and such. But after a while, I was able to start talking to the alters that way. That opened the door.

We have done the same thing WEPow...it worked for us.

[Claritytoo]

I have been trying to talk to the girls, they are very young around three, but they still don't want to talk. They have moved closer to me with in the past three months. They used to be in a corner in the dark and cold. I asked them to come close to me to be warm and safe and they did but they still don't want to talk with me about anything specific. They think I am not ready. How do I become ready? Nobody will say.