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#1
Mar 24, 2013, 02:37 AM
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So one of my alters Anna switches with me frequently when I am with or talking to my BF. At first I thought this was because she likes him. But now I am wondering if it is to protect me from him.
As this evening I went to call him and was nervous because I had to politely confront him about something. And right now I am VERY scared of men in general. (That might be coming from the other alter?) Anyway partway through the conversation Anna popped out. BF and I can be talking about anything... and Anna will come. BF and I are having communication issues and I am trying to figure out if he is belittleing me. Is it possible for an alter to protect you from a person??? And what do I do? I mean my own BF!!! I want to work through things!! Not just drop him!
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Mar 24, 2013, 02:50 AM
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I think so yes. One of mine will often go and scope out a situation ahead of time. Either by observing the surroundings/atmosphere quietly or interacting with people in a way to find out if they are kind or not. She has a disarming way about her. Also have a guide who helps all of us work through how to say something or how to think/feel about something, what to do. she is very helpful if we'd just listen more! lol
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Mar 24, 2013, 03:08 AM
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LOL! Yeah. I am still new to this as an adult. I am sure all worked well when i was a kid...I am just conflicted. I don't know if my BF is really bad for me or if Anna is coming out because he is a man. Uuughh. Wish i could get into Anna's head.
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Mar 24, 2013, 03:39 AM
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That would be hard to tell. Maybe you could write down some questions for your T to ask Anna when they talk like why she comes out when your bf is around. Does she feel comfortable around bf etc. or anyone else she might connect with. This way you can maybe find out how to keep Anna and yourself safe when she is out with anyone who might not understand.
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Mar 24, 2013, 01:20 PM
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Yeah that is a great idea. I was planning on doing that. I have been journaling too. That makes NE feel better. I keep forgetting to leave crayons and paper out though!
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MONARCH BUTTERFLY Just like the butterfly, I too will awaken in my own time. ~Deborah Chaskin
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#6
Mar 24, 2013, 01:49 PM
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the short and simple version is that dissociation is a normal response to anything that triggers someone....a trigger is anything that causes a person to feel emotions..most times people refer to triggers as a negative thing..like abuse, strong emotions, depression, anxiety and others but triggers can be anything...I know someone who was triggered by the fact that they were healing/getting better... Since dissociation is a normal reaction to triggers, that means switching into alters is a trigger reaction..when a person is feeling/experiencing things they are not able to handle they dissociate and their alters that take care of that trigger comes out to do their job, purpose, reason for being... example if going to parties triggers someone they dissociate and the alter who's job/purpose/reason for being is handling going to parties comes out to do that for the person in which they life in.. if the person the alters are in is unable to handle crying then during times when the person they live in dissociates because they feel like crying but knows they are not supposed to, the alter that handles crying comes out and does that for them... Anna coming out with your BF means ....you got triggered by something, dissociated.....and anna came out to do what ever you could not do for your self. find out why you got triggered, why you dissociated and you will have your answer to why anna took over and what you need to do to fix it so that you dont dissociate/ switch into anna again with your BF. my suggestion talk with your treatment providers they can help you discover why you dissociated with your BF and why anna had to do what you could not handle doing. |
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Mar 24, 2013, 05:44 PM
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I also believe its possible; one of my relatives has an alter that tries to protect her (relative) against me!
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Apr 02, 2013, 09:05 AM
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Apr 04, 2013, 10:57 AM
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Yes, they can. Early in our relationship, I had quite a confrontational relationship with my husband's alter Jonathan. He didn't want me to hurt Jon like the ex-wife did. We fought a lot in the beginning. Over time he came to understand that I was not the ex-wife, and that I was on their side, that i wanted to help. Now we're good friends. Sometimes when Jon is getting mad at me about something, Jonathan will come out to help clear it all up. But he was very protective in the beginning and wouldn't put up with anything that looked vaguely like unhealthy behavior from me.
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