[cryingoutloud1]

I did the home work my thearpist had me do. She wanted other parts to count how many parts there are and what ages they were . So i sat and wrote down the numbers next to the names i had listed and added the ages. she asked how i got the ages and names i said it came into my head. She said good you can hear them again. Wouldn't that mean i just thought it up?? because that is what it seemed like. I tried to explain it to her and she said No they talked to you? How does she know this? She is happy that i am getting angry about my childhood and life. Plus i have been using facebook to contact with family. they all seem happy and are going to my aunts for the holiday. Not one ever invited me to a holiday. I spent one xmas and thanksgiving with that family in my hole life. All of this is making me very upset and angry. why is it that i got that hand that was dealt? what i do?i mean i was not even born right i was premature and have verntrical issue in my brain etc. the people that come to this house(it is not mine) tells me to get a job and get off of ssi because there is nothing wrong with me. My family tells me the same thing. One person that comes here (the person that owns the house and lives in the house wiht me) nephew said that I am milking the system. I feel bad enough about quieting my job that i had several months ago. i want to leave here but I don't have enough money. I am so stuck i see no light and i don't want to take it anylonger.

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by cryingoutloud1

I did the home work my thearpist had me do. She wanted other parts to count how many parts there are and what ages they were . So i sat and wrote down the numbers next to the names i had listed and added the ages. she asked how i got the ages and names i said it came into my head. She said good you can hear them again. Wouldn't that mean i just thought it up?? because that is what it seemed like. I tried to explain it to her and she said No they talked to you? How does she know this? She is happy that i am getting angry about my childhood and life. Plus i have been using facebook to contact with family. they all seem happy and are going to my aunts for the holiday. Not one ever invited me to a holiday. I spent one xmas and thanksgiving with that family in my hole life. All of this is making me very upset and angry. why is it that i got that hand that was dealt? what i do?i mean i was not even born right i was premature and have verntrical issue in my brain etc. the people that come to this house(it is not mine) tells me to get a job and get off of ssi because there is nothing wrong with me. My family tells me the same thing. One person that comes here (the person that owns the house and lives in the house wiht me) nephew said that I am milking the system. I feel bad enough about quieting my job that i had several months ago. i want to leave here but I don't have enough money. I am so stuck i see no light and i don't want to take it anylonger.

Originally Posted by cryingoutloud1

she asked how i got the ages and names i said it came into my head. She said good you can hear them again. Wouldn't that mean i just thought it up?(

for some people yes it does mean they are making them up, and only you know whether you are pretending /making this up or not, on this website we are not allowed to question the validity of other members existence of disorders and symptoms like whether they have alters or not...

for some people being able to have what happened with you in this assignment, it means they have co consciousness.

co consciousness is being able to hear your alters, being able to know what is happening when the alters are in control, being able to know the alters thoughts, being able to communicate with the alters..

for most if not all people with alters is a really good thing to have co consciousness, it really helps speed the healing process up, and helps the process along in general with things like getting everyone to work together as a team instead of off doing their own thing all the time.

Originally Posted by cryingoutloud1

I tried to explain it to her and she said No they talked to you? How does she know this?(

I cant speak for your therapist because only she knows why she posed the question back to you in the way in which she did, but here where I live and work in NY, USA therapists are not all knowing, and cant read a persons mind, but they can read a persons tone, body language and words.

when a therapist poses a questions like this back to the client it is a way for the therapist to remain neutral, not put words in the clients mouth and have the client answer whether or not the alters are talking to them, or any other controversial topic its called mirroring here where I live and work and is a therapy tool that helps clients understand where they are conflicted, confused, unsure of things.

for example when my thoughts are not clear or my words are saying one thing but my body language is showing the opposite, my therapist will "mirror" what I have said to her, what she heard me say with my words and body language.

me - no they are not talking to me its like this...

my therapist...noticing the confusion in my tone of voice, my posture and facial expression, is not matching what I am saying changes her position to show how I am sitting, and using the same facial expression I am using and says back to me in the same tone of voice I am using...

no they are not talking to you?

me ..Im not sure, I dont think they are, I mean they are in my head how can something in my head "talk" to me?

therapist.. qood question you tell me, what does it sound like when you got this answer for the assignment? what did it feel like when you got this answer for the assignment? How did you know the answer to the assigned question?

then I was able to take each question one at a time and explain to her about my alters..

there is no one way to be co conscious with an alter, so just take it one step at a time and the words to describe how things are between you and the alters will come and your therapist will understand.

as for the why this and everything else has happened to you, why you have been dealt the hand you got, only you can answer those questions..

suggestion maybe these would be great topics for discussion in your therapy sessions. your therapist can help you look into the family dynamics and help you to understand what lead up to you being the way you are and the life you have at the moment. your therapist can also help you make changes to the things about you and your life that you would like to be differently than they are.

