[Jennifer1084]

There is something I've been wondering lately. Can our inner parts also have happy memories? I know they hold trauma memories but is it possible that they also hold happy things as well? This is just a question I've been asking, have any of you also thought of this? What do you think about it?

[splitimage]

I think that the inside parts can definitely have happy memories. I know that 2 of my little girls (the ones in my head) definitely had happy things that I as an adult didn't remember until I got in touch with them.

memories are separated according to the fve senses and emotions and happy is an emotion so yea you can have a memory piece that is the memory content of happyness for example I have a memory piece that iis the memory of swinging on a swing and teeter tottering and blowing bubbles and that piece of memory matched with the fact that I had been abused while playing on playground equipment. The happy swinging on the swing set got stored separately then the feeling of being touched, and separately from the smell of the dirt, and my abuser and separate from the sound of my abusers voice.

Basically for each whole abuse memory it is broken down according to the five senses into separate memory pieces of -

the tastes of the situation,
the sounds heard and made during the situation,
the smells smelled during the situation,
the sights the person saw during the situation,
how the person was touched or what the person was made to touch,
and each of the emotions felt during that situation also is separated into separate memory pieces.

Each one of these separated pieces of memories contains the heart rate and breathing rate the person experienced when experiencing that specific sound, taste, touch, smell, sight and emotion. And the person acts out the same behaviors and memory content when the person is triggered into the memories being replayed automatically.

It is because of the way the brain separated memories according to the five senses and emotions that a typical DID can have over well over 200 memory pieces being replayed when a person gets triggered, be it happy, sad, excited, you name it.

Sounds complicated? Wait until you get to the fun (being sarcastic its not really fun) part - trying to match the separate pieces of one memory back to form one whole memory again of this sound goes with this taste and this sight and this smell and this touch and this emotion. During the co consciousness and integration process other wise known as the memory recall process or remembering repressed memories.

[Jennifer1084]

Thank you myself. That was very helpful in helping me understand how it's possible to have happy memories. I guess the reason I was asking was because I was on my way from out of town and we drove were going to drive by where my grandmother was buried and all of a sudden I found myself crying, this happened about 3 times before we actually got there. But the thing is I have no memory of my grandmother because I have no memory before the age of 12 or so. So I was just wondering if one of them had some happy memories of my grandmother. So thanks again for your response!

Jennifer

You are welcome. I wouldn't be surprised if there is some good memories. I had some good memories of one of my abusers but could not remember them until after I had remembered the abuse situation that went along with those happy memory.

if your grandmother was one of your abusers and if at any point during or right before an abuse situation you felt happy then because of that abuse situation the happy memory would have gotten stored separately into your unconscious level of thinking.

[nothemama8]

absolutley happy memories have helped us cope with triggered times, as long as someone can help us get grounded

[LILITH]

My younger alters do have good memories.... they often make me laugh.....
take care.....

yes I do think they do, I mean, baby certainly has favorite books and things that she enjoys (saved from my childhood) so I guess that would mean she has happy memories too?

Mandie

[hillbunnyb]

......guess it's ALL in here somewhere........

[Rhapsody]

YES..... my alters had good memories.... they held what I had forgotten, both good and bad.


LoVe,
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