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Old Aug 25, 2008, 02:02 AM
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k, I've missed here, I feel normaler here, safe and understood, phew I never want to wait so long again without reading your posts. Some of the 200 i've missed were so cool, So, I'm mostly caught up and well things have been so hard.
My husband said, he didn't mean the way I take things. I was hurt and he said, he didn't mean it that way. grrr, I can't hardly understand normal everyday talk, I don't know what to do about this. He might be right, It's not his fault his face changes to evil, so I guess right there he's lost most of the battle, I don't know. But now he thinks he's figured out what might help me not go of on a rampage of anger, I know this will sound funny but I'm really asking cause he said, well ask if you all think this might work, cause I said a plain NO.
So he thinks he will atatch a Zapper thingie to me, OMG i can't believe I'm saying thiss, k so he can give a ( not mean zap) gentle buzz or what ever if I start to switch, or did, i guess. He said, he has to find something I respone to cause I make him look very bad in front of the kids if I'm not the ME he loves, Which he right, The angry me is mean- protective9of the children) at all costs-and scary and dosn't think shes married to him and would like to leave. My H never hurts the kids by any physical means, yells tho, AAnd he says I have anger issues, OOP's i'm blabing, anyways, really truely I said to H i would ask, he thinks he's on to something.

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Old Aug 25, 2008, 05:00 AM
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Shadow,

I understand the problems, but the use of a zapper is WAY INAPPROPRIATE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

He must find a way to let you know you are switching that doesn't operate like a torture device or inhuman zapper. NO WAY!!!

He must wave a flag or some kind of signal that you can agree upon and you must tell your alters about - but there can be no misunderstanding or it will backfire and make things worse.

He needs to talk to you T and see if they can help you guys make some cooperation between you for everyone's sake.

SORRY, THIS WHOLE IDEA JUST WIGGS ME OUT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Leslie------>concerned for Shadow HI all Again :), but I'm armed with ?'s :( HI all Again :), but I'm armed with ?'s :( HI all Again :), but I'm armed with ?'s :( HI all Again :), but I'm armed with ?'s :(
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Old Aug 25, 2008, 11:17 AM
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What does he mean by a "zapper"? What kind of "zapper"? Is it something that everyone understands, but I do not?
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Old Aug 25, 2008, 02:30 PM
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Perhaps you can tell husband that you would like to try it on him first. So, when he doesn't listen or pay attention or act in a way that you feel is appropriate, you can zap him. My opinion is that husband is an @ss.
HI all Again :), but I'm armed with ?'s :( HI all Again :), but I'm armed with ?'s :( HI all Again :), but I'm armed with ?'s :(
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Old Aug 25, 2008, 02:37 PM
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Better yet, let the angry part of you hold the zapper and zap him when they feel it's appropriate. HI all Again :), but I'm armed with ?'s :(
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Old Aug 25, 2008, 02:37 PM
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HI all Again :), but I'm armed with ?'s :( HI all Again :), but I'm armed with ?'s :( HI all Again :), but I'm armed with ?'s :( HI all Again :), but I'm armed with ?'s :( HI all Again :), but I'm armed with ?'s :(

biting my lip here .... ((((((((((((shadow)))))))))))))))

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Old Aug 25, 2008, 03:04 PM
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___Shadow___ said:So he thinks he will atatch a Zapper thingie to me, OMG i can't believe I'm saying thiss, k so he can give a ( not mean zap) gentle buzz or what ever if I start to switch,

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Hell NO!!!!
Just like those electroshock training collars they use on dogs? You are NOT an animal!!! I would NEVER "zap" my BF because he was switching! I wouldn't "zap" him for anything.

Nope. No, no, no, no, no.

I like the idea of putting the zappy-thing on HIM and letting Angry You use it for a while. Bet he changes his mind then!
Just because you make him "look bad"?
I'm sorry your H is being such an *****. He may be a great guy other times, but this is just acting like an *****. Stuff like this makes me mad...I used to date a guy who would just tie me to the couch when I was raging or suicidal. He said he was trying to help but it was still mean.

OK, maybe some sort of signal could be helpful, but not anything that physically harms you. Something you could hear might work because then you wouldn't have to be looking at him (like for flags or other visual stuff). Maybe like a whistle?
On one level I can understand what he's thinking - maybe it would help if you could get clued in to the switching? But I'm pretty sure there are less traumatic ways to make that happen!!
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Old Aug 25, 2008, 05:01 PM
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Gosh, this is like using a hammer to swat a fly....very inappropriate and harmful too I might add on so many levels! I won't even go into how I really feel about it.....oi vey.

If you need a clue as to when you are switching....come up with a special code word.....one that is gentle or funny. Make up a word that only you and your H will understand...your own little language. See how that works for you HI all Again :), but I'm armed with ?'s :(

Please take good care (((((((((((((( Shadow )))))))))))))))).

HI all Again :), but I'm armed with ?'s :(
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Old Aug 25, 2008, 09:56 PM
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ZAP HIM !!!!!!!

What we would like to say about this is unprintable HI all Again :), but I'm armed with ?'s :( HI all Again :), but I'm armed with ?'s :( HI all Again :), but I'm armed with ?'s :( HI all Again :), but I'm armed with ?'s :(

That kind of training doesn't even work on DOGS HI all Again :), but I'm armed with ?'s :( HI all Again :), but I'm armed with ?'s :(

edited to say, time for a divorce, ggggggggggggrrrrrrrrrrrr
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Old Aug 26, 2008, 04:09 AM
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I really liked Sabby's idea. Some kind of CODE WORDS. Something with good, safe meanings attached.

I tried not to over-react last night to this suggestion of your spouse.

BUT, it really upset me because it reminds me of the programming stuff the cult did to me to make me do what they wanted. EVEN if his motives were better than theirs were - this is STILL WRONG!!!!!!!!!

Code Words YES, Electric Shock NO< NO< NO< NO< NO< NO

Leslie HI all Again :), but I'm armed with ?'s :( HI all Again :), but I'm armed with ?'s :( HI all Again :), but I'm armed with ?'s :( HI all Again :), but I'm armed with ?'s :( HI all Again :), but I'm armed with ?'s :( HI all Again :), but I'm armed with ?'s :( HI all Again :), but I'm armed with ?'s :( HI all Again :), but I'm armed with ?'s :( HI all Again :), but I'm armed with ?'s :( HI all Again :), but I'm armed with ?'s :( HI all Again :), but I'm armed with ?'s :( HI all Again :), but I'm armed with ?'s :( HI all Again :), but I'm armed with ?'s :(
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Old Aug 26, 2008, 02:06 PM
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U don't need to use a zapper. I've got family in law enforcement and I hear all the time that people get seriously hurt or they die. I mean what if zapping u with it doesn't work and he puts it on a higher volt? He could kill u. Please tell your husband that they are other ways besides this. My husband is finding ways that can help. HI all Again :), but I'm armed with ?'s :(
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Old Aug 27, 2008, 05:55 PM
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Hi, sorry computer problems, I got you all with hair rising, oop's . But I know, My hair on my back went up too.
First I didn't mean a tase type zap - i meant a gentle buzz or something, but still, creepy!
I do responed to running water, or brushing my teeth, so my h can't really do that-words don't seem to work.
I don't know what to do...
BUT THX FOR THE SUPPORT!
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