[cryingoutloud1]

I know what mirrorring is im a social worker. and that is not waht she ment. she was saying No they weren't they where talking to you.How does she know that. PLus she is telling me her other clients stories and today she sent me an email to worn me of a virus but also attached my email address to her family and a bunch of others. The reason i know it is her family is because she has told me her brother and daughters name.
I am having a lot of anger /irritablity meaness issues. I am hurting people emtionally . i get so angery i shake and belittle people . The person i live with got mad because she said i make her feel crazy all the time. We have K cup and i filled it with water by taking the plastic out and porring by the counter with water instead of taking the jug and putting water in it. she had a it because i did it that way. thats not the way to do it she said. she also said that i had to put water in the hot chocolate but the water was in the spout part so the water would go in the cup . I couldn't figure out what she was talking about her nephew and i were trying to explain it to her and figure it out. she got so mad she went into her room and said "why are you making me feel crazy". I told him i don't want to go out to eat tomorrow for Thanksgiving because i can't i need time to be alone. he said she wont go with out you . I said ididn't want to go. and that im afraid well end up fighting. he said okay i will go to my mom's . I also sat there and be littled him he said he had sex with a girl that i know which turns out to be his second cousin 2x removed. he also thinks that it is okay for men to have sex with there stepdaughter if they are of age. i was so upset i was pi*sed and shaking. he left and i left the woman i live with a note saying peter doesn't want to go out to eat. She is going to blame it on me. I have never felt like this before . i have a list of symptoms for my doc when i see her and that includes the angry. i stopped taking the cymbalta gradually on my own. im also thinking about telling my doc. about my therapist and see what she says. I run like crazy to try to cope with my anger im up too 9 miles. but it only helps when i am running and sometimes for a few afterwards.

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by cryingoutloud1

I know what mirrorring is im a social worker. and that is not waht she ment. she was saying No they weren't they where talking to you.How does she know that. PLus she is telling me her other clients stories and today she sent me an email to worn me of a virus but also attached my email address to her family and a bunch of others. The reason i know it is her family is because she has told me her brother and daughters name.
I am having a lot of anger /irritablity meaness issues. I am hurting people emtionally . i get so angery i shake and belittle people . The person i live with got mad because she said i make her feel crazy all the time. We have K cup and i filled it with water by taking the plastic out and porring by the counter with water instead of taking the jug and putting water in it. she had a it because i did it that way. thats not the way to do it she said. she also said that i had to put water in the hot chocolate but the water was in the spout part so the water would go in the cup . I couldn't figure out what she was talking about her nephew and i were trying to explain it to her and figure it out. she got so mad she went into her room and said "why are you making me feel crazy". I told him i don't want to go out to eat tomorrow for Thanksgiving because i can't i need time to be alone. he said she wont go with out you . I said ididn't want to go. and that im afraid well end up fighting. he said okay i will go to my mom's . I also sat there and be littled him he said he had sex with a girl that i know which turns out to be his second cousin 2x removed. he also thinks that it is okay for men to have sex with there stepdaughter if they are of age. i was so upset i was pi*sed and shaking. he left and i left the woman i live with a note saying peter doesn't want to go out to eat. She is going to blame it on me. I have never felt like this before . i have a list of symptoms for my doc when i see her and that includes the angry. i stopped taking the cymbalta gradually on my own. im also thinking about telling my doc. about my therapist and see what she says. I run like crazy to try to cope with my anger im up too 9 miles. but it only helps when i am running and sometimes for a few afterwards.

yes it is legal for a step parent and their step daughter to have sex if the daughter is over 18 here in the USA.

its only illegal if the step daughter is ****under****18.

some states in the USA have their own age of consent but the national laws that are for the whole USA say the step daughter has to be at least 18 yrs old to legally be able to consent to having sex with their step parent.

As for everything that your therapist is doing you will need to discuss those issues with your therapist. let her know you are not comfortable with her emailing and placing your email address with her relatives....

here where I live and work in NY USA email accounts have an "Autofill" feature built in to the email account or the computer the person is using to send out emails.

example this laptop I am using has it, every time I come here to psych central and click on the log in box the computer automatically fills in the log in information box with the log in name I am using., the same with my email accounts. when I send an email I click on the box of who the email is gonig to and my computer automatically fills in the address of everyone on my friends and family list. I have to go back through each of those emails that the computer already put in the addresses and delete those I dont want the email to to. I did no realize for a long time my laptop had this setting and imagine my embarrassment when my mother received some bolder off color slightly pornographic jokes meant for my wife. my mother called me and asked why did you send me ****that****? I told my wife about it and she laughed and apologized she has set the laptop settings to activate the "autofill" when she sents out on email to lots of people. saves time instead of having to type in each individual email address of 30-40 people. now that I know "autofill" is activated I go through and make sure to take out the addresses of those I dont want to receive the email Im sending..

my point is maybe your therapist is on a computer that has the "autofill" feature activated and does not know it, so shes accidentally sending her work and clients emails and addresses that she does not intend to. my suggestion give her a chance to explain what happened so she can fix the situation.

as for the rest of your email only you can fix the problem between your friends or not. only you can decide whether you want to be around people that accuse you of making them feel crazy or not. one suggestion this may be a great topic for your therapy sessions if it continues to bother you. your therapist is in your own location and knows you so they would be the one best in helping you to stay around these people or move forwards away from people who cause you problems and stress